Help For Men

Dr. Robert Glover is a licensed marriage and family therapist, author, and public speaker recognized for his work on overcoming "Nice Guy Syndrome." He wrote the self-help book "No More Mr. Nice Guy," a key resource in men's development and self-improvement. With over 30 years of clinical experience, Dr. Glover focuses on helping men reach their full potential through his courses, workshops, and website DrGlover.com. He also created Integration Nation, a men's program promoting healthy masculinity through accountability, community, and personal development.

In this episode of the podcast, Ralph talks with Dr. Robert Glover about "Nice Guy Syndrome" and its effects on men's mental health and relationships. Dr. Glover discusses his book "No More Mr. Nice Guy," its history, and its impact on men's self-help. He explains cultural and systemic reasons behind nice guy behaviors and emphasizes the need for accountability and community to address these issues.

Dr. Glover and Ralph discuss victimhood among men and how it can stop personal growth and continue negative behaviors. They talk about modern issues such as neurodivergence, loneliness, and social media's role in promoting victim narratives. Using personal stories, Dr. Glover highlights the importance of self-reflection, honesty, and active participation in personal development. He encourages men to seek mentors, join men's groups, and continually aim to improve all areas of their lives.

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In this episode of the Help for Men podcast, Ralph sits down with Jaime Davis, a prominent family law attorney from Raleigh, North Carolina. With over two decades of experience in practicing family law, Jaime provides an in-depth look into the evolving trends in divorce and custody battles, particularly focusing on the challenges faced by men.

Jaime discusses the nuanced aspects of family law, emphasizing the importance of proper documentation and transparency, especially for business owners going through a divorce. She touches on the misconceptions surrounding child custody and alimony, revealing how the courts have become more gender-neutral over the years. Ralph and Jaime also explore the significance of mediation in divorce proceedings, highlighting its benefits over taking cases to court. Through this enlightening discussion, listeners will gain valuable insights into navigating the often tumultuous waters of divorce.

Key Takeaways:

• Documentation is Crucial: Business owners should ensure their financial records are in order to avoid complications during divorce proceedings.
• Increasing Role of Mediation: Jaime advocates for using mediation to resolve divorce cases, as it allows for more nuanced and personalized agreements.
• Gender-Neutral Courts: Contrary to popular belief, courts are increasingly leaning towards 50-50 custody splits if both parents are capable and interested.
• Importance of a Support Team: Assembling a team of professionals and a solid support network is essential for navigating the complexities of divorce.
• Impact of Adultery: While infidelity can affect alimony, it often has limited impact on child custody and property distribution unless it involves financial misconduct.

Notable Quotes:

1. "Unfortunately, no. Divorce seems to be a part of life. When times are good, folks get divorced. And when times are bad, seems like more folks are getting divorced." - Jaime Davis
2. "You'll need a support team in place to help you... Your attorney, a therapist, a CPA, potentially a financial planner." - Jaime Davis
3. "Always consult with an attorney who is licensed in your particular state of residence." - Jaime Davis
4. "Fair is a four-letter word when it comes to divorce." - Jaime Davis
5. "Adultery is not all that relevant to a child custody claim unless it involves significant exposure to harm." - Jaime Davis

Resources:

• Jaime Davis' Podcast: A Year and a Day: Divorce without Destruction
• Law Firm: Gaylor, Hunt, Davis, Taylor & Gibbs
• Jaime Davis’ Book: A Year and a Day: Divorce without Destruction (Available on Amazon)
• Follow Jaime Davis: Link to Website

Dr. Matt Zakreski is a clinical psychologist and an expert in neurodiversity. He is the founder of the Neurodiversity Collective and a recognized speaker on the topic. Known for his engaging presentations and educational seminars, Dr. Matt has contributed significantly to understanding the challenges and strengths of neurodivergent individuals. He is also an author and a sex educator, providing valuable resources and support for neurodivergent individuals across various platforms.

Dr. Matt dives deep into the intricacies of neurodivergent behavior, especially focusing on the unique challenges and opportunities it presents in the context of relationships. With a rich blend of personal anecdotes, professional insights, and practical advice, Dr. Matt illuminates how neurodivergent men can navigate their way through social and emotional landscapes.

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Dr. Samantha Rodman-Whiten is a clinical psychologist, author, and the creator of Dr. Psych Mom @drpsychmom . She runs a successful group practice, Best Life Behavioral Health, providing therapy and coaching to individuals globally. As a prolific content creator, she utilizes various platforms including her blog, the Doctor Psych Mom Show podcast, and social media to disseminate relationship advice and psychological insights. Samantha's expertise spans across anxiety, parenting, couple's counseling, and behavioral health. She is known for her pragmatism and empathetic approach towards understanding relationship dynamics.

In this episode, Ralph hosts Dr. Samantha Rodman-Whiten, also known as Dr. Psych Mom, for a riveting discussion on the evolving dynamics of modern relationships, focusing on the role psychology plays in areas such as marriage, sex, and parenting. The conversation kicks off with Samantha sharing her background and outlining her work with couples and individuals. Her insights into relationship challenges, especially around sex and marriage, provide listeners with a detailed look at the sometimes unromantic and pragmatic underpinnings of long-term relationships.

They delve deep into the concept of evolutionary psychology and the role it plays in shaping behaviors and expectations in relationships. Samantha dissects the "honeymoon phase" and its natural progression into routine, pointing out how cultural shifts and greater understanding of mental health influence couple's experiences over time. They also explore how societal changes have impacted the roles and perceptions of men and women within relationships, emphasizing the importance of effort and communication over innate romanticism for sustaining healthy partnerships.

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Dr. Orion Taraban (‪@psychacks‬) is a prominent psychologist and relationship expert known for his analytical and pragmatic approach to understanding human connections. With a growing presence on platforms like YouTube through his channel Psych Hacks, he offers insightful advice on the economics of relationships. Orion recently authored the book "The Value of Others," where he explores the intricacies of the sexual marketplace, providing readers with the tools to get and keep more of what they desire in their relationships. His work has been featured on major podcasts, including Modern Wisdom with Chris Williamson and Soft White Underbelly.

In this inaugural episode of the Help for Men podcast, host Ralph welcomes Dr. Orion Taraban, a well-respected figure in the field of relationship psychology, to discuss the evolving dynamics of modern relationships. Dr. Taraban brings his expertise to dissect the complexities of human connections, focusing on how economic principles shape dating and mating behaviors in today's society. With a pragmatic and often controversial perspective, he sheds light on why conventional wisdom about relationships might be flawed and how individuals can navigate the sexual marketplace more effectively.

Throughout the conversation, Dr. Taraban discusses the impact of technology on dating, the shift from need-based to desire-based relationships, and the crucial skills required to maintain high levels of desire in a partnership. He emphasizes the importance of adaptability and continuous self-improvement, likening the modern dating landscape to a competitive marketplace where understanding value is key. The episode concludes with actionable insights for men who find themselves lost in the new world of dating post-divorce or later in life, offering hope and strategies to thrive in an ever-changing environment.

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