Stop Being a Victim! - With Dr. Robert Glover

09/18/24 • 69 min

Dr. Robert Glover is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and public speaker recognized for his work on overcoming "Nice Guy Syndrome." He wrote the self-help book "No More Mr. Nice Guy," a key resource in men's development and self-improvement. With over 30 years of clinical experience, Dr. Glover focuses on helping men reach their full potential through his courses, workshops, and website DrGlover.com. He also created Integration Nation, a men's program promoting healthy masculinity through accountability, community, and personal development.

In this episode of the podcast, Ralph talks with Dr. Robert Glover about "Nice Guy Syndrome" and its effects on men's mental health and relationships. Dr. Glover discusses his book "No More Mr. Nice Guy," its history, and its impact on men's self-help. He explains cultural and systemic reasons behind nice guy behaviors and emphasizes the need for accountability and community to address these issues.

Dr. Glover and Ralph discuss victimhood among men and how it can stop personal growth and continue negative behaviors. They talk about modern issues such as neurodivergence, loneliness, and social media's role in promoting victim narratives. Using personal stories, Dr. Glover highlights the importance of self-reflection, honesty, and active participation in personal development. He encourages men to seek mentors, join men's groups, and continually aim to improve all areas of their lives.

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Jamie Davis - Let's Talk Divorce

In this episode of the Help for Men podcast, Ralph sits down with Jaime Davis, a prominent family law attorney from Raleigh, North Carolina. With over two decades of experience in practicing family law, Jaime provides an in-depth look into the evolving trends in divorce and custody battles, particularly focusing on the challenges faced by men.

Jaime discusses the nuanced aspects of family law, emphasizing the importance of proper documentation and transparency, especially for business owners going through a divorce. She touches on the misconceptions surrounding child custody and alimony, revealing how the courts have become more gender-neutral over the years. Ralph and Jaime also explore the significance of mediation in divorce proceedings, highlighting its benefits over taking cases to court. Through this enlightening discussion, listeners will gain valuable insights into navigating the often tumultuous waters of divorce.

Key Takeaways:

Documentation is Crucial: Business owners should ensure their financial records are in order to avoid complications during divorce proceedings.
Increasing Role of Mediation: Jaime advocates for using mediation to resolve divorce cases, as it allows for more nuanced and personalized agreements.
Gender-Neutral Courts: Contrary to popular belief, courts are increasingly leaning towards 50-50 custody splits if both parents are capable and interested.
Importance of a Support Team: Assembling a team of professionals and a solid support network is essential for navigating the complexities of divorce.
Impact of Adultery: While infidelity can affect alimony, it often has limited impact on child custody and property distribution unless it involves financial misconduct.

Notable Quotes:

"Unfortunately, no. Divorce seems to be a part of life. When times are good, folks get divorced. And when times are bad, seems like more folks are getting divorced." - Jaime Davis
"You'll need a support team in place to help you... Your attorney, a therapist, a CPA, potentially a financial planner." - Jaime Davis
"Always consult with an attorney who is licensed in your particular state of residence." - Jaime Davis
"Fair is a four-letter word when it comes to divorce." - Jaime Davis
"Adultery is not all that relevant to a child custody claim unless it involves significant exposure to harm." - Jaime Davis

Resources:

Jaime Davis' Podcast: A Year and a Day: Divorce without Destruction
Law Firm: Gaylor, Hunt, Davis, Taylor & Gibbs
Jaime Davis’ Book: A Year and a Day: Divorce without Destruction (Available on Amazon)
Follow Jaime Davis: Link to Website

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Let's Talk About ATTACHMENT! - With Adam Lane Smith

In this conversation, Ralph and Adam Lane Smith ‪@AttachmentAdam‬ into the complexities of attachment theory and its relevance in modern relationships. Adam shares his journey of becoming an attachment expert and discusses the rise of interest in attachment styles, particularly how they affect men and women differently.

The conversation explores the consequences of avoidant and anxious attachment styles, the importance of emotional safety, and the need for stability in relationships. Adam emphasizes that fixing attachment issues can lead to healthier relationships and a better quality of life.

Adam Lane Smith and Ralph discuss the rising prevalence of attachment issues among adults and the importance of self-work and resilience in relationships. They explore the dynamics of personal growth, communication, and the necessity of managing anxiety. The discussion also touches on the dangers of avoidance and the red pill mentality, emphasizing the need for healthy relationships and the role of oxytocin in relationship satisfaction. Ultimately, they highlight the effort required for long-term relationships and the importance of finding resources and support for personal growth.

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