Overcome Your Fear and Take the Quantum Leap to Success With Corey Lewis
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04/29/19 • 42 min
Dr. Corey Lewis is the author of The Art of Becoming, a professional coach, and a master of NLP and quantum leaping.
Favorite Success Quote“We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are” ~Max Dupree
Key Points1. If You to Achieve Something You Must First Conceive it and Believe It
I want you to imagine for a moment that there are three men, let’s call them James, Alex, and Will.
All three men suffered through challenging childhoods and crippling adversity during their younger years, from poverty to the death of family members, to abusive parents.
They have all seen the worst that this world has to offer and lived through a reality where most men wouldn’t last a day.
Now James, the first of the men doesn’t know how he could possibly improve his life, he assumes that this is “just the way it is” and relegates all of his hopes and dreams to childhood fantasies.
Alex, on the other hand, knows that his life could be better.
He constantly finds himself daydreaming of a better life, one filled with an abundance of wealth, unconditional love, vibrant health, and a deep sense of belonging.
However, Alex doesn’t believe that this can be a reality for him.
After all, he is a former convict, drug addict, and grew up in one of the worst families you can imagine. How could he change?
Now, I don’t think it takes a genius to figure out the results that these two men are going to generate in their lives with these types of convictions and beliefs.
But what about Will?
Will is in the same boat as everyone else.
He went to prison in his late teens, never had a father, and is currently broke, alone, and addicted to drugs, but he’s different.
Not only does he know that life can get better for him, he deeply believes that he has what it takes to make it so, he believes that he can change his life, turn things around, and achieve the success he has been dying for his whole life.
You see, the only limits on your life are the ones that you impose upon yourself.
If you can conceive a new way of being, deeply believe that it is possible, and are willing to take the action necessary to do it, you will succeed.
2. Tapping Into Your Emotions Creates the Motion You Need for Success
How many times have you woken up in the morning, intending to get out of bed early and go “seize the day” but found yourself instead rolling over lazily and smashing the snooze button?
How many times have you sat down at your computer intent on working hard and grinding away at your latest project, when three hours later, you find yourself deeply lost in the trap of the internet, throwing your day down the drain?
How many times have you come home after a long day of work intending to hit the gym and work on your health only to find yourself sitting in front of the television on a guilty Netflix binge?
My guess is a lot.
You see the problem isn’t that you are lazy or lack work ethic, the problem is that you lack the emotional drive to create the motion you need to achieve success.
You need to have a burning reason to pursue your dreams, you need to have clear goals, and you need to learn how to tap into the power of your emotions to go after the life that you want.
3. Your Thoughts are the Father of Your Results
If you have anything in your life that you are unhappy with, you need to remember that the root of these results did not start in your bank account, in your relationship, or in your body, but these results started in your mind.
When you look at your bank account and don’t like what you see, you need to remember that these results were caused by your thoughts.
They were caused by your beliefs, your decisions, and your values that were then projected into your reality.
This truth can be seen in any area of your life.
No matter what results you have or don’t have in your life, your thoughts are the cause behind all of them.
And if you can change your thoughts, then you can change your actions, change your actions and you can change your results, and if you can change your results you change your life.
4. Break Down Your Dreams into Achievable Steps
Become a millionaire.
Meet the girl of your dreams.
Lose 100 lbs.
All of these goals are incredible in size and scope and are a scary whenever you look at them without first thinking about how you can break them down into achievable steps.
If you want to become a millionaire, then start by working on earning your first $1,000 a month and build up from there.
If you want to meet the woman of your dreams, then start getting out once a week and meeting awesome women at cool social events.
If you want to lose 100 lbs. then start with 5.
Whatever goal you have, it can be broken d...
Dr. Corey Lewis is the author of The Art of Becoming, a professional coach, and a master of NLP and quantum leaping.
Favorite Success Quote“We cannot become what we need to be by remaining what we are” ~Max Dupree
Key Points1. If You to Achieve Something You Must First Conceive it and Believe It
I want you to imagine for a moment that there are three men, let’s call them James, Alex, and Will.
All three men suffered through challenging childhoods and crippling adversity during their younger years, from poverty to the death of family members, to abusive parents.
They have all seen the worst that this world has to offer and lived through a reality where most men wouldn’t last a day.
Now James, the first of the men doesn’t know how he could possibly improve his life, he assumes that this is “just the way it is” and relegates all of his hopes and dreams to childhood fantasies.
Alex, on the other hand, knows that his life could be better.
He constantly finds himself daydreaming of a better life, one filled with an abundance of wealth, unconditional love, vibrant health, and a deep sense of belonging.
However, Alex doesn’t believe that this can be a reality for him.
After all, he is a former convict, drug addict, and grew up in one of the worst families you can imagine. How could he change?
Now, I don’t think it takes a genius to figure out the results that these two men are going to generate in their lives with these types of convictions and beliefs.
But what about Will?
Will is in the same boat as everyone else.
He went to prison in his late teens, never had a father, and is currently broke, alone, and addicted to drugs, but he’s different.
Not only does he know that life can get better for him, he deeply believes that he has what it takes to make it so, he believes that he can change his life, turn things around, and achieve the success he has been dying for his whole life.
You see, the only limits on your life are the ones that you impose upon yourself.
If you can conceive a new way of being, deeply believe that it is possible, and are willing to take the action necessary to do it, you will succeed.
2. Tapping Into Your Emotions Creates the Motion You Need for Success
How many times have you woken up in the morning, intending to get out of bed early and go “seize the day” but found yourself instead rolling over lazily and smashing the snooze button?
How many times have you sat down at your computer intent on working hard and grinding away at your latest project, when three hours later, you find yourself deeply lost in the trap of the internet, throwing your day down the drain?
How many times have you come home after a long day of work intending to hit the gym and work on your health only to find yourself sitting in front of the television on a guilty Netflix binge?
My guess is a lot.
You see the problem isn’t that you are lazy or lack work ethic, the problem is that you lack the emotional drive to create the motion you need to achieve success.
You need to have a burning reason to pursue your dreams, you need to have clear goals, and you need to learn how to tap into the power of your emotions to go after the life that you want.
3. Your Thoughts are the Father of Your Results
If you have anything in your life that you are unhappy with, you need to remember that the root of these results did not start in your bank account, in your relationship, or in your body, but these results started in your mind.
When you look at your bank account and don’t like what you see, you need to remember that these results were caused by your thoughts.
They were caused by your beliefs, your decisions, and your values that were then projected into your reality.
This truth can be seen in any area of your life.
No matter what results you have or don’t have in your life, your thoughts are the cause behind all of them.
And if you can change your thoughts, then you can change your actions, change your actions and you can change your results, and if you can change your results you change your life.
4. Break Down Your Dreams into Achievable Steps
Become a millionaire.
Meet the girl of your dreams.
Lose 100 lbs.
All of these goals are incredible in size and scope and are a scary whenever you look at them without first thinking about how you can break them down into achievable steps.
If you want to become a millionaire, then start by working on earning your first $1,000 a month and build up from there.
If you want to meet the woman of your dreams, then start getting out once a week and meeting awesome women at cool social events.
If you want to lose 100 lbs. then start with 5.
Whatever goal you have, it can be broken d...
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Pursue Fulfillment to Achieve Success With Connor Beaton
Connor Beaton is a thought leader in the men’s community who founded ManTalks, has spoken at events around the nation, including TEDx.
Favorite Success Quote“Aim for fulfillment and success will follow”
Key Points1. Stop Chasing the Golden Handcuffs
In most modern western societies, there is one great expectation placed upon all men.
Can you guess what it is?
It’s not to get married and have kids.
It’s not to find a career that they love and find spiritually fulfilling.
Rather, all men are expected to earn.
And not just to earn a living so that they can pursue a life of their choosing, they are expected to earn as much money as they can regardless of the cost.
And while there is nothing wrong with money, most men who pursue those greenbacks with a single-minded intensity soon find themselves financially wealthy, but spiritually, emotionally, and relationally broke.
You need to realize that money is great.
It can enable you to do so much good in the world and make a difference in the lives of countless people.
But it can also become a prison.
Men who chase after careers they dislike in order to achieve a financial status that they don’t really need will often find themselves sitting at home alone, millions in the bank but utterly, and completely miserable.
You see, the real secret to life is to chase fulfillment.
Chase what makes you feel alive, chase what you love, and the money will come.
And even if it doesn’t, you still had a helluva ride and enjoyed life to the fullest.
2. Allow Yourself to Experience Your Success
How many times has this happened to you?
You have spent hundreds of hours working yourself down to the bone to achieve your goals.
You haven’t slept in days, you haven’t allowed yourself to go out with friends in months, and you are on the verge of mental collapse, when finally, you reach your goal.
Whether you hit an income goal, increase your subscriber base, or finally got your first client, you have finally achieved the thing that you had been pursuing for so long.
But there’s a problem.
You don’t allow yourself to acknowledge your victory and enjoy the rewards of your labor.
Instead, you are off to the next goal, the next milestone, the next big thing before you even pause and appreciate what you already have.
One of the most essential parts of success is taking the time to fully experience each of your accomplishments.
No matter what you have achieved, you need to give yourself adequate time to bask in the glow and enjoy the successes you have already reached before you start chasing after the next big thing.
3. You Need to Have Men Who Call You Forward
When was the last time you messed up?
I mean really messed up?
You know, the time that you made the mistake that ended your relationship, that lost you 6-figures in business, or that cost you a trip to the hospital.
Who did you call?
Undoubtedly, you had friends who came to the rescue and told you everything would be alright, but did you have anyone in your life who cut through the crap of the situation and was willing to call you to a higher standard?
Most men have lots of friends on their level and below them, but few of those men have high-level mentors who are willing to call them on their B.S. and tell them when they have messed up.
But you need to realize that the only way forward is to surround yourself with men who are willing to challenge you to achieve at a new level, men who are willing to call you out, and men who are willing to brave your disapproval in an attempt to make you better.
4. If You Want to Achieve Your Goals You Have to Eliminate Porn
Porn is one of the most insidious creations of the modern age.
How many nights have you spent alone in your room, ignoring the real issues and tasks in your life while you were silently kept company by dozens, if not hundreds of virtual women?
How many times have you suppressed the frustrations that you were facing with real women by resorting to a form of “entertainment” where you have unlimited access to any type of woman on the planet, who will do anything that you want, all from the comfort of your own bed?
How many men do you know who lack the passion and drive that they should have because they are wasting all of their energy “experiencing” women online?
The simple fact is this, if you want to achieve the greatest levels of success in your business, your health, and your relationships, then you have to cut out the porn.
There are no questions about it.
It is draining you of your masculinity, of your sex drive, and of your energy to get shi!t done.
Eliminate ...
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How to Overcome #Loneliness and Achieve a Fulfilling Life With Tony Selimi
Internationally renowned human emotion, connection, and cognition expert Tony Selimi is a coach and the author of #Loneliness and A Path to Wisdom. He is currently traveling the world, sharing his message of transformation and connection.
Favorite Success Quote“I embrace equally both support and challenge” ~Dr. John DeMartini
Key Points1. You Must Embrace Both Sides of Life
Life is not comprised of just the good or just the bad.
It is a beautiful dichotomous dance that blends together both exuberant highs and devastating lows meant to mold us, change us, and teach us.
While modern pop psychology gurus would have you believe that you should ignore any pain and struggle in your life and simply live in a state of constant and never ending euphoria, the simple truth is that life is beautiful because of the pain and struggles that we face.
Without the pain of discipline, there would be no joy in success.
Without the hurt of loss, there would be no satisfaction in gain.
Life requires the good and the bad to play out like the masterfully written movie that it is, and the sooner you learn to embrace both sides of life, the sooner you will be able to live up to your true potential.
2. Loneliness Affects Every Area of Your Life
Often times, as men, we revel in the concept of solidarity.
We love the thought of being the lone wolf, outnumbered and against the world achieving greatness all by his own accord.
And nothing could be more damaging or destructive to our overall health and well-being.
Whenever you live your life out of communion with others, whenever you lack strong bonds and friendships, and whenever you isolate yourself from the world, you are not only damaging your psyche, but your physical well-being and genetic expression as well.
Loneliness has been shown to cause disease, mental illness, and even alter your genes in a very real and powerful way.
There is nothing manly about depression and sickness, so quit trying to go it alone and invest into your social life.
3. Place Yourself in the Right Environments
An interesting phenomenon that can occur in our modern world is that men can be surrounded by friends but still feel lonely if the activities and conversations with those friends are incongruent with your personal values and desires.
For example, let’s say that you hate sports.
You couldn’t care less about the NFL or NHL or any other sports league.
And yet, one of your social circle’s favorite activities is to sit down together at the local bar, have a few beers, and watch the game.
Even though all of the men in the circle are fantastic influences and valuable friends, taking part in this activity will actually increase your feelings of isolation and loneliness.
This makes it essential that you start becoming more intentional about the activities you indulge in and the things that you do with your peers.
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