25. Breaking the Societal Rules of Professionalism, with Sex Therapist, Rachel Maine

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09/12/20 • 48 min

Rachel Maine is on a mission to turn the world into a more sex-positive place. Through her company Wellness Sexpertise, Rachel gives people a comfortable space to own their sexual selves. She serves on the Board of Directors for Pure Romance, is a podcast host called Owning Your Sexual Self and works as a sex therapist within a private practice.
Rachel comes back to the You Glow Girl Podcast to discuss how society projects what is considered “professional” in the corporate and entrepreneurial world. Valerie and Rachel discuss how society has taught women that you must hide who you are, be modest and dress a certain way in order to maintain professionalism in any workplace. They share experiences from their corporate jobs and how they were sexualized because of society’s idea of women in a workplace.
Key Takeaways:
- Society ridicules women for who they are, especially in the corporate and entrepreneurial world.
- What you wear doesn’t define your skill set.
- Parents, teachers and adults teach young girls short skirts and tank tops are sexual and an inappropriate thing.
- Society has taught us that young girls are a sexual object based on what they wear.
- Despite what you are wearing, you deserve respect.
- Normalize what your kids are doing and embrace their personality.
Connect with Rachel:
https://www.instagram.com/the_rachel_maine/?hl=en
https://www.wellnesssexpertise.com/
https://www.facebook.com/pureromance.byrachel.12

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24. Let’s Talk About CONSENT with Sex Educator and Writer, Educator and Coach, Niki Davis-Fainbloom

Niki Davis-Fainbloom is a sexuality writer, educator and coach. She has worked at Mount Sinai Hospital for the past three years as a lecturer, training students and professionals about consent, sexual violence prevention and sexuality. She writes sex-ed articles for several magazines including Pornhub, Gen X Magazine and Future of Sex. The goal of her writing and workshops is to help people develop the skills to have healthier, sexier and more satisfying romantic and sexual relationships.
In this episode, Niki returns to the You Glow Girl Podcast to discuss the importance of consent in sex and relationships. She shares the misconceptions of consent and how it isn’t just for sex, but in also in our everyday activities. Niki and Valerie share their personal experiences with consent, or lack of. Since the “me too” movement, so many women have shared their personal experiences with sexual harrassment, assualt and rape. In a society where women are told to be modest, act like a lady and where the responsibility is placed on the women - we need to be educated our young adults about respect, consent and mutual exchanges.
Key Takeaways:
-Porn sites have become a form of education for consent and the treatment between a man and a woman when it should merely be treated as an entertainment platform.
-Consent isn’t always verbal and can be translated through body language as well.
-Unless it’s a hell yes, it’s a hell no!
-Being in a relationship doesn’t automatically guarantee consent.
-Consent isn’t just about sex. Consent is needed in every encounter or interaction you have, especially with strangers.
-Giving consent once doesn’t automatically guarantee ongoing consent.
-It is important to respect your partners’ answer the first time,repeatedly asking or guilting someone into a different answer is manipulative and toxic.
-Someone’s appearance, clothing or behavior is not an invitation or sexual harassment.
Consent Tea Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oQbei5JGiT8
Connect with Niki:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/niki-davis-7ba20a125/
https://www.instagram.com/missbloomsexeducator/
https://www.facebook.com/niki.davis.7

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26. We are Begging You to Vote in 2020, with Amanda Montgomery

Amanda Montgomery is a business lawyer who understands legal representation is not a one-size fits all endeavor. Passionate about empowering women, Amanda set her business' mission to help small businesses and entrepreneurs look out for their best interests.
Valerie welcomes Amanda Montgomery back on the podcast to discuss all the nitty, gritty details of voting, how to get accurate and current information on candidates, and why it is important to vote especially as a young adult. Now with more accessible political information, Amanda shares the dos and don’ts when reading political articles on social media and why it’s important to always fact check the stories. Most importantly, they discuss the importance of voting, even if you think it doesn’t affect you!
Key Takeaways:
-VOTE VOTE VOTE
- Make the effort to research and figure out your values to vote accordingly.
- Don’t believe everything you read on social media or online regarding politics.
- Be suspicious and question articles covering politics. They can sometimes be biased or missing important details to the story.
- It’s by design that young people are not encouraged to vote.
- You have to reprogram yourself to understand that you are powerful, and your vote does matter!
- Come into your power and voice to encourage others to vote, use your influence.
- The laws passed now will continue to have an effect on you down the years.
- Your vote has a ripple effect on every branch of government (local, state, federal).
- October 13-30th is early voting for Texas, make sure you are registered by October 5th.
Ballotpedia - shows voters their entire ballot based on their address.
Voterly - gives high level profiles of each candidate, along with donor history of incumbent candidates.
Know Your Vote - helps you compare candidates by their platforms and recent speeches and tweets.
Politifact - (nonpartisan) checks accuracy of tweets and speech comments from political candidates.
VoteTexas - (non-partisan) assists Texas voters with registration and request of mail-in ballot for eligible voters, along with instructions for voting locations and ballot contents. (This is also the Secretary of State's website.)
Connect with Amanda:
https://www.amontgomerylaw.com/
https://www.instagram.com/amontgomerylawyer/