Staying True to Yourself by Changing Your Beliefs

02/15/23 • 37 min

Inner Archeology with Sarah Turner & Emily Pennystone

Sarah and Emily take a deep dive into the world of judgment, belief, and change.

In this episode, they talk about how your beliefs are formed, what has an impact on them, and what to consider and do to change your beliefs and achieve positive change.

Key Points In Episode:

This episode of Inner Archeology is the second to last episode of the season because Sarah’s going on maternity leave – but don’t worry, the show will be back in a few months!
Plus, you can get more exclusive content on the Inner Archeology Patreon page.
Sarah feels that the desire to appear consistent is a core human desire.
Want to be open to changing your beliefs? Then, you need to have conscious awareness of that, no doubt. Because yes, you CAN change your mind.
Super interesting point by Emily: ‘if there’s a belief about your identity, you’ll automatically just reinforce that. Even if it’s complete B.S., you’ll double down just to preserve the sense of identity and familiarity.’ Do you agree?
It’s so empowering to bring your beliefs and to have conscious awareness of the fact that they can change – and you have the power to decide and change them.
Glennon Doyle is someone who has had the guts to change her beliefs and to do so publicly. Look at her for inspiration.
Many of the beliefs Sarah has changed are paired with judgments, ideas, or expectations she had. Before the beliefs could shift, those ideas and expectations had to change first.
For most of her life, Sarah didn’t want to have kids... and look at her now, about to become a mother!
Sarah has stopped making 5-year plans because so much can change in a year (just look at the last couple of years).
If you’re trying to figure out what your beliefs are, make sure to make a distinction between beliefs that were just handed to you and those you have intentionally chosen to adopt.
Emily shares that she had to earn the right to participate in her creative expression because it was a luxury, not something she necessarily deserved. #ChangedBelief
Sarah had judgments toward pole dancing, thinking it wasn’t a hard thing to do... turns out she was wrong.
Ever felt like working out is punishment? Or that you work out because you don’t like your body? Emily thought the same but, by her own admission, things couldn’t be further from the truth.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Inner Archeology Email

Sarah Turner on Instagram

Emily Pennystone on Instagram

@Inner.Archeology on Instagram

InnerArcheology.com

InnerArcheology.tv (video version)

patreon.com/InnerArcheology

Inner Archeology on YouTube

Glennon Doyle

The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron

Sarah and Emily take a deep dive into the world of judgment, belief, and change.

In this episode, they talk about how your beliefs are formed, what has an impact on them, and what to consider and do to change your beliefs and achieve positive change.

Key Points In Episode:

This episode of Inner Archeology is the second to last episode of the season because Sarah’s going on maternity leave – but don’t worry, the show will be back in a few months!
Plus, you can get more exclusive content on the Inner Archeology Patreon page.
Sarah feels that the desire to appear consistent is a core human desire.
Want to be open to changing your beliefs? Then, you need to have conscious awareness of that, no doubt. Because yes, you CAN change your mind.
Super interesting point by Emily: ‘if there’s a belief about your identity, you’ll automatically just reinforce that. Even if it’s complete B.S., you’ll double down just to preserve the sense of identity and familiarity.’ Do you agree?
It’s so empowering to bring your beliefs and to have conscious awareness of the fact that they can change – and you have the power to decide and change them.
Glennon Doyle is someone who has had the guts to change her beliefs and to do so publicly. Look at her for inspiration.
Many of the beliefs Sarah has changed are paired with judgments, ideas, or expectations she had. Before the beliefs could shift, those ideas and expectations had to change first.
For most of her life, Sarah didn’t want to have kids... and look at her now, about to become a mother!
Sarah has stopped making 5-year plans because so much can change in a year (just look at the last couple of years).
If you’re trying to figure out what your beliefs are, make sure to make a distinction between beliefs that were just handed to you and those you have intentionally chosen to adopt.
Emily shares that she had to earn the right to participate in her creative expression because it was a luxury, not something she necessarily deserved. #ChangedBelief
Sarah had judgments toward pole dancing, thinking it wasn’t a hard thing to do... turns out she was wrong.
Ever felt like working out is punishment? Or that you work out because you don’t like your body? Emily thought the same but, by her own admission, things couldn’t be further from the truth.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Inner Archeology Email

Sarah Turner on Instagram

Emily Pennystone on Instagram

@Inner.Archeology on Instagram

InnerArcheology.com

InnerArcheology.tv (video version)

patreon.com/InnerArcheology

Inner Archeology on YouTube

Glennon Doyle

The Artist’s Way: A Spiritual Path to Higher Creativity by Julia Cameron

Previous Episode

Lessons from Stutz Pt. 2

Sarah and Emily continue their conversation about Jonah Hill’s documentary Stutz (if you haven’t already, check out the latest episode of Inner Archeology for part 1).

In this episode, they talk about some powerful therapeutic modalities and tools from Stutz: part X, the string of pearls, and your shadow.

Key Points In Episode:

This episode of Inner Archeology continues the conversation around Jonah Hill’s documentary Stutz that Emily and Sarah began to discuss last week. They now focus on therapeutic modalities.
Emily just L-O-V-E-S how visual Stutz’s therapy tools are – particularly the little note cards with visual representations he draws, despite having Parkinson’s, and that he gives to all of his clients.
A big #truth from Emily: ‘Having visual components is an incredibly powerful tool to make an abstract concept more tangible in somebody’s mind.’ Do you agree?
The string of pearls is another powerful tool Stutz uses. Each pearl represents the next action you take in your life, be it getting out of bed, or launching a business.
This is the important part. The pearls all hold equal value and the same weight, no action is more important than the other! That’s why it’s important to just take action, even an imperfect one.
Emily thinks that if you were to assign the same value to each action in your life, you’d be able to remove a ton of self-judgment. Agree or disagree?
We tend to evaluate our days based on the “big things” we accomplished without thinking that things like getting out of bed or drinking water can be what was needed to help you move forward so that in the future you could have those big accomplishments. #QuoteOfTheDay
It’s about moving the storyline forward (yup, it’s as simple as that!). You can’t have future pearls without these ones.
Sarah and Emily talk about the role that simple little actions like drinking a can of Coke play in life.
Think about it for a second: if something is so meaningful and carries the same weight, then it’s meaningless. Every action holds the same value as the next one.
Part X is another of Stutz’s therapeutic modalities. It’s a very judgmental part of you that keeps you small, a voice of impossibility. But at the same time, its negativity propels you into growth.
There’s a quote that really stood out for Emily: ‘The highest creative expression for a human is being able to create something new right in the face of adversity.’
For Sarah, nothing is more empowering than creating in the face of adversity... is that the same for you?
Emily believes that you can reframe your relationship with Part X and that it doesn’t have to be so abrasive to you.
Part X is different from the shadow, which is the part of your life that you were ashamed of (and that made Sarah burst into tears!).
For Stutz, it isn’t just about acknowledging your shadow but it’s about understanding and trying to love it too.
Have you signed up for the Inner Archeology Patreon page, yet? There may be some meditation with Emily’s shadow coming soon on there!
Emily and Sarah discuss shadow work and inner child work – and their potential correlation.

Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:

Inner Archeology Email

Sarah Turner on Instagram

Emily Pennystone on Instagram

@Inner.Archeology on Instagram

InnerArcheology.com

InnerArcheology.tv (video version)

patreon.com/InnerArcheology

Inner Archeology on YouTube

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Next Episode

Season Finale: Reflections on One Year of Inner Archeology – and What’s to Come

The finale of season 1 of Inner Archeology is here!

Emily and Sarah look back at over one year of podcasting and share their reflections on the journey, what they have learned, and what’s making them excited about the future.

Key Points In Episode:

The first season finale of Inner Archeology is here, and it’s been a fun one-year ride! Time for some reflections.
Emily has enjoyed how raw and honest the whole experience has been.
How many podcast hosts cry before hopping on a call to start recording an episode? Emily and Sarah do! #PodcastersLife
One of the things Sarah learned during this journey has been putting more of her personal story out there and feeling good about it.
For Emily, it wasn’t easy to put herself out there talking about religious trauma – but the emails and Instagram DMs she got after the episode was published made it all worth it. #Reflections
Emily shares that what’s been so valuable about sharing stories is that we love finding ourselves in other people, and that gives us permission to just be ourselves... Do you agree?
The podcast had an impact on the Your Way to Freedom annual event too, because it felt as if everyone felt comfortable going deeper.
Sarah opens up about having felt like a bad friend lately, and talks about what her birth class teacher calls ‘the red thread back to self’.
Seeing Ben as a dad is something Sarah is really looking forward to.
Who says that being a mother means you’ll be sleep deprived and feel miserable? Definitely not Sarah! She isn’t afraid of all of that, not one bit.
Being sleep deprived isn’t easy but your mindset about being sleep deprived makes the whole situation what it is, says Emily. Do you feel the same?
Season 2 of Inner Archeology is going to be great! Make sure to stay in the loop to learn more about it as soon as it launches.