How I got into this kind of work (Roy Biancalana)

Explicit content warning

08/08/23 • 22 min

Today I’m interviewing Roy Biancalana, a 62 year old white guy who was once a TV analyst from Florida. I know you’re probably not sure where this is going - usually when someone says man from Florida, you’re expecting to to be like a “man from Alberta” story but bigger, crazier, Americaner. In this case, I’m interviewing a Chicago-based relationship coach of 15 years who self-describes as having made almost every relationship mistake a cis heterosexual man can make.

This episode we’ll get to know each other a little and talk about accountability.

Site: https://coachingwithroy.com/

Book: Relationship Bootcamp

Podcast: The Attracting, Lasting Love Podcast

This episode we’ll get to know each other a little and talk about accountability.

Site: https://coachingwithroy.com/

Book: Relationship Bootcamp

Podcast: The Attracting, Lasting Love Podcast

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Blissipline, a Community Culture of Effort and Consistency (Mahima)

Mahima is back to talk about daily practices and consistency. Many of us say we want to be disciplined, but she uses the word “blissiplined” in that discipline need not be an onerous task or strife. She’ll discuss the importance of a community and the culture they embody and model for you. We’ll touch on the importance of play in making daily practices compelling. Finally, content warning for the word “tribe” to mean a small community of non indigneous people forming close relationships.

Resources

Simon Sinec - Start with Why

It won't change unless you do

Done w feeling busy with this story

Atomic habits

The obstacle is the way

Grit by Duckworth

Keep Sharp by Sanjay Gupta

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When Is Flirting Creepy? (Andre Lazarus)

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Our guest today is Andre Lazarus, an Intimacy and Sex coach, a Surrogate Partner, and a Sacred Intimate with over 10 years of experience in non monogamy. His new project is the Open to More: How to Navigate Consensual Non-monogamy course at https://coming-closer.com/. You can find him @comingcloserwithandre on social media. Now let’s talk about fragility, defensiveness, and creepiness - and best of all, how to do your best to avoid them and channel accountability, consent, and nurturance here on Intimate Interactions.