Beliefs Are Helpful But Not True
03/09/22 • 75 min
We are the way we are because of what we’ve experienced. We choose our beliefs, consciously or subconsciously, to make sense of the world and to create an identity. Once you understand that, you will have so much more control over what you choose to believe. Today, we start with a quote by CD Baby founder, author, and entrepreneur Derek Sivers that stood out to Sarah at a recent Genius Network event, which forms the topic for today’s conversation: beliefs are helpful but not true. For some, the idea that there is no universal truth can be a scary one but, tuning in, you’ll discover that there is value in finding the excitement and endless possibility in uncertainty! We touch on the validity of staying informed at all costs and unpack an Instagram post by emotional alchemist, Xavier Dagba, which delves into the practice of vibrational precision and peace consciousness rather than war consciousness. We also share our perspectives on embracing the unknown, affecting change with authenticity, and the incredible power of joy, plus so much more! We hope you’ll join us for this impactful conversation.
Key Points From This Episode:
- We kick off with name changes, The Fifth Sacred Thing by Starhawk, nudity, and more!
- The inspiration for today’s topic: a quote from Derek Sivers’ Genius Network keynote speech.
- Why the idea that truth is subjective could spark fear in some people.
- The value of finding excitement and possibility in uncertainty.
- How caring for yourself impacts your ability to make the world a better place.
- Why we recommend questioning your motivations for ‘staying informed at all costs’.
- The benefits of protecting your energy and limiting ‘noise’ so you can hear your intuition.
- A reminder to remain anchored and practice what Xavier Dagba calls ‘vibrational precision’.
- Questions to ask yourself to help you align with your internal guidance system.
- How you can care and choose not to despair; suffering is not virtuous!
- The value of reconnecting with your community where you can have the most impact.
- How our obsession with correctness is limiting us and the freedom in saying ‘I don’t know’.
- What we can learn from Judaism about embracing the unknown.
- Peace consciousness and relating to people with differing belief systems on a human level.
- The important role you play when you communicate and show up in your community.
- How Queer Eye is a good model for affecting change in the most authentic way possible.
- Why the way you show up in the small moments matters just as much as the big ones.
- A reminder that your joy is powerful and peace consciousness is contagious.
- The power in acknowledging the thorns and the rosebuds as part of the human experience.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
We are the way we are because of what we’ve experienced. We choose our beliefs, consciously or subconsciously, to make sense of the world and to create an identity. Once you understand that, you will have so much more control over what you choose to believe. Today, we start with a quote by CD Baby founder, author, and entrepreneur Derek Sivers that stood out to Sarah at a recent Genius Network event, which forms the topic for today’s conversation: beliefs are helpful but not true. For some, the idea that there is no universal truth can be a scary one but, tuning in, you’ll discover that there is value in finding the excitement and endless possibility in uncertainty! We touch on the validity of staying informed at all costs and unpack an Instagram post by emotional alchemist, Xavier Dagba, which delves into the practice of vibrational precision and peace consciousness rather than war consciousness. We also share our perspectives on embracing the unknown, affecting change with authenticity, and the incredible power of joy, plus so much more! We hope you’ll join us for this impactful conversation.
Key Points From This Episode:
- We kick off with name changes, The Fifth Sacred Thing by Starhawk, nudity, and more!
- The inspiration for today’s topic: a quote from Derek Sivers’ Genius Network keynote speech.
- Why the idea that truth is subjective could spark fear in some people.
- The value of finding excitement and possibility in uncertainty.
- How caring for yourself impacts your ability to make the world a better place.
- Why we recommend questioning your motivations for ‘staying informed at all costs’.
- The benefits of protecting your energy and limiting ‘noise’ so you can hear your intuition.
- A reminder to remain anchored and practice what Xavier Dagba calls ‘vibrational precision’.
- Questions to ask yourself to help you align with your internal guidance system.
- How you can care and choose not to despair; suffering is not virtuous!
- The value of reconnecting with your community where you can have the most impact.
- How our obsession with correctness is limiting us and the freedom in saying ‘I don’t know’.
- What we can learn from Judaism about embracing the unknown.
- Peace consciousness and relating to people with differing belief systems on a human level.
- The important role you play when you communicate and show up in your community.
- How Queer Eye is a good model for affecting change in the most authentic way possible.
- Why the way you show up in the small moments matters just as much as the big ones.
- A reminder that your joy is powerful and peace consciousness is contagious.
- The power in acknowledging the thorns and the rosebuds as part of the human experience.
Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:
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Key Points From This Episode:
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- Examples of what the Enneagram can teach you about other people.
- The importance of continually reflecting on your values.
- Factors that cause conflict situations to escalate.
- Sarah explains how her family deals with conflict, and how this plays out in her relationship with her partner.
- Why being loud isn’t the best way to make oneself seen.
- Emily shares an example of how she deals with conflict situations with her children.
- Reasons that so many people find it so difficult to ask people for things we need.
- Two questions that everyone should be asking their loved ones.
- What each of our love languages are.
- How we approach interactions with people who are not on the same page as us.
- The power that lies in asking questions and reflecting.
- The danger of seeing people for who they could be, rather than who they are now.
- Growth-focused relationships versus stagnant ones.
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Key Points From This Episode:
- A reminder to support our Patreon.
- The challenges of COVID and why Sarah got married in Mexico.
- Having a smaller wedding over an extended period of time and the connections that were made.
- How the wedding was a reflection of Sarah and Ben’s relationship.
- Why the wedding was a healing experience for Sarah.
- The amazing whale watching experiences that our hosts had.
- A hilarious story about Emily’s kid thinking she would get drunk off of hot tub water.
- The Jewish perception of weddings as a source of peace and healing.
- How Sarah got over the feeling that she didn’t deserve a beautiful wedding.
- Why Sarah feels that her relationship with Ben is different from her previous ones.
- Mirroring one’s self-love in a relationship with their partner.
- How good Ben is at asking Sarah where the stories she tells herself come from.
- Experiences of the ceremony which Emily was the officiant of.
- A moment where Sarah and Ben discussed who would say their vows first.
- The song that Sarah had written for her and Ben’s first dance.
- Getting over the shame and guilt you feel about divorce and a second marriage.
- Seeing the value in ceremony and Sarah’s experiences learning about Jewish tradition.
- Anger that Sarah had at the institution of marriage and how she got over it.
- Seeing pain as a catalyst for change and having compassion for past versions of yourself.
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