What it *Really* Means When You Don’t Feel SEEN. Will it Help When You Become Louder?! Two Truths and a Lie, Alex’ Drops The Mic (Ep 10)
07/21/24 • 46 min
I normalized it by thinking: “Oh it’s fine, people are probably busy” or “Oh it wasn’t such an original idea after all”. I’ve even gone to the point of thinking: “Uuugh thank God nobody saw that, what a shame, how could I ever?”.
OMG or when you launch a new offer in your business, and the only feedback you get is crickets? Such a horrible feeling, right?
In this episode, Alex invites us to look at this face to face and identify piece by piece what’s actually lying down this not feeling seen and heard. In this episode, we’re called to reflect on some cultural mandates over women, such as being a good girl in all areas, and how accepting that role has disconnected us from our own unique voice.
Can’t wait for you to listen to this episode, because the more we’re aware of our traits, the more unapologetic we become, and the more we connect with our true inner voice.
Here you can find some of my takeaways:
- Not feeling seen and heard is a symptom that can manifest everywhere, including in relationships and businesses.
- People Pleasing has its benefits such as avoiding conflict, but it can never lead to a fulfilling life.
- When fear is the fuel and people-pleasing the motor, you might be leading from a place of lack of self-recognition and identity.
- Our happiness and worthiness are not tied to external validation, but how do we believe that to our core?
00:00 Not feeling seen or heard
02:12 The impact of people-pleasing
07:06 Finding your unique voice and identity
12:08 The costs and benefits of people pleasing
21:41 Creating healthy boundaries
38:54 Letting go of the need to please others
45:13 Recognizing the importance of self-worth and happiness
Love,
Cinthya Creativa.
Alex's Podcast Manager.
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I normalized it by thinking: “Oh it’s fine, people are probably busy” or “Oh it wasn’t such an original idea after all”. I’ve even gone to the point of thinking: “Uuugh thank God nobody saw that, what a shame, how could I ever?”.
OMG or when you launch a new offer in your business, and the only feedback you get is crickets? Such a horrible feeling, right?
In this episode, Alex invites us to look at this face to face and identify piece by piece what’s actually lying down this not feeling seen and heard. In this episode, we’re called to reflect on some cultural mandates over women, such as being a good girl in all areas, and how accepting that role has disconnected us from our own unique voice.
Can’t wait for you to listen to this episode, because the more we’re aware of our traits, the more unapologetic we become, and the more we connect with our true inner voice.
Here you can find some of my takeaways:
- Not feeling seen and heard is a symptom that can manifest everywhere, including in relationships and businesses.
- People Pleasing has its benefits such as avoiding conflict, but it can never lead to a fulfilling life.
- When fear is the fuel and people-pleasing the motor, you might be leading from a place of lack of self-recognition and identity.
- Our happiness and worthiness are not tied to external validation, but how do we believe that to our core?
00:00 Not feeling seen or heard
02:12 The impact of people-pleasing
07:06 Finding your unique voice and identity
12:08 The costs and benefits of people pleasing
21:41 Creating healthy boundaries
38:54 Letting go of the need to please others
45:13 Recognizing the importance of self-worth and happiness
Love,
Cinthya Creativa.
Alex's Podcast Manager.
Ready to connect?
Find Alex on Instagram or leave a voice message with your questions and requests for future episodes!
If you enjoyed the episode, leave a review and subscribe to the first one to get notified every time a new episode is live.
Previous Episode
Would You Bet a Million Dollars on Yourself?! Lets Talk About Self Doubt, Self Sabotage and Your Tendency to Overthink Descissions (Ep 9)
Alex starts this episode with this question: “Would you bet a million dollars on yourself?”
You probably think that most people would immediately say yes to this question, but I know that you, just like me, would begin to wonder about the meaning of this idea and all the layers at play.
It is so confronting because it teases a reflection regarding self-worth, self-doubts, self-sabotage, and going face to face with our belief system and old narratives we have been telling to ourselves.
In this podcast episode of Hustle Heart, Alex opens the doors to reflect on the way we give or “outsource” our power, the importance of building empowering habits, and how all these pieces together can bring us closer to that reality shift where we bet not just a million dollars but all we have in us for our dreams and goals.
If you haven’t dived into this episode yet, I want to share with you one of the ideas of Alex that made the biggest impact on me this week:
“Isn't it amazing that we can create our own life? Isn't that the best way to predict the future, to create it?”
Key takeaways from this episode:
- Believing in yourself is crucial for success and attracting others to support and follow.
- Trusting your own intuition and inner guidance is essential for making authentic decisions.
- Seeking validation from others can lead to disempowerment and self-doubt.
- Embracing imperfections and being authentic allows for genuine connection and personal development. Shifting from the old self to a new identity can be challenging and may lead to feelings of being lost and disconnected.
- Self-sabotage is a defense mechanism that keeps us in our familiar zone, but it can hinder personal growth and progress.
- Awareness is the first step in overcoming self-sabotage. Take time to reflect on your habits and behaviors that may be holding you back.
- Setting goals and creating empowering habits can help break through self-sabotage patterns and move towards desired outcomes.
- Check-in with your energy and prioritize feeling good. True freedom and success come from within.
With love,
Cinthya Creativa,
Alex’s Podcast Manager.
Chapters of this episode:
00:00 Would You Bet A Million Dollars On Yourself?
02:01 My Biggest Life Learning
05:23 Helping You Remember Who The F*ck You Are
07:45 The Shadow Side Of Asking For Support
10:08 When You Have To Lose Yourself To Find Yourself Again
15:36 This Is The Commitment We Have To Have With Ourselves
19:12 Are Your Surroundings Lifting You Up?
22:40 External Validation and Our Inner Guidance
23:50 The Frustration When Thinking Others Are Right
25:05 Trusting Your Inner Guidance
27:10 Some Hurdles Are By Design
28:06 Feeling Lost and Disconnected
29:32 The Role of Self-Sabotage and Why People Do It?
33:09 Moving from Fear and Pain to Joy and Passion and the No Giving Fucks Mentality
38:32 Creating Goals and Empowering Habits
40:23 How Can You Change Your Source of Fuel?
44:30 How Do You Get Back In Momentum?
47:07 Empowering Habits!
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Next Episode
Can You Allow Yourself to Mess Up? Let’s Talk About Perfectionism and How to Open Yourself Up to More Magic in Your Life and Business (Ep. 11)
As soon as I finished editing this episode of Hustle Heart, I texted my best friends to tell them not just that I would love for them to listen to this episode, but that I need them to.
Here’s why: for years, I've been telling them about how I’m filled with fears—about work, money, my relationship with my now ex, my family, and my future. It feels like I haven’t had a moment of peace in my mind in the last two or three years. They can relate.
It wasn’t until I had a really honest and heart-opening chat with Alex, the host of this show, that I realized these fears were a symptom of something bigger.
I’ve always wanted to do everything as perfectly as possible, even if that meant that one simple task took me ages to complete. I didn't know that that need for praise and for being seen as a “good girl” was a symptom of the perfectionist within me.
I didn't even know that leading my life and business from this perfectionist version of me wouldn’t let me dream or embrace the magic of creating the reality I desire.
In this episode, Alex talks about perfectionism, what it means, and how to identify that trait in your own life experience. Stay for the whole episode, because she also dives into how sacred it is for the feminine creative energy to step away from perfectionism and embrace experiment, joy, and excitement.
I don’t want to spoil the rest because this episode is packed with magic. If you can relate, this is a must-listen.
Here you can find some of this episode’s takeaways:
- Perfectionism is driven by fear and the need for control.
- Practicing and allowing yourself to make mistakes is essential for mastering a craft.
- Balancing masculine and feminine energy in business is important for creativity and success.
- Self-trust is crucial for personal and professional growth.
- Letting go of perfectionism and embracing uniqueness leads to self-empowerment.
Chapters:
00:00 Introduction and Invitation to Play
04:02 Embracing Imperfection and Mastery
06:28 Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy
08:51 The Power of Self-Trust
12:25 Letting Go of Perfectionism and Embracing Uniqueness
18:18 Choosing the Dream and Rewriting the Rules
25:46 Nurturing the Good and Appreciating Life
28:00 Taking Action and Moving Towards Greatness
Love,
Cinthya Creativa.
Alex's Podcast Manager.
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