How Self-Love=Better Communication; Kathryn's Story

08/18/22 • 30 min

Today we have another special guest –my client Kathryn! In this episode she shares a bit of the story of her journey from feeling really stuck in her marriage and unhappy with herself –what we playfully called, “I suck syndrome”--to feeling much happier with herself and her marriage.

Her story is a great example of how a highly sensitive woman– with classic HSP challenges in relationship–can really improve her marriage by working on herself.

She illustrates how you can transform your relationship with yourself, and therefore your communication and ways of relating to your partner (and your whole life), that will lead to way more fun, connection and happiness.

We dive into:

What NOT loving herself looked like, felt like, and how it affected her marriage
How things have shifted for her in terms of her emotions, her marriage, and her general enjoyment of life, now that she’s come a long way in accepting herself and bringing in more self-love.
What she did to really improve the communication in her marriage so both her and her husband have much better conversation about the things that matter.
How she went from being defended to being vulnerable, and how that led to more connection with her husband.
A couple great practices that really worked for her to help her make these big changes in herself and her marriage.
And more!

Kathryn is down to earth and has a straightforward way of articulating things that will help you get more insight into what self-love really is, what it entails to develop it, and how it will improve everything for the better in your life when you do.

You’ll take away so much from this conversation!
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Her story is a great example of how a highly sensitive woman– with classic HSP challenges in relationship–can really improve her marriage by working on herself.

We dive into:

What NOT loving herself looked like, felt like, and how it affected her marriage
How things have shifted for her in terms of her emotions, her marriage, and her general enjoyment of life, now that she’s come a long way in accepting herself and bringing in more self-love.
What she did to really improve the communication in her marriage so both her and her husband have much better conversation about the things that matter.
How she went from being defended to being vulnerable, and how that led to more connection with her husband.
A couple great practices that really worked for her to help her make these big changes in herself and her marriage.
And more!

You’ll take away so much from this conversation!
ENJOYING THE SHOW?

Get the HSHM Podcast Map, so you can quickly identify the episodes most helpful for your unique relationship, by supporting the podcast (for as little as $3) HERE.
Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe via Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Stitcher.
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Previous Episode

The Power of Marriage Goals

090 Once we get married, most of us stop having any goals in our marriages. This is one reason marriages often slowly get worse over time, instead of better.

Setting marriage goals, and working towards them is a key to actually making your marriage what you want and having the experiences of love, connection, intimacy and fun you most long for. And can be done in a fun and self-honoring way.

But here's the thing: we are often (subconsciously or consciously) very resistant to setting and especially working towards goals.

This leaves us continuing to have the same old problems in our marriages–or to them getting worse and worse over time, until we feel truly stuck in an unhappy marriage.

But you can change that easily, by understanding:

what goals will do for your marriage,
why our human brains resist them,
and what you can do to overcome and work with your brain –so you can start really changing things in the best of ways in your marriage.

In this episode, you’ll get a 4 step process to set your goals for your marriage and actually reach them, without letting the normal obstacles that come up get in your way (i.e lack of clarity, doubt, discomfort, fear, and our brains innate laziness).

You don’t have to be one of the people who avoid the short-lived discomfort of working towards a goal, only to be left with a lifetime of discomfort in their marriage. No, today we get you all set up to make your marriage one of lifelong love and happiness that GROWs overtime. Don't miss this episode!
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Next Episode

Communicate In A Way That Gets Through To Your Husband (3 Keys)

092 You want to get through to your husband about things that matter to you in your relationship. You want his understanding, empathy, support– and more connection.
But maybe you’re frustrated, because it doesn't always go over so well when you try to communicate about it. Maybe he gets defensive, or argumentative, or shut down.
This is because you both have patterning that isn’t supportive of the best communication and easy flow of support and connection.
But that can change. You can learn to communicate in a way that is most effective at getting through to him, and opening his heart.
In this episode, I share 3 specific powerful keys as to how you can do that, (they really work!) and help you understand why he isn’t always so good at hearing you, acting on your requests, or meeting those desires of yours (hint: it has to do with shame and conditioning that has wounded him).
Don't miss this episode if you want to communicate in a way that touches your husband's true humanity, opens his heart, and has him hearing you —and ultimately being who he really is and who he really WANTS to be with you, the woman he loves.
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