22. "I'm so dumb!" Neurodivergence & Negative Self-Talk

04/19/23 • 16 min

One of the most heart-breaking things a parent can hear is a child being mean to themselves. Some children get so overwhelmed at times that they call themselves names, or even worse, hit themselves when they are upset. As adults, we can feel helpless in these moments and are quick to say something to negate our child’s statement like “Of course you’re not stupid” or “Don’t say that; it’s not true” But, responding with comments opposite of a child’s thoughts can feel dismissive and leave them feeling emotionally alone. In this week’s episode, I’m going to walk you through what is happening for many of our kids in these moments and share a few ideas on how to support them.

[Note: These ideas are for informational purposes only. If you have concerns about your child’s safety due to physical self-harm or verbal self-criticism, please talk with their medical or mental health provider.]

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21. Understanding the Brain Differences of Gifted Kids, with Dr. Matt

When we hear neurodiversity, most of us think of ADHD and autism. But neurodivergence simply means a difference in brain functioning - and that impacts gifted children too.

So how can we better understand and support our gifted kids? Today, Dr. Matt joins us to talk about brain differences, emotional roller coasters, social anxiety, and the "Twice Exceptional" profile.

Dr. Matt Zakreski is the Founder and Lead Psychologist at The Neurodiversity Collective.

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23. Showing Up for Our Neurodivergent Kids, with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson

Dr. Tina Payne Bryson joins us today to discuss parent-child attachment (it’s more than just rocking your baby), disciplining with empathy, connection, and regulation, and the 4 S's for raising the whole-brain child.

Dr. Tina Bryson is a psychotherapist and the Founder/Executive Director of THE CENTER FOR CONNECTION in Pasadena, California. She's a NY Times Bestselling author and has written several books including The Bottom Line for Baby.
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