How to Get What You Want
Susie Tomenchok
Your career isn’t built by waiting for someone to notice your value. It’s built by learning how to advocate for yourself with confidence.
You’ve been told your work will speak for itself. Yet despite doing everything asked of you—and more—you’re still feeling overlooked and uncertain about your next step. Leadership isn’t just about managing a team; it’s navigating the complexities of internal relationships and consistently advocating for your growth.
On Get What You Want, Susie Tomenchok is your silent partner, empowering you with the mindset and tools to negotiate your career—and life—with intention.
Unlike podcasts that focus on climbing the ladder or hustle culture, this show is for women who want to own their careers authentically. You’ll learn practical strategies for everyday negotiations, from asking for what you deserve to confidently handling tough conversations. Because negotiation isn’t just for raises or promotions—it’s how you navigate every opportunity in your career and beyond.
Susie is a negotiation expert who understands the challenges of being in a male-dominated industry and the struggles women face when advocating for themselves. She’s helped countless professionals unlock their potential and will show you how to do the same.
If you’re ready to stop waiting for your career to happen to you and start creating the opportunities you want, hit follow and join Susie each week to build your confidence, advocate for yourself, and finally Get What You Want.
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Tired Decisions Are Bad Decisions
How to Get What You Want
05/13/25 • 22 min
If you're making decisions just to get them off your plate, you're not making good ones. When mental fatigue sets in, clarity goes out the window, and that’s when bad calls happen. You think you’re being productive, but really, you’re just trying to survive the moment.
In this episode, I’m breaking down how mental fatigue sneaks up on high-performers, how it messes with your judgment, and what it actually costs you. You’ll walk away with simple shifts to protect your energy, create space to think, and make better decisions, especially when it matters most.
In this episode, I’ll cover:
- How mental fatigue sabotages your decision-making.
- Real examples of what fatigue costs you and how to catch it before it does.
- Three tactics to protect your energy and plan for better outcomes.
_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/the-art-of-everyday-negotiation
Work With Me: Speaking, corporate training, and executive coaching:
www.susietomenchok.com/services
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
Balancing act of stay-at-home dads and power moms with Regina Hutchinson and Jill Stark
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01/02/24 • 37 min
Ever wonder how the dynamics of career-driven women and stay-at-home dads unravel in modern families? Today's episode brings you a fascinating exploration of this topic with industry leaders Jill Stark and Regina Hutchinson. We delve into the transformative decisions, societal biases, and financial impacts of reversing traditional domestic roles.
As Jill and Regina open up about their lives, we gain a deeper understanding of the pressures and liberations that come with such an arrangement. They shed light on the importance of support systems and debunk the myths surrounding stay-at-home fathers, empowering more women to take the lead without hesitation. Join us for this empowering discussion that reassures every listener that they're not alone in seeking the perfect blend of professional success and personal contentment.
In this episode, we talk about the following:
1. The importance of having thoughtful and open conversations about individual and family needs, career fulfillment, and financial considerations.
2. How cultivating empathy, makes leaders more understanding and supportive of the diverse needs of their team members.
3. Recognizing different aspects to find ways to maintain a healthy balance between work and personal life.
Connect with Regina:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/reginahutchinson/Connect with Jill:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/jill-stark/
_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/the-art-of-everyday-negotiation
Work With Me: Speaking, corporate training, and executive coaching:
www.susietomenchok.com/services
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
How to turn preparation into your winning tactic
How to Get What You Want
04/30/24 • 27 min
Dive into the essential world of negotiation with me and discover how to turn preparation into your winning tactic. I'll reveal the strategic game plan that turns high-stakes conversations from nerve-wracking to triumph, sharing personal stories of underpreparation and the euphoria of skillfully negotiated wins. With every anecdote and expert insight, you'll learn how to craft your objectives, leverage your position, and always have a savvy fallback to keep you in control of any deal-making scenario.
Feel the pulse of intense discussions as we explore the emotional aspects of negotiation, learning to master the heat of the moment with poise and preparation. I'll guide you through an exercise that challenges your current strategies and refines your approach to be all-encompassing, from mental readiness to the anticipation of every possible turn. So, suit up and step into the negotiation arena with the confidence of a seasoned pro, ready to steer your career towards unprecedented success.
In this episode, I cover the following:
1. Understanding the level of preparation of the other party in a negotiation.
2. Anticipating emotions and framing/reframing the conversation.
3. Identifying alternatives and considering various scenarios.
_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/the-art-of-everyday-negotiation
Work With Me: Speaking, corporate training, and executive coaching:
www.susietomenchok.com/services
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
What Do They Really Want?
How to Get What You Want
05/20/25 • 26 min
The stakes of a negotiation are usually obvious. But the interests, the things that actually matter to the other person but never make it into the contract, are often overlooked. And when that happens, both sides lose.
In this episode, I’m breaking down the difference between stakes and interests, how to spot what is really driving someone’s decision, and how to use that insight to get better results in every kind of conversation. I share real examples, a simple strategy from Harvard, and three ways you can start applying this today, even if you are not in a formal negotiation.
In this episode, I’ll cover:
- The difference between what is on the table and what is driving the decision
- How understanding someone’s interests can shift the entire conversation
- A 30-second mindset shift that leads to better outcomes
_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/the-art-of-everyday-negotiation
Work With Me: Speaking, corporate training, and executive coaching:
www.susietomenchok.com/services
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
How to Handle Pressure Like a Pro
How to Get What You Want
04/29/25 • 25 min
Pressure is everywhere right now, and when it doesn’t let up, even small things start to feel high stakes. From deadlines to team conversations, everything carries more weight. And the longer we sit in that pressure, the harder it becomes to move forward.
In this episode, I’m talking about how to navigate leadership and decision-making when you feel like you’re carrying too much. I share a story of one client’s real-time negotiation with a shifting, high-stakes project, and walk you through three ways to move through pressure more clearly and intentionally. You can’t always control what’s happening around you, but you can build the tools to lead through it.
In This Episode, I’ll Cover:
- Why pressure turns even low-stakes moments into high-stakes ones
- What to do when emotional weight keeps you from seeing options
- How to move through discomfort instead of waiting for it to pass
_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/the-art-of-everyday-negotiation
Work With Me: Speaking, corporate training, and executive coaching:
www.susietomenchok.com/services
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
Bridging Communication Gaps for Leaders with Charlotte Blair
How to Get What You Want
11/26/24 • 25 min
Do you ever feel like your team just doesn’t “get it”? In this episode, I sit down with Gallup-certified strengths coach Charlotte Blair to unravel the secrets of effective leadership communication. Charlotte shares how clarity, curiosity, and strengths-based coaching can transform workplace dynamics and foster trust. From practical delegation frameworks to listening techniques, you’ll walk away with actionable tips to level up your leadership game. Don’t miss this chance to boost your confidence, improve your team’s performance, and build a foundation of trust!
In this episode, we talk about the following:
1. The importance of clear communication and setting expectations in leadership and negotiation.
2. Using strengths-based coaching to enhance team performance and trust.
3. Practical tools and tips for leaders to improve delegation and build deeper connections with their teams.
Connect with Charlotte:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/charlotteblair/
http://www.charlotteblair.com.au
_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/the-art-of-everyday-negotiation
Work With Me: Speaking, corporate training, and executive coaching:
www.susietomenchok.com/services
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
Guarding your influence with Kelly Dillon
How to Get What You Want
10/03/23 • 18 min
Ever wondered how the undercurrent of negativity can stealthily sabotage your workplace? Buckle up, as Kelly Dillon and I, dissect the anatomy of negative influence and its damaging implications on trust and teamwork. We spotlight the different ways in which negativity can lurk beneath the surface, be it through direct or indirect behavior, and how insecurity and uncertainty can fan its flames. More importantly, we share practical insights into managing such situations, underscoring the need for direct feedback and collaborative efforts in building a healthy work atmosphere.
Elevating the conversation, we delve into the intriguing dynamics of influence and leadership in the workplace. Ascending the corporate ladder brings with it a newfound authority that can be a double-edged sword. We discuss the dangers of individuals, particularly those freshly promoted, using their titles as a control mechanism without understanding their influence's breadth and depth. Constructive feedback emerges as the torchbearer, paving the path for mutual trust, respect, and thus creating room for positive influence. Listen in to arm yourself with our valuable tips to identify and neutralize the devastating effects of unchecked negative influence in your workplace.
Connect with Kelly:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/kellyldillon/
_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/the-art-of-everyday-negotiation
Work With Me: Speaking, corporate training, and executive coaching:
www.susietomenchok.com/services
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
Virtual presence and non-verbal influence with Tracy Phillips
How to Get What You Want
06/04/24 • 26 min
Ever wondered how much of your message is conveyed without saying a word? Unlock the secrets of non-verbal communication with Tracy Phillips, a video and visibility expert with over two decades of experience and an Emmy nomination for her documentary work. Tracy reveals that a whopping 93% of communication is non-verbal, emphasizing the immense power of body language and tone in professional settings. Learn how to authentically and confidently present yourself in meetings, negotiations, and everyday interactions to elevate your leadership presence.
Transform your virtual interactions by mastering your digital presence. Tracy shares expert tips on optimizing lighting, camera positioning, and maintaining eye contact to foster trust and connection through the screen. Discover the subtle yet impactful role of showing up visibly in virtual meetings, using small gestures, and active participation to stand out and build influence—especially in environments with senior leaders or teams filled with introverts and engineers.
In this episode, we talk about the following:
1. Importance of nonverbal communication in professional settings.
2. Techniques for improving virtual presence.
3. Self-evaluation and continuous improvement.
Connect with Tracy Phillips:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-phillips-538125b1/
http://testimagical.com
_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/the-art-of-everyday-negotiation
Work With Me: Speaking, corporate training, and executive coaching:
www.susietomenchok.com/services
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
What’s on the other side of imposter syndrome with Maika Leibbrandt
How to Get What You Want
09/19/23 • 36 min
What if the imposter syndrome you've been battling isn't a curse, but an opportunity? The intriguing idea is what Maika Leibbrandt, an executive coach with a passion for abundance and service, and I dissect in our enlightening chat. Maika unveils a fresh perspective on imposter syndrome, suggesting it's not a condition to be "suffered", but rather a chance to dig deeper and bridge the gap between self-doubt and self-belief.
Maika and I delve into the delicate balancing act of coaching others while also pinpointing your unique skillset. We share insights on how focusing on serving others instead of self can lead to a liberating self-realization, and how observing your conduct can help understand your true value. This conversation leads us to discuss the importance of credibility, self-reflection, and their roles in overcoming imposter syndrome, advocating for oneself, and taking charge of one’s career growth.
In this episode, we underscore the importance of stepping back, observing ourselves, and understanding the role we play in the world. Additionally, we shed light on the importance of credibility and how it plays into overcoming imposter syndrome. So, tune in, dive deep, and let's transform that self-doubt into self-belief!
Connect with Maika:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/maika-leibbrandt/
https://www.hellomaika.com/
_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/the-art-of-everyday-negotiation
Work With Me: Speaking, corporate training, and executive coaching:
www.susietomenchok.com/services
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
Lessons of Feedback with Trace Beatty
How to Get What You Want
09/24/24 • 27 min
Are you afraid of getting feedback? Discover how to turn feedback into your secret weapon for professional growth! Trace Beatty, my oldest daughter, joins me today to dive deep into the art of receiving feedback. Learn practical strategies to proactively seek, gracefully receive, and effectively utilize feedback to boost your career. Whether you're a seasoned professional or just starting out, we will help you transform your relationship with feedback and leverage it for success!
In this episode, we talk about the following:
1. Importance of feedback in professional growth.
2. How to proactively seek feedback in the workplace.
3. Building stronger relationships through feedback.
Connect with Trace:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/trace-beatty/
_____________________🚀 Ready to Get What You Want?
Listening is great, but real change happens when you take action. Join my newsletter for exclusive negotiation strategies, scripts, and real-world case studies you won’t hear on the podcast. Sign up now at www.negotiationlove.com—it takes 10 seconds and will change how you view and negotiate forever.
📖 Continue Your Professional Growth with These Resources:
Get my Book: The Art of Everyday Negotiation without Manipulation:
www.susietomenchok.com/the-art-of-everyday-negotiation
Work With Me: Speaking, corporate training, and executive coaching:
www.susietomenchok.com/services
_____________________
Remember, negotiation is more than a skill—it’s a mindset.
💕Susie
www.linkedin.com/in/susietomenchok
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How many episodes does How to Get What You Want have?
How to Get What You Want currently has 142 episodes available.
What topics does How to Get What You Want cover?
The podcast is about Career Growth, Society & Culture, Podcasts, Relationships, Business and Careers.
What is the most popular episode on How to Get What You Want?
The episode title 'Leading with laughter with Stephanie McHugh' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on How to Get What You Want?
The average episode length on How to Get What You Want is 23 minutes.
How often are episodes of How to Get What You Want released?
Episodes of How to Get What You Want are typically released every 7 days.
When was the first episode of How to Get What You Want?
The first episode of How to Get What You Want was released on Oct 5, 2022.
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