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Leaderhood & Parentship

Leaderhood & Parentship

Shane Wallace & Morgan Berna

Leaderhood & Parentship is brought to you by CultureSmith Inc. - the industry leader in workplace emotional intelligence (EQ) and leadership training. On each episode, we dive into the most recent and relevant issues facing leaders based on the hundreds of Executive Coaching calls we facilitate each month. We then shift gears and show how the same evidence-based approaches to issues of EQ in the workplace can applied at home.

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Goodpods has curated a list of the 10 best Leaderhood & Parentship episodes, ranked by the number of listens and likes each episode have garnered from our listeners. If you are listening to Leaderhood & Parentship for the first time, there's no better place to start than with one of these standout episodes. If you are a fan of the show, vote for your favorite Leaderhood & Parentship episode by adding your comments to the episode page.

Leaderhood & Parentship - Cognitive Colour Spotlight: Red

Cognitive Colour Spotlight: Red

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08/22/23 • 47 min

#46 - The Red colour profile makes up only 18% of the general population, but a disproportionate amount of leaders. Motivated and driven, Reds are no strangers to rising quickly in the ranks at work. However, when emotional intelligence training isn’t present, Reds can come across as harsh and strict. In this episode we touch on the assets and liabilities of the Red colour-profile, self-inflicted stress, the pressure to perform, differentiating between a need for power versus a need for control, taking on emotional labour, codependency, and more. Shane also shares a story about the best leader he’s ever met.

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at [email protected].

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

  1. [02:20] Why does Shane teach the Colours in this order?
  2. [05:00] What classifies somebody as Red?
  3. [06:10] What are Reds like at work?
  4. [08:00] How do Reds communicate and would they ever be chatty in the workplace?
  5. [12:00] How Reds feel about titles at work.
  6. [15:00] The key distinction between wanting control and wanting power.
  7. [16:20] How Reds approach problem-solving.
  8. [18:25] How Reds handle decision-making.
  9. [22:30] How Reds contribute to managing change in an organization.
  10. [27:30] How Reds handle stress and coping techniques to try.
  11. [29:00] What Reds are like as leaders.
  12. [30:35] The best leader Shane has ever met.
  13. [33:55] How can leaders motivate a Red?
  14. [34:35] Common areas Reds should focus on for self-development.
  15. [35:15] How Reds influence the dynamics at home.
  16. [37:00] Reds and conflicts in a family.
  17. [40:30] The role a Red will play in a family transition or change.

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Leaderhood & Parentship - How to Effectively Transition a Manager Into a Leader

How to Effectively Transition a Manager Into a Leader

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11/28/23 • 60 min

#60 - If you are a manager looking to make the transition to a leader, or a company looking to add current managers to your leadership team, this episode is for you. Recently, CultureSmith Inc. has seen an increasing need for companies to shift their managers into leadership positions. But, he cautions against only positioning this change as a positive. We have deep identity ties to our roles that can be disrupted when we make a role change. Undergoing a process framed by emotional intelligence helps facilitate a smooth(er) transition. In this episode, Shane breaks down the process CultureSmith Inc. uses to help managers move in a meaningful way to a leadership role. He first shares the differences between the two roles (and how one isn’t better than the other), strategies to determine if a role change is a good fit, and finishes by walking through the 6-step process CultureSmith Inc. uses to make the transition. Then, we flip it to the home and talk about adolescent identity and the challenges of discovering who you are.

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at [email protected].

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

  1. [00:45] Fighting against the iCloud.
  2. [04:15] Breaking down this episode’s topic.
  3. [09:00] When would a company want to help a manager become a leader?
  4. [12:15] Demographic shifts in the workforce and the need for leaders.
  5. [17:45] What to do if someone wants to be a leader but the company doesn’t think it’s the right choice.
  6. [21:15] The process to take someone from manager to leader.
  7. [24:45] The 3 phases required to shift someone’s identity.
  8. [34:45] How the Cognitive Colours affect the shift from manager to leader.
  9. [41:15] Warrior vs diplomat.
  10. [44:35] Managing your personal identity as your shift to leader.
  11. [46:45] Turning this to the home, a deep dive into the challenges with adolescent identity.

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Leaderhood & Parentship - The Science of Communication: Insights for Leaders in a Digital Age

The Science of Communication: Insights for Leaders in a Digital Age

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05/16/23 • 59 min

#32 - Why does it bother us so much when we aren’t understood? In this episode, we explore the philosophy and science behind effective communication. Shane discusses how his background in philosophy informs CultureSmith’s work, why understanding communication is crucial for leaders, and how our Cognitive Colour informs how we encode and decode messages. We dive into the sources of miscommunication, why they make us feel so bad, and the importance of adapting communication styles to fit individual team members. Then, we explore the ways non-verbal communication impacts us both in person and digitally. Shane shares insights on using silence, storytelling, and radical candor as tools, and how leaders can navigate complex emotions at home. Finally, we touch on managing emotional states to ensure clear communication both at work and at home.

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at [email protected].

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

  1. [00:30] How philosophy ties into the work Shane does.
  2. [04:45] Why understanding the science of communication is an essential leadership skill.
  3. [06:30] Where miscommunication comes from.
  4. [09:30] How we encode and decode differently based on our Cognitive Colour.
  5. [16:10] Is there one Cognitive Colour that has less miscommunication?
  6. [17:50] How leaders can adapt their communication style to fit their team.
  7. [23:50] In today’s busy world, how do we do this without overwhelming our team and ourselves?
  8. [26:20] Good communication helps leaders foster empathy.
  9. [29:00] How to communicate clearly using digital mediums.
  10. [32:30] Optimizing our non-verbal communication.
  11. [33:40] How to use silence as a powerful communication tool.
  12. [38:30] Radical candor and its role in the home.
  13. [43:20] How to navigate the more complex emotions present at home.
  14. [46:40] How to use storytelling to get your message across.
  15. [51:00] How can we manage our emotional state to ensure we’re communicating what we intended?

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Leaderhood & Parentship - The Key Distinctions Between Mentorship and Leadership

The Key Distinctions Between Mentorship and Leadership

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06/13/23 • 41 min

#36 - Does your company have a formal mentorship program? It’s easier to set up than you’d think, and is one of the best ways to boost safety in your team. In this episode, Shane walks through the benefits of mentorship, the differentiators between mentors and leaders, and how he recommends starting a mentorship program. We then flip it to the home and talk about the role parents play as mentors, friends, and parents.

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at [email protected].

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

  1. [01:00] What the book Shane is writing is about.
  2. [05:30] Strategies to get into writing mode.
  3. [06:10] Contrasting mentorship against leadership.
  4. [08:25] Why companies need formal mentorship programs.
  5. [09:30] Who should mentor who.
  6. [11:00] How do we experience mentorship differently based on our Cognitive Colours?
  7. [13:05] How coaching differs from mentorship.
  8. [16:00] Who should mentor? Does being extroverted matter?
  9. [18:00] Should we look for mentors who are opposite from us?
  10. [20:25] How does this all change when we’re working remotely?
  11. [23:05] How do we balance mentorship and leadership without affecting a workplace’s creativity.
  12. [24:45] How mentors can get mentees comfortable with failure and growth.
  13. [27:20] Flipping this to the home, how does this tie into parenting styles?
  14. [30:00] How parents can help their kids navigate the many influences in their lives.
  15. [33:40] If it takes a village to raise a child, where is the village in today’s digital world?
  16. [35:45] Balancing being a parent vs being a mentor at home.

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Leaderhood & Parentship - 4 Ways to Kill Psychological Safety in a Team

4 Ways to Kill Psychological Safety in a Team

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10/03/23 • 53 min

#52 - The term “psychological safety” has been picking up popularity online, so in this episode we’re revisiting the concept for a second time and diving into nuances we didn’t discuss on our first episode. First, Shane breaks down what psychological safety is and why the term itself is a bit of a misnomer. Then, we explain why psychologically safe workplaces will experience more conflict than not, the key distinction between “trust” and “safety,” ways to push a team out of its comfort zone, how your Cognitive Colour affects your experience with safety, and the difference between psychological safety and emotional intelligence. Then, we flip it to the home and Shane shares some examples of why kids may not feel safety and what to do about it.

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at [email protected].

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

  1. [00:30] It’s our 1 year podcast-anniversary! Reflecting on 1 year of Leaderhood & Parentship.
  2. [07:30] A refresher on what psychological safety is.
  3. [10:40] What a “safe space” is and where Shane keeps seeing the term come up.
  4. [13:00] Why calling it “psychological safety” is a bit of a misnomer.
  5. [15:00] Psychologically safe workplaces have a lot of conflict and that’s a good thing.
  6. [16:40] The difference between “trust” and “safety.”
  7. [19:30] How to make your team feel safe while still pushing them out of their comfort zone.
  8. [20:45] The 4 Primary Fears that kill safety.
  9. [25:00] How to restructure annual reviews to increase safety.
  10. [30:00] How our Cognitive Colour influences how we experience safety.
  11. [35:00] A quick way to check if your team feels safe.
  12. [38:00] Try this today to build safety in the workplace.
  13. [47:40] How to talk to kids about psychological safety.
  14. [50:20] Does safety still exist between couples, or is that only trust?

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Leaderhood & Parentship - How Do We Self-Regulate In a World of Instant Gratification?

How Do We Self-Regulate In a World of Instant Gratification?

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12/06/22 • 61 min

#11 - For part 2 of our 4 part series on emotional intelligence, we’re taking a deep dive into self-regulation. In a world that has become increasingly busy, packed with instant gratification at our fingertips, how do we learn to self-regulate? And, how do we identify when our team or family members are having trouble with it? Today, we talk through different strategies you can start today to flex your self-regulation muscle. Shane breaks down the 2 types of self-regulation, shares stories from recent client calls and identifies how self-regulation issues show up based on our colour profiles. We also explore the concept of “procrastination” and why it is some of us think we perform better under pressure.
If you have any questions about this episode, or would like to submit a topic idea for a future episode, please email us at [email protected]

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

  1. [00:45] Where does self-regulation fit into the 4 dimensions of emotional intelligence (EQ)?
  2. [02:56] Differentiating between self-awareness and self-regulation.
  3. [04:00] How emotion travels through the brain.
  4. [07:30] Are you worried you look like a pushover?
  5. [08:10] The 2 types of self-regulation.
  6. [09:00] Has self-regulation gotten harder?
  7. [11:30] How our emotional triggers have changed as the pandemic has progressed.
  8. [14:30] Instant gratification is hijacking our self-regulation.
  9. [16:00] How do we keep up with an increasingly busy world?
  10. [19:00] How to notice self-regulation issues at work.
  11. [23:50] What actually is procrastination?
  12. [28:15] Habitual hesitation.
  13. [32:45] The role your environment plays in self-regulation
  14. [36:00] Can you improve self-regulation?
  15. [42:40] The prescription for self-regulation.
  16. [46:50] What we always forget about self-regulation.
  17. [50:50] Flipping this to the home, what dynamics of self-regulation show up there?
  18. [51:30] Why the construct of work-life balance is harmful.
  19. [54:45] How parents can help their kids grow their self-regulation.

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Leaderhood & Parentship - The Science-Backed Leadership Style that Works

The Science-Backed Leadership Style that Works

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04/18/23 • 52 min

#28 - Imagine going into work, knowing your projects align with your personal goals, and that your boss is actively working to help you grow and feel engaged every day. That’s what it feels like for employees with a transformational leader. The good news? This leadership style can be learned. Today, we break down the 12 steps to become a transformational leader. Shane explains what transformational leadership is, what results his clients have seen, and how this applies to the home. If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at [email protected].

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

  1. [00:30] Reviewing today’s emotional check-in.
  2. [01:40] Anxiety as an emotion vs a mood.
  3. [05:00] What is transformational leadership.
  4. [06:30] How EQ enhances transformational leadership.
  5. [07:00] The type of company this leadership style is best suited to.
  6. [08:45] Challenges the CEO of a growing knowledge-based organization faces.
  7. [10:30] How would these challenges affect both the leader and the organization?
  8. [12:11] Specific problems and pains this type of leader faces.
  9. [14:45] How transformational leadership solves these problems.
  10. [22:10] How transformational leadership helps CEOs reach their goals.
  11. [26:10] How does this leadership style make a leader feel?
  12. [27:18] Key components of transformational leadership.
  13. [29:40] How to implement this.
  14. [34:50] Examples from recent coaching calls.
  15. [37:00] Why did CultureSmith pivot from “servant” leadership to “transformational” leadership?
  16. [39:00] Challenges each Cognitive Colour will face implementing this leadership style.
  17. [43:00] What is transformational parenting?
  18. [50:00] How can single parents use this parenting style at home?

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Leaderhood & Parentship - The 4 Threats Our Brain Finds at Work

The 4 Threats Our Brain Finds at Work

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11/29/22 • 51 min

#10 - For the next 4 episodes we will be taking a deep dive into the dimensions of emotional intelligence (EQ): Self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and accountability. The series was inspired by a question that came out of Shane’s recent coaching calls: Why are we struggling with self-awareness? In an age where we can disappear into a catered, digital experience in the palm of our hand, how many of us are taking the time to reflect on how we’re showing up in the world? And, how can we grow something we don’t even know we’re lacking? For part 1 of the EQ series, we touch on what self-awareness is, why our brains actively work to avoid self-awareness, what new studies are showing about EQ, and how leaders can help themselves and their teams become more self-aware. We then flip it to the home and Shane shares how great leaders use the home to improve their self-awareness at work.

If you have any questions about this episode, or would like to submit a topic idea for a future episode, please email us at [email protected]

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

  1. [00:45] Chatting through recent, great feedback for the podcast.
  2. [01:50] Why are we doing a 4 part series on emotional intelligence (EQ)?
  3. [05:30] What are the 4 dimensions of EQ?
  4. [07:45] Why are we struggling with self-awareness right now?
  5. [09:00] The reason why our brain resists self-awareness.
  6. [10:20] What is emotional contagion?
  7. [13:45] What is self-awareness?
  8. [14:20] Can we work on our self-awareness?
  9. [17:25] Emotional literacy is key to growing EQ.
  10. [20:10] The 4 workplace threats our brain responds to.
  11. [26:40] Are we actually self-aware?
  12. [30:10] How each colour shows a lack of self-awareness.
  13. [34:50] How a leader with low self-awareness affects the workplace.
  14. [37:00] How to use the 4 T’s of self-awareness.
  15. [40:50] Where does self-awareness show up in the home?
  16. [43:00] How great leaders leverage the home to show up better at work.
  17. [45:00] How to help kids grow their self-awareness.

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Leaderhood & Parentship - Leaders Need to Lean Into Anger in the Workplace

Leaders Need to Lean Into Anger in the Workplace

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09/26/23 • 39 min

#51 - Has there been more anger in the world over the past few years? How about in the workplace? In a way, we’ve lost practice with how to interact with each other in space, and this is becoming increasingly apparent as companies continue to roll out return-to-office plans. In this episode, we start off by explaining the definition of anger. We then walk through the spectrum of anger, how to help someone experiencing anger, if “anger issues” are really that prevalent, and how the emotion shows up at the workplace. Shane shares the surprising answer to which Cognitive Colour gets the angriest, examples of expressing vs withdrawing in anger, how to help team members be more vocal, and more. Then, we flip it to the home and discuss how anger shows up differently in our personal relationships.

If you have follow-up questions, you can always reach us at [email protected].

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

Show Notes:

  1. [00:30] Why we’re talking about today.
  2. [03:00] The unique characteristics of anger.
  3. [04:30] How the pandemic affected our collective anger.
  4. [05:45] The definition of anger.
  5. [07:45] Why do we annoy people?
  6. [10:30] How our Cognitive Colour impacts how we experience anger.
  7. [14:50] Dos and don’ts for leaders noticing anger in their team.
  8. [17:00] An example of how anger may look in the workplace.
  9. [21:00] How leaders can model healthy anger.
  10. [25:00] How anger shows up differently in the home.
  11. [28:10] Expressing anger as a parent vs as a partner.
  12. [34:00] Why Reds and Yellows can be the most sensitive.
  13. [35:20] How to teach kids about anger.

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Leaderhood & Parentship - Emotional Intelligence 101: Applications at Work and at Home

Emotional Intelligence 101: Applications at Work and at Home

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10/04/22 • 43 min

#2 | What is emotional intelligence? On this episode of Leaderhood & Parentship, we dive into the essential questions CultureSmith Inc. is asked about emotional intelligence, or “EQ.” From how “the colours” tie into EQ to the different triggers EQ helps us manage, this episode provides a foundational understanding of this important concept. This episode starts with examples of workplace EQ applications and then flips to show how you can apply these same trusted practices at home. This episode is part of the foundational series for this podcast, and we recommend coming back to it as you progress through the episodes to have a refresher on these critical concepts.

To learn more about today’s topic, visit:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/shanewallaceculturesmith/

https://www.culturesmithinc.com/

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Show Notes

  1. [00:50] What are the 3 facets of emotional intelligence?
  2. [02:30] How do “the colours” tie into emotional intelligence?
  3. [05:00] The 4 common situational triggers in the workplace.
  4. [07:20] What is “the empathy game?”
  5. [09:50] What is emotional intelligence (EQ) and how does it differ from the intelligence quotient (IQ)?
  6. [12:00] Why is it so important to work on EQ?
  7. [15:00] How does the brain experience uncertainty in the workplace?
  8. [16:00] Why is workplace EQ unique from any other scenario?
  9. [17:00] Can you train your EQ?
  10. [17:45] Why isn’t EQ discussed more in the workplace?
  11. [19:40] Why it's hard to work on EQ.
  12. [22:45] What people get wrong about emotional intelligence.
  13. [24:10] The 4 fears employees experience in the workplace.
  14. [25:30] How does "emotional literacy" differ from "emotional intelligence?"
  15. [27:40] Why do we catastrophize at work?
  16. [29:30] How can couples work on their collective EQ?
  17. [33:00] How to articulate your triggers at home.
  18. [35:18] Different ways to teach children about EQ.
  19. [36:35] At what age is it appropriate to start talking about emotional intelligence?
  20. [37:25] Can family members have different levels of EQ?
  21. [38:45] The top piece of advice Shane has about EQ development.
  22. [41:45] Where to learn more about emotional intelligence.

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Leaderhood & Parentship currently has 72 episodes available.

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The podcast is about Parenting, Management, Kids & Family, Leadership, Emotional Intelligence, Podcasts, Leaders and Business.

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The average episode length on Leaderhood & Parentship is 53 minutes.

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