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Life Check Yourself - With Luke Iorio: If You Really Want to Gain Control of Your Dating Life, Learn How to Be the Master of Your Energy

With Luke Iorio: If You Really Want to Gain Control of Your Dating Life, Learn How to Be the Master of Your Energy

08/21/20 • 41 min

Life Check Yourself

In preparation for the Ignite Your Life Conference, Marni welcomes President and CEO of iPEC Coaching, Luke Iorio, back into the Den. Luke shares the a-ha moments that changed his life and shifted his mindset, how we can get out of our head to tap into greater consciousness and align with our inner knowing, and why this is the best time to invest in ourselves.  

 

Key takeaways from this episode: 

  • How to look at your dating life objectively
  • Feel good about your approach to life
  • Why now is the right time to invest in yourself
  • Access your inner knowing

 

Igniting Your Life [2:25]

 Luke went on an inward journey about why he was out of alignment with who he truly was. It made him who it was today. As a child, his father was a devout studier of personal development. Luke had access to books about finding out who he was.   

“I spent a lot of time trying to manipulate and control my relationships in an effort to keep myself safe.”  

Luke says if you resonate with living a flat experience and you want to get in touch with your aliveness, your spark then you need to wake up, express, and get in alignment with your inner knowing. 

When you start to look at yourself objectively and you will get in touch with your intuition and know when you are caught up in your old story or the drama of situations.  

There is power in shifting how you look at life. 

 

How Objectivity Affects Your Dating Life [17:26]

 It can be tough to start a relationship with someone else. New feelings, thoughts, and emotions come to the forefront of your mind. If you find yourself ruminating on the possible reasons he didn’t call, or what a guy meant by what he said, you may be too narrowly focused. Be aware that those triggers are messages from your unconscious that can help you better understand yourself. It's your past programming. Luke says the more you recognize the roots of your thought process you can decide what version of yourself you want to show to other people. 

 

Give yourself the opportunity to get out of your head and be more natural and genuine. 

After this inner work, regardless of the situation you find yourself in you will know you are making decisions that resonate with who you really are. The more self-aware you are, you have more peace and you stay centered and grounded. 

 

The Time is Right, Now [32:11]

During these uncertain times, people are reassessing their values and pinpointing what is important to them. Many are wondering why they didn’t enrich their lives more often and what they can do to make significant changes. Marni asks Luke why right now is a good time to invest in the future and attend the Ignite Your Life Conference. 

Luke says now is an important time to be devoted to personal development and to turn down influences that distract us or don't benefit us. A person’s development journey should start from within the flow of their usual lives. This way we build stronger roots and start making decisions from a place of inner knowing. 

 

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In preparation for the Ignite Your Life Conference, Marni welcomes President and CEO of iPEC Coaching, Luke Iorio, back into the Den. Luke shares the a-ha moments that changed his life and shifted his mindset, how we can get out of our head to tap into greater consciousness and align with our inner knowing, and why this is the best time to invest in ourselves.  

 

Key takeaways from this episode: 

  • How to look at your dating life objectively
  • Feel good about your approach to life
  • Why now is the right time to invest in yourself
  • Access your inner knowing

 

Igniting Your Life [2:25]

 Luke went on an inward journey about why he was out of alignment with who he truly was. It made him who it was today. As a child, his father was a devout studier of personal development. Luke had access to books about finding out who he was.   

“I spent a lot of time trying to manipulate and control my relationships in an effort to keep myself safe.”  

Luke says if you resonate with living a flat experience and you want to get in touch with your aliveness, your spark then you need to wake up, express, and get in alignment with your inner knowing. 

When you start to look at yourself objectively and you will get in touch with your intuition and know when you are caught up in your old story or the drama of situations.  

There is power in shifting how you look at life. 

 

How Objectivity Affects Your Dating Life [17:26]

 It can be tough to start a relationship with someone else. New feelings, thoughts, and emotions come to the forefront of your mind. If you find yourself ruminating on the possible reasons he didn’t call, or what a guy meant by what he said, you may be too narrowly focused. Be aware that those triggers are messages from your unconscious that can help you better understand yourself. It's your past programming. Luke says the more you recognize the roots of your thought process you can decide what version of yourself you want to show to other people. 

 

Give yourself the opportunity to get out of your head and be more natural and genuine. 

After this inner work, regardless of the situation you find yourself in you will know you are making decisions that resonate with who you really are. The more self-aware you are, you have more peace and you stay centered and grounded. 

 

The Time is Right, Now [32:11]

During these uncertain times, people are reassessing their values and pinpointing what is important to them. Many are wondering why they didn’t enrich their lives more often and what they can do to make significant changes. Marni asks Luke why right now is a good time to invest in the future and attend the Ignite Your Life Conference. 

Luke says now is an important time to be devoted to personal development and to turn down influences that distract us or don't benefit us. A person’s development journey should start from within the flow of their usual lives. This way we build stronger roots and start making decisions from a place of inner knowing. 

 

Make a Connection:

Visit Our Website

Join Our Dating Den Facebook Community Here!

Learn how to attract your perfect equal...watch our latest training here!

Interested in working with us? Book a Breakthrough session at DWDVIP

Previous Episode

undefined - With Marie: Is Your Dating Dread Keeping You Stuck and Single?

With Marie: Is Your Dating Dread Keeping You Stuck and Single?

To celebrate Ignite Your Life (IYL) month, Marni welcomes former IYL attendee and Dating With Dignity client, Marie into the Den. Marie shares why this experience was significant for her, why women should prioritize this aspect of their lives, and how her dating life changed after attending the event. 

Key takeaways from this episode: 

  • How to shift limiting beliefs
  • Embracing vulnerability
  • Investing time into what you value
  • Why being needy isn’t a bad thing
  • How you can Ignite Your Life

 

You Have to Start Somewhere [2:18]

Marie was floored when her eldest niece got engaged. She had been excelling in all other parts of her life except dating. It was the kick she needed to make her take action. She says she happened upon one of Marni’s early videos and it eventually changed her life. 

 

At first, she didn’t want to be one of the women who needed to attend the Ignite Your Life event. She felt like a loser in love. Yet, when she arrived she noticed everyone there looked like her, a sharp, successful, and single woman.  

 

The community I met at Ignite Your Life made me realize I was not an outcast and I was not alone. 

 

Shifting Your Narrative [15:14]

 Marie experienced an awakening during the 3-day investment that was well worth the time. The lessons were efficient and effective. From the style consultant, she realized she had been hiding her feminine side under her business casual clothes. From the belief exercise, she learned what long-held beliefs were holding her back. 

 

She realized, in dating, it is not about whether men liked her. It was a monumental shift when it registered that dating was to find out if I liked them.                         

You deserve to be happy. 

 

A Powerful Journey [23:50]

Marie continues to learn that the only way to deepen her connections is for her to be vulnerable. She still reminds herself to ask for what she needs without worrying about a guy’s reaction. She used to categorize it as needy, now she knows it is just information. Needy used to be labeled as bad but really it is just being human. 

 

Asking for what you need from your heart space is like a roadmap for your partner.

 

Marie says she met some lifelong friends at the Ignite Your Life event and it was worth the time and monetary investment. 

 

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undefined - With Stephanie Dawn: Stop Making Up Stories That are Preventing You From Dating Successfully

With Stephanie Dawn: Stop Making Up Stories That are Preventing You From Dating Successfully

Are you ready to release your magic? In this episode of the Dating Den, Marni welcomes Intuitive Transformational Coach Stephanie Dawn to discuss how-to awaken, embody, and amplify the magic you already have inside of you. Stephanie is on a soul mission to change the idea that magic is something outside of ourselves.

 

Key takeaways from this episode: 

  • How-to tap into your intuition
  • Ways to fully surrender into vulnerability
  • Honoring what is true for you
  • The importance of rebuilding trust with yourself

 

Discover Your Inner Magic [1:49]

Many of us seek magic in other people, a job, or something outside of us. It’s as if we expect something external to ignite the fire within us. But, what if we focused on listening to our inner magic, our intuition that tells us when we are on the right path?

Before her breakthrough, Stephanie says she was the type of woman who was always in a relationship. Her self-worth was based on what other people thought it was. But, 2 years ago, she realized her life wasn’t what it was supposed to be. She was working toward checking off all the boxes. She was engaged, she was working to create a successful business but something was off. 

My intuition was trying to tell me that something wasn’t right. 

“We've been conditioned to think and feel the same way. It’s deep programming about what supposedly will bring women fulfillment” she says. To fully bring forth our inner magic we need to ask the deep questions of ourselves similar to the questions we ask of others. 

How much do I trust myself?  

Am I doing something that will make me whole? 

 

The Ascension Path [9:32] 

The ascension path is getting in touch with your magic. It is stepping into who you are and who you truly are. Uncovering your soul path and purpose can carry some weight and seem daunting, but just getting in touch with your magic and stepping into who you are is attainable. 

During the 2020 pandemic is a good time to look at your life and be honest with yourself. Ask yourself, what you need, and what has changed for you. What beliefs don’t feel right for you anymore? 

Stephanie reminds us that the big struggle is when we try to look at what everyone else is doing. If you have never actually listened to what is going on in your head, or your intuition, it can be hard to honor it. But, resisting it is harder over the long term. 

It’s important to follow through with what comes through when tapping into our intuition and use the energy we feel. 

 

Communicating Your Magic [25:14]

Don't minimize your reactions or feelings. It's important to talk about it. If something affects you positively or negatively show it and discuss it with your partner. It’s not healthy to be the cool girl. 

Know that what you have to say is worth hearing. If you are in a relationship the other person wants to know. Any conversation that tells your partner what you need is a good conversation.  

Being specific really helps a guy. Remember ladies, there is no manual. 

It all comes down to you and your magic. You wouldn't just set magic on a shelf, you would nurture it and show it off. 

Love is the most magic thing but it can only be magic if you recognize your magic in it. 

 

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