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Life in Relationship

Life in Relationship

Heidi and David Goehmann

Writer, licensed clinical social worker, and theologian, Heidi Goehmann, produces resources that advocate for mental health and genuine relationships. She loves her family, post it notes, Jesus, adventure, Star Wars, Star Trek, and new ideas...not necessarily in that order.

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Goodpods has curated a list of the 10 best Life in Relationship episodes, ranked by the number of listens and likes each episode have garnered from our listeners. If you are listening to Life in Relationship for the first time, there's no better place to start than with one of these standout episodes. If you are a fan of the show, vote for your favorite Life in Relationship episode by adding your comments to the episode page.

Life in Relationship - Frustration with Chris Kennedy

Frustration with Chris Kennedy

Life in Relationship

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12/12/23 • 27 min

Special guest Chris Kennedy, Pastor and Author

Chris’s book, Grace Under Pressure - https://amzn.to/3FBrdU2 (associate link)

Proactive v reactive approach

Proactive = investing in taking care of ourselves, our emotions, our whole selves to be able to live in the moment more authentically as ourselves and in what we value/believe

Reactive = awareness of emotion when it comes up

Tip 1 - Attend to and nurture

The environment

Relationships

Internal needs

Growth mindset – realist outlook + everything is redeemable

Tip 2 – Hold the tension of love with your frustration or anger

Tip 3 – Remember “more than they deserve”

Tip 4 – Non-judgment – grace and truth with the understanding that God is judge, not me

Tip 5 – Notice other people

Tip 6 – values and faith as driver, emotion as information to process

Shame

Tip 7 – careful of pouring yourself out to the last drop, we are human

The impact of shame and guilt on our internal processing of anger

“Holding It Lightly” from dialectical behavior therapy

The purpose of frustration and anger

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Life in Relationship - Ministry Talks – Top Ten Reasons to Take a Vacation
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08/01/18 • 33 min

Ministry Talks 6 – Top Ten Reasons to Take a Vacation

Two massive things in the way of vacation – time and money

Creativity is often a must, but here are 10 reasons why vacations can’t go by the wayside in ministry life...

Ecclesiastes 3:9-14

1 – Rest

Conversations about what rest is Biblically

Run Hard, Rest Well

https://runhardrestwell.com/

Sleep – Ted Talk, Why do we Sleep? https://www.ted.com/talks/russell_fos...

2 – Recharge

Inspiration fatigue

What gives you energy? What recharges you?

3 – Reflect

processing the past year, month, days

Give your brain “whiteboard space”

Dangerous Calling, Paul David Tripp – pg. 55

https://www.amazon.com/Dangerous-Call...

4 – Teach Others

Your family, Your congregation, Your community

What is rest?

Permission to rest

Prioritizing family

Stewardship of time

5 – Consider the next pastor/teacher/leader

unrealistic expectations passed on

Where am I allowing Gospel space in this church/ministry?

6 – Identify symptoms of burnout

Physical – headaches, digestive issues, blood pressure, teeth grinding, fatigue

Emotional – joy fatigue, frayed nerves

Relational - little to no friendships, marriage stress

Caregiver/compassion fatigue

Thom Rainer on burnout –

http://thomrainer.com/2013/09/seven-r...

http://thomrainer.com/2013/05/twelve-...

7 – Define Emergency

media impact on our brains

time to access and identify accurately level of drama and our connection to it

Who am I and Who is God? Is He calling me to this right now, in this moment?

8 – Date night and dating your family

take the babysitter opportunity when visiting family

marriage and family hear their value

vocation of helpers to one another

9 - Creative burst

Opportunity for boredom and ideas

Ted Talk - https://www.ted.com/talks/manoush_zom...

What ideas have you gotten on vacation?

10 – Ministry somewhere else

go to a new church

minister to the staff at the hotel, restaurant, wherever

visit a ministry friend

start small – one day at a hotel or somewhere overnight

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Life in Relationship - Always Growing: Grouchiness in Marriage
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06/16/20 • 12 min

Grouchiness in Marriage

Questions:

What makes you grouchy? Especially in marriage, keeping a household, and family life?

How does the law motivate in marriage, or does it?

How does the gospel motivate more fully or better in marriage?

What does the gospel look like when you’d like to see a change in your marriage?

Wellness exercise:

Identify one change you’d like to see in your marriage. Consider what the Law would communicate about that problem and what the Gospel communicates about that problem. Where might you start with a Gospel oriented solution?

YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/t1xItqqh1dE

Find Always Growing videos:

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLCryz1QG5wDu1HWaapevYFOIUiwXEm1IC

Find more marriage and relationship resources at: https://heidigoehmann.com/relationships Follow us on social media:

https://www.facebook.com/heidigoehmanwrites

https://www.instagram.com/heidigoehmann/

https://twitter.com/HeidiGoehmann

Hit subscribe to get the marriage conversations in your podcast or youtube feed.

Download the Talk Sheets under "Resources on Marriage" at https://heidigoehmann.com/relationships

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Life in Relationship - Ministry Talks: Friendship and Ministry
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04/04/19 • 40 min

ILMS 20 – Ministry Talks: Friendship and Ministry

1 Samuel 14:1-7 - Jonathan and his armor bearer

Step One of Friendship: Prayer

Step Two: Admitting friendship isn’t easy

Friendship will continue to be a challenge as long as we walk the earth

God = relational, Genesis 2:25

Satan likes isolation

dual relationships

Ministry and friendship are both personal

Step Three: Vulnerability = walking into a situation exposed

no hiding

Boundaries with flexibility

How do we drop the armor satan would put on us and pick up God’s armor so we can walk vulnerably into relationships?

1) Do the inviting

2) Know there will be hurt and pain

3) Two things that grow relationships – awkwardness and forgiveness

4) Addressing expectations directly, having uncomfortable conversations

5) Finding a script

Step Four: Mindfulness = awareness, bringing what is unconscious to consciousness

consider the dynamics at play

6 things to be particularly mindful of for friendship in ministry

1) confidence and confidentiality

2) Misunderstandings and assumptions

3) Differences

4) Baggage

5) Power dynamics in ministry

Address these honestly and upfront

6) Confusion of spirituality

Resources: Uninvited by Lysa Terkheurst

SWF seeking BFF by Rachel Bertsche

Focus on the Family article about friendship for teens - https://www.focusonthefamily.com/pare...

Articles on friendship:

The Four Myths of Friendship https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...

Bring me a Friend, Lord! https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...

Tending Friendship https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...

Dessert Night https://ilovemyshepherd.com/ilovemysh...

Moving and friendship – addressed further in episode 15

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Life in Relationship - Ten Minutes of Compassion

Ten Minutes of Compassion

Life in Relationship

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05/02/19 • 12 min

IMLS 23 - Ten Minutes of Compassion

Ten Minute Truth #1 - Compassion assumes some discomfort

Ten Minute Truth #2 - Compassion includes the "and" of truth and mercy

What about discipline and truth?

Psalm 119:77 -Let your mercy come to me, that I may live; for your law is my delight.

Ten Minute Truth #3 - compassion includes a “but”

Nehemiah 9:16-19a

Ten Minute Truth #4 – love them anyway

We are going to need it ourselves

Mark 6

Matthew 9

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Facebook - @ilovemyshepherd

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ESV Bible translation - Copyright © 2001 by Crossway, a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers. All rights reserved.

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Life in Relationship - Life in Relationship

Life in Relationship

Life in Relationship

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08/20/19 • 1 min

Name change time!

I Love My Shepherd -----> Life in Relationship

What's coming at you this season?

Where do I get the resources?

First episode drops September 10th.

In the meantime, visit me at heidigoehmann.com

YouTube @heidigoehmannwrites

Facebook @heidigoehmannwrites

Instagram @heidigoehmann

Snapchat @heidiadventures

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Life in Relationship - The Truth about Mental Health: Teens and Emotions
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11/15/18 • 21 min

ILMS 8 - The Truth about Mental Health: Emotions

+ YA: Tremble

Psalm 46:3

Internal and external turmoil

HCSB – “though its waters roar and foam and the mountains quake with its turmoil.”

What in the world feels chaotic, or adds to the turmoil of life?

Goal: We want our emotions to inform us, rather than lead us.

How do you like to let your emotions out, rather than roiling inside?

6 common spectrums of emotion:

1 – Warmth and acceptance

Inverse = loneliness and rejection

How does acceptance feel?

How is warmth and acceptance associated with happiness for us?

Romans 14:1-3

2 – Irritable, Frustrated, and Angry

Ephesians 4:26

1 Corinthians 13:5

Getting into the Word to change our mood

Asknig self: What’s in this? Why am I (fill in the blank)?

Finding someplace to put it

Psalm 37:8-9

3 – Discouragement, Sadness, and Depression

Inverse: Joy, Zeal, Engagement

Understanding and differences

2 Corinthians 1:3-4

How do you engage in life?

4 – Fear, Anxiety, and Worry

Fear and Creation

Anxiety – internal, biochemical, inner turmoil, broad

Worry – thought process related to something specific

What are you afraid of most?

What makes you anxious?

What worries do you have?

5 – Confusion or the Fog

The teenage brain, details, and early mornings

Sleeping and eating matter

Jeremiah 29:11

6 – Helplessness

When we feel like we have very little control

Mood swings – the struggle is real

Exodus 3:14

What is the most encouraging part of Who God is for you in the middle of the trembling?

Find the downloadable group talk sheet here: https://drive.google.com/open?id=1mg_p1f_MsOULAaQsXtVvPb_X8wBh7tuG

ilovemyshepherd.com

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCd0fe9BbadMkIZwWx-esd-g

Facebook - @ilovemyshepherd

Twitter - @ilovemyshepherd

Instagram - @ilovemyshepherdcommunity

ESV Bible translation - Copyright © 2001 by Crossway,

a publishing ministry of Good News Publishers.

All rights reserved.

Scripture quotations marked HCSB®, are taken from the Holman Christian Standard Bible®, Copyright © 1999, 2000, 2002, 2003, 2009 by Holman Bible Publishers. Used by permission. HCSB® is a federally registered trademark of Holman Bible Publishers.

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Life in Relationship - Ten Minutes of Laughter

Ten Minutes of Laughter

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04/21/20 • 12 min

Question of the day: Is God too serious?

God has a sense of humor, which is one of the reasons we have a sense of humor.

Why do we have a hard time seeing God as playful?

Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, “The LORD has done great things for them.” Psalm 126:2

Psalm 126

God’s promise of salvation includes our mourning turning to laughter.

Laughter is good for our physical and mental health.

Ecclesiastes 3:4: “A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”

  • There is a time for everything, including laughter
  • We are created by God to have a sense of humor
  • it’s good for our physical and mental health

He who sits in the heavens laughs Psalm 2:4

Psalm 2

This is not yin/yang. There is no equal power. God laughs at our attempts to live our own way. It’s better to live his way.

Question of the day: Is God too serious?

God has a sense of humor, which is one of the reasons we have a sense of humor.

Why do we have a hard time seeing God as playful?

Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, “The LORD has done great things for them.” Psalm 126:2

Psalm 126

God’s promise of salvation includes our mourning turning to laughter.

Laughter is good for our physical and mental health.

Ecclesiastes 3:4: “A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.”

  • There is a time for everything, including laughter
  • We are created by God to have a sense of humor
  • it’s good for our physical and mental health

He who sits in the heavens laughs Psalm 2:4

Psalm 2

  • This is not yin/yang. There is no equal power. God laughs at our attempts to live our own way. It’s better to live his way.

How can you say yes to God and yes to laughter today?

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Life in Relationship - Always Growing: The Marriage Sandwich
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06/02/20 • 12 min

The Marriage Sandwich

What might your marriage sandwich check-ins look like?

What rituals of connection do you already have?

How does your stage of life impact your ability to connect and check in with one another?

How do you ease the transitions in your days?

Wellness exercise:

Consider times you have connected well and other times you have not connected well. Acknowledge both to one another and ask God to forgive the hurts and praise Him for the successes.

YouTube video link: https://youtu.be/w02kj_wai0s

Reference: gottman.com

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Life in Relationship - Ministry Talks – Freedom in Ministry
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08/01/18 • 26 min

Ministry Talks 4 – Freedom in Ministry

Foundations for Freedom in this life:

Galatians 5:1

John 10:10

Roadblocks to Freedom in Ministry Life

Status v. Weakness

Forgetting the Sinner/Saint duality

Expectations

Our Worth

“God’s Will”

What expectations have you felt the weight of in ministry?

What expectations have you put on yourself?

What expectations have you felt from other people?

Which roadblock to freedom have you struggled with or have you seen people struggle with in ministry?

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FAQ

How many episodes does Life in Relationship have?

Life in Relationship currently has 100 episodes available.

What topics does Life in Relationship cover?

The podcast is about Christian, Hope, Relationships, Marriage, Podcasts, Mentalhealth, Friendship, Family, Mental Health, Dating, Society & Culture and Health & Fitness.

What is the most popular episode on Life in Relationship?

The episode title 'Frustration with Chris Kennedy' is the most popular.

What is the average episode length on Life in Relationship?

The average episode length on Life in Relationship is 22 minutes.

How often are episodes of Life in Relationship released?

Episodes of Life in Relationship are typically released every 7 days, 1 hour.

When was the first episode of Life in Relationship?

The first episode of Life in Relationship was released on Aug 1, 2018.

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