Life in Relationship
Heidi and David Goehmann
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Frustration with Chris Kennedy
Life in Relationship
12/12/23 • 27 min
Special guest Chris Kennedy, Pastor and Author
Chris’s book, Grace Under Pressure - https://amzn.to/3FBrdU2 (associate link)
Proactive v reactive approach
Proactive = investing in taking care of ourselves, our emotions, our whole selves to be able to live in the moment more authentically as ourselves and in what we value/believe
Reactive = awareness of emotion when it comes up
Tip 1 - Attend to and nurture
The environment
Relationships
Internal needs
Growth mindset – realist outlook + everything is redeemable
Tip 2 – Hold the tension of love with your frustration or anger
Tip 3 – Remember “more than they deserve”
Tip 4 – Non-judgment – grace and truth with the understanding that God is judge, not me
Tip 5 – Notice other people
Tip 6 – values and faith as driver, emotion as information to process
Shame
Tip 7 – careful of pouring yourself out to the last drop, we are human
The impact of shame and guilt on our internal processing of anger
“Holding It Lightly” from dialectical behavior therapy
The purpose of frustration and anger
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Ministry Talks – Top Ten Reasons to Take a Vacation
Life in Relationship
08/01/18 • 33 min
Ministry Talks 6 – Top Ten Reasons to Take a Vacation
Two massive things in the way of vacation – time and money
Creativity is often a must, but here are 10 reasons why vacations can’t go by the wayside in ministry life...
Ecclesiastes 3:9-14
1 – Rest
Conversations about what rest is Biblically
Run Hard, Rest Well
Sleep – Ted Talk, Why do we Sleep? https://www.ted.com/talks/russell_fos...
2 – Recharge
Inspiration fatigue
What gives you energy? What recharges you?
3 – Reflect
processing the past year, month, days
Give your brain “whiteboard space”
Dangerous Calling, Paul David Tripp – pg. 55
https://www.amazon.com/Dangerous-Call...
4 – Teach Others
Your family, Your congregation, Your community
What is rest?
Permission to rest
Prioritizing family
Stewardship of time
5 – Consider the next pastor/teacher/leader
unrealistic expectations passed on
Where am I allowing Gospel space in this church/ministry?
6 – Identify symptoms of burnout
Physical – headaches, digestive issues, blood pressure, teeth grinding, fatigue
Emotional – joy fatigue, frayed nerves
Relational - little to no friendships, marriage stress
Caregiver/compassion fatigue
Thom Rainer on burnout –
http://thomrainer.com/2013/09/seven-r...
http://thomrainer.com/2013/05/twelve-...
7 – Define Emergency
media impact on our brains
time to access and identify accurately level of drama and our connection to it
Who am I and Who is God? Is He calling me to this right now, in this moment?
8 – Date night and dating your family
take the babysitter opportunity when visiting family
marriage and family hear their value
vocation of helpers to one another
9 - Creative burst
Opportunity for boredom and ideas
Ted Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/manoush_zom...
What ideas have you gotten on vacation?
10 – Ministry somewhere else
go to a new church
minister to the staff at the hotel, restaurant, wherever
visit a ministry friend
start small – one day at a hotel or somewhere overnight
Always Growing: Grouchiness in Marriage
Life in Relationship
06/16/20 • 12 min
Questions:
What makes you grouchy? Especially in marriage, keeping a household, and family life?
How does the law motivate in marriage, or does it?
How does the gospel motivate more fully or better in marriage?
What does the gospel look like when you’d like to see a change in your marriage?
Wellness exercise:
Identify one change you’d like to see in your marriage. Consider what the Law would communicate about that problem and what the Gospel communicates about that problem. Where might you start with a Gospel oriented solution?
YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/t1xItqqh1dE
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Ministry Talks: Friendship and Ministry
Life in Relationship
04/04/19 • 40 min
ILMS 20 – Ministry Talks: Friendship and Ministry
1 Samuel 14:1-7 - Jonathan and his armor bearer
Step One of Friendship: Prayer
Step Two: Admitting friendship isn’t easy
Friendship will continue to be a challenge as long as we walk the earth
God = relational, Genesis 2:25
Satan likes isolation
dual relationships
Ministry and friendship are both personal
Step Three: Vulnerability = walking into a situation exposed
no hiding
Boundaries with flexibility
How do we drop the armor satan would put on us and pick up God’s armor so we can walk vulnerably into relationships?
1) Do the inviting
2) Know there will be hurt and pain
3) Two things that grow relationships – awkwardness and forgiveness
4) Addressing expectations directly, having uncomfortable conversations
5) Finding a script
Step Four: Mindfulness = awareness, bringing what is unconscious to consciousness
consider the dynamics at play
6 things to be particularly mindful of for friendship in ministry
1) confidence and confidentiality
2) Misunderstandings and assumptions
3) Differences
4) Baggage
5) Power dynamics in ministry
Address these honestly and upfront
6) Confusion of spirituality
Resources: Uninvited by Lysa Terkheurst
SWF seeking BFF by Rachel Bertsche
Focus on the Family article about friendship for teens - https://www.focusonthefamily.com/pare...
Articles on friendship:
The Four Myths of Friendship https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...
Bring me a Friend, Lord! https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...
Tending Friendship https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...
Dessert Night https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...
Moving and friendship – addressed further in episode 15
Ten Minutes of Compassion
Life in Relationship
05/02/19 • 12 min
IMLS 23 - Ten Minutes of Compassion
Ten Minute Truth #1 - Compassion assumes some discomfort
Ten Minute Truth #2 - Compassion includes the "and" of truth and mercy
What about discipline and truth?
Psalm 119:77 -Let your mercy come to me, that I may live; for your law is my delight.
Ten Minute Truth #3 - compassion includes a “but”
Nehemiah 9:16-19a
Ten Minute Truth #4 – love them anyway
We are going to need it ourselves
Mark 6
Matthew 9
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Life in Relationship
Life in Relationship
08/20/19 • 1 min
Name change time!
I Love My Shepherd -----> Life in Relationship
What's coming at you this season?
Where do I get the resources?
First episode drops September 10th.
In the meantime, visit me at heidigoehmann.com
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The Truth about Mental Health: Teens and Emotions
Life in Relationship
11/15/18 • 21 min
ILMS 8 - The Truth about Mental Health: Emotions
+ YA: Tremble
Psalm 46:3
Internal and external turmoil
HCSB – “though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with its turmoil.”
What in the world feels chaotic, or adds to the turmoil of life?
Goal: We want our emotions to inform us, rather than lead us.
How do you like to let your emotions out, rather than roiling inside?
6 common spectrums of emotion:
1 – Warmth and acceptance
Inverse = loneliness and rejection
How does acceptance feel?
How is warmth and acceptance associated with happiness for us?
Romans 14:1-3
2 – Irritable, Frustrated, and Angry
Ephesians 4:26
1 Corinthians 13:5
Getting into the Word to change our mood
Asknig self: What’s in this? Why am I (fill in the blank)?
Finding someplace to put it
Psalm 37:8-9
3 – Discouragement, Sadness, and Depression
Inverse: Joy, Zeal, Engagement
Understanding and differences
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
How do you engage in life?
4 – Fear, Anxiety, and Worry
Fear and Creation
Anxiety – internal, biochemical, inner turmoil, broad
Worry – thought process related to something specific
What are you afraid of most?
What makes you anxious?
What worries do you have?
5 – Confusion or the Fog
The teenage brain, details, and early mornings
Sleeping and eating matter
Jeremiah 29:11
6 – Helplessness
When we feel like we have very little control
Mood swings – the struggle is real
Exodus 3:14
What is the most encouraging part of Who God is for you in the middle of the trembling?
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Ten Minutes of Laughter
Life in Relationship
04/21/20 • 12 min
Question of the day: Is God too serious?
God has a sense of humor, which is one of the reasons we have a sense of humor.
Why do we have a hard time seeing God as playful?
Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, “The LORD has done great things for them.” Psalm 126:2
Psalm 126
God’s promise of salvation includes our mourning turning to laughter.
Laughter is good for our physical and mental health.
Ecclesiastes 3:4: “A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”
- There is a time for everything, including laughter
- We are created by God to have a sense of humor
- it’s good for our physical and mental health
He who sits in the heavens laughs Psalm 2:4
Psalm 2
This is not yin/yang. There is no equal power. God laughs at our attempts to live our own way. It’s better to live his way.
Question of the day: Is God too serious?
God has a sense of humor, which is one of the reasons we have a sense of humor.
Why do we have a hard time seeing God as playful?
Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, “The LORD has done great things for them.” Psalm 126:2
Psalm 126
God’s promise of salvation includes our mourning turning to laughter.
Laughter is good for our physical and mental health.
Ecclesiastes 3:4: “A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”
- There is a time for everything, including laughter
- We are created by God to have a sense of humor
- it’s good for our physical and mental health
He who sits in the heavens laughs Psalm 2:4
Psalm 2
- This is not yin/yang. There is no equal power. God laughs at our attempts to live our own way. It’s better to live his way.
How can you say yes to God and yes to laughter today?
Always Growing: The Marriage Sandwich
Life in Relationship
06/02/20 • 12 min
What might your marriage sandwich check-ins look like?
What rituals of connection do you already have?
How does your stage of life impact your ability to connect and check in with one another?
How do you ease the transitions in your days?
Wellness exercise:
Consider times you have connected well and other times you have not connected well. Acknowledge both to one another and ask God to forgive the hurts and praise Him for the successes.
YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/w02kj_wai0s
Reference: gottman.com
Ministry Talks – Freedom in Ministry
Life in Relationship
08/01/18 • 26 min
Ministry Talks 4 – Freedom in Ministry
Foundations for Freedom in this life:
Galatians 5:1
John 10:10
Roadblocks to Freedom in Ministry Life
Status v. Weakness
Forgetting the Sinner/Saint duality
Expectations
Our Worth
“God’s Will”
What expectations have you felt the weight of in ministry?
What expectations have you put on yourself?
What expectations have you felt from other people?
Which roadblock to freedom have you struggled with or have you seen people struggle with in ministry?
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FAQ
How many episodes does Life in Relationship have?
Life in Relationship currently has 100 episodes available.
What topics does Life in Relationship cover?
The podcast is about Christian, Hope, Relationships, Marriage, Podcasts, Mentalhealth, Friendship, Family, Mental Health, Dating, Society & Culture and Health & Fitness.
What is the most popular episode on Life in Relationship?
The episode title 'Frustration with Chris Kennedy' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Life in Relationship?
The average episode length on Life in Relationship is 22 minutes.
How often are episodes of Life in Relationship released?
Episodes of Life in Relationship are typically released every 7 days, 1 hour.
When was the first episode of Life in Relationship?
The first episode of Life in Relationship was released on Aug 1, 2018.
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