Kelly Wright on Grieving the Motherhood Journey We Didn’t Have
02/27/24 • 59 min
Hi mamas. In this episode of Life After Birth, I am joined by Kelly Wright who has recently joined me at Life After Birth in a therapist capacity. Kelly is a mother and therapist trained in social work, attachment theory, nutrition, internal family systems, polyvagal work, and I’m so happy to have her on the team.
In this raw and vulnerable conversation, Kelly shares some of the challenges she has experienced in her mothering journey, and the disparity between what she expected to come with motherhood and the reality of her lived experience. We talk about the dark and messy places she has traversed to find her strength and inner knowing as a mother, and the anger and grief that comes with raising a child who experiences the world in more challenging ways. We also touch on the often-complex decision of whether or not to expand your family.
Other parts of our conversation include:
- Kelly’s experience of anxiety, OCD and eating disorders during in her twenties, and how this affected her perception of her resilience and capacity to be a mother.
- Kelly’s initial fear about being a mother and how this shifted over time.
- The power in shifting your perspective to view what you might have seen as your weaknesses and vulnerabilities, to viewing them as signs of your resilience and strength.
- The need for mothers to be held, and the importance of seeking help when things are hard; that things don’t need to be extreme to seek help, and that this support can come in many forms, such as therapy and women’s circles.
And sooooooo much more. I hope you get as much comfort from this conversation as I did from having it.
*If you are an Australian resident and are looking for some support as you mother, Kelly has availability to support you now. You can find out more about her and book in a session here: https://www.lifeafterbirth.com.au/kelly
Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources:
*** Waitlist for The Rebirth, Group Coaching for Mamas ***This is my signature 3 months online group coaching container for mothers which covers family of origin, inner child work, nervous system basics, anger, boundaries and much more.
Free Values Aligned Living Workbook
Looking for support for anger while you mother? To access my Why Am I So Angry Workshop click HERE
Hi mamas. In this episode of Life After Birth, I am joined by Kelly Wright who has recently joined me at Life After Birth in a therapist capacity. Kelly is a mother and therapist trained in social work, attachment theory, nutrition, internal family systems, polyvagal work, and I’m so happy to have her on the team.
In this raw and vulnerable conversation, Kelly shares some of the challenges she has experienced in her mothering journey, and the disparity between what she expected to come with motherhood and the reality of her lived experience. We talk about the dark and messy places she has traversed to find her strength and inner knowing as a mother, and the anger and grief that comes with raising a child who experiences the world in more challenging ways. We also touch on the often-complex decision of whether or not to expand your family.
Other parts of our conversation include:
- Kelly’s experience of anxiety, OCD and eating disorders during in her twenties, and how this affected her perception of her resilience and capacity to be a mother.
- Kelly’s initial fear about being a mother and how this shifted over time.
- The power in shifting your perspective to view what you might have seen as your weaknesses and vulnerabilities, to viewing them as signs of your resilience and strength.
- The need for mothers to be held, and the importance of seeking help when things are hard; that things don’t need to be extreme to seek help, and that this support can come in many forms, such as therapy and women’s circles.
And sooooooo much more. I hope you get as much comfort from this conversation as I did from having it.
*If you are an Australian resident and are looking for some support as you mother, Kelly has availability to support you now. You can find out more about her and book in a session here: https://www.lifeafterbirth.com.au/kelly
Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources:
*** Waitlist for The Rebirth, Group Coaching for Mamas ***This is my signature 3 months online group coaching container for mothers which covers family of origin, inner child work, nervous system basics, anger, boundaries and much more.
Free Values Aligned Living Workbook
Looking for support for anger while you mother? To access my Why Am I So Angry Workshop click HERE
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Zoe Blaskey on Self-Compassion and Backing Yourself in Motherhood
Hi mamas. Join me for this beautiful conversation with Zoe Blaskey, mum of two and the woman behind the Motherkind Podcast. Zoe invited me to be a guest on her podcast a few months ago, and so I was excited to return the invite and have her come on Life After Birth to share more of her story and insights with you all.
In this conversation, Zoe shares with me about her own upbringing, and reflects on the ‘credits’ and ‘debits’ of her childhood and the role they played in her life and the forming of her core patterns. We discuss her transition into mothering, and explore what Zoe calls her perfectionist tendencies and her inner critic during her early years of mothering. Zoe talks about the importance and power of self-compassion, re-parenting yourself, and nurturing a kinder inner voice, for your own wellbeing but also to pass this on as a ‘credit’ to our own children.
We also discuss:
The story behind Zoe starting the Motherkind Podcast and platform.
The shift that can come from parts work and in finding compassion for the parts within.
The importance of decision-making, implementing boundaries and living a life of alignment and authenticity.
You can listen to the Motherkind podcast episode I was on at the link below:
Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources:
*** Waitlist for The Rebirth, Group Coaching for Mamas *** This is my signature 3 months online group coaching container for mothers which covers family of origin, inner child work, nervous system basics, anger, boundaries and much more.
Free Values Aligned Living Workbook
Find out more about Zoe and access her resources in these places:
Looking for support for anger while you mother? To access my Why Am I So Angry Workshop click HERE
Next Episode
Elyse McNeil on Navigating the Mental Load and Embracing Rest as a Mother
Hi mamas. This week I talk to Dr. Elyse McNeil, Mental Load Expert and Founder of Share to Thrive, who is passionate about helping couples thrive in their relationships by providing them with strategies to help them navigate the mental load of parenthood.
In this beautiful conversation, we discuss Elyse’s preparation for her own transition into mothering, and the kinds of conversations she and her husband had to facilitate sharing the load. We discuss the importance of open and intentional communication early on to avoid unconscious agreements that often lead the default roles that are socially prescribed to us.
We also discuss:
The importance of both parents being involved in the day to day load of parenting, enabling them both to build skills and confidence together.
How exploring patriarchal motherhood ideologies can help us distinguish between imposed expectations and our personal standards, leading to self-growth and the release of unrealistic ideals.
Whether its really possible to split a load 50/50.
The importance of creating permission to relinquish the need to be productive and to embrace rest in motherhood, and how this needs to be made a priority, rather than an afterthought.
Elyse has such beautiful insights and I hope you enjoy this rich conversation.
Here is where you can find out more about me (Yara), how to work with me and some resources:
*** Waitlist for The Rebirth, Group Coaching for Mamas *** This is my signature 3 months online group coaching container for mothers which covers family of origin, inner child work, nervous system basics, anger, boundaries and much more.
Free Values Aligned Living Workbook
Find out more about Elyse here:
Looking for support for anger while you mother? To access my Why Am I So Angry Workshop click HERE
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