
128 - Avoidant Attachment: The Real Reason They Pull Away
11/27/23 • 48 min
The avoidantly attached deserved some airtime. Are avoidantly attached individuals avoiding love or avoiding vulnerability, rejection and potential discomfort? In this heavily requested episode, this week Louise & clinical psychologist Dr. Tari Mack dive into the Avoidant Attachment Style, shed light on the motivations behind the avoidantly attached and also explore how those with the avoidant attachment view OTHERS (including the anxiously attached!).
The pair discuss:
- What’s really going on behind the Avoidant Attachment Style? (exploring the true drivers)
- The difference between the Dismissive Avoidant and the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
- How seeking comfort & sharing feelings is often thought of as ‘useless’ for the Avoidantly Attached
- The ties between childhood & the avoidant attachment style
- The specific triggers and fears related to this attachment style; and
- Why withdrawal, shutting down, seeking space to regulate - often without communicating - can impact a relationship
The pair also discuss the top triggers and fears of the avoidant attachment style and why things often go wrong, quickly, after having sex.
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The avoidantly attached deserved some airtime. Are avoidantly attached individuals avoiding love or avoiding vulnerability, rejection and potential discomfort? In this heavily requested episode, this week Louise & clinical psychologist Dr. Tari Mack dive into the Avoidant Attachment Style, shed light on the motivations behind the avoidantly attached and also explore how those with the avoidant attachment view OTHERS (including the anxiously attached!).
The pair discuss:
- What’s really going on behind the Avoidant Attachment Style? (exploring the true drivers)
- The difference between the Dismissive Avoidant and the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
- How seeking comfort & sharing feelings is often thought of as ‘useless’ for the Avoidantly Attached
- The ties between childhood & the avoidant attachment style
- The specific triggers and fears related to this attachment style; and
- Why withdrawal, shutting down, seeking space to regulate - often without communicating - can impact a relationship
The pair also discuss the top triggers and fears of the avoidant attachment style and why things often go wrong, quickly, after having sex.
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https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_
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💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories
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127 - Adult ADHD, ADHD diagnosis + Masking Ft. Dr Jenna Vyas-Lee
Everyone thinks that they have ADHD these days - but why? Today, Louise talks with clinical psychologist, Dr. Jenna Vyas-Lee about how social media is spreading the word about ADHD and whether self-diagnosis is a good or a bad thing.
The pair discuss:
🧠 The rise of ADHD in the mainstream media
🧠 How ADHD manifests differently for men and women
🧠 Late diagnosis of ADHD and why this seems to be picking up the pace
🧠 Stimming, masking and the connection to being female
🧠 Clarity around the overlap between ADHD and autism
🧠 And the incredible power in embracing being a little bit neurospicy
The duo also delves into the magic and challenges of getting a diagnosis, and Dr. Jenna provides you with the inside scoop on how to navigate this process.
Join us on an important discussion as we start to deep dive into ADHD and how to live, and thrive, with this diagnosis.
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129 - A Therapist on Alix Earle & Avoidant Attachment
LOVE Alix Earle. Did you know she is avoidantly attached! Today, Louise sits down with clinical psychologist and celebrity relationship expert Dr. Tari Mack to dissect all things Alix Earle & Braxton Berrios. The pair discuss recent soundbites from Alix Earle discussing her romantic life and use these to get inside the mind of the Avoidantly Attached so we can better understand those who relate to Aix.
Louise & Dr. Tari discuss:
- The roots of avoidant attachment to childhood
- How unconscious attraction keeps us replicating our past patterns
- How her Father’s infidelity shaped her and developed a ‘trust wound’
- The impact of family communication styles on adult attachment
- ‘Independence vs. Hyper Independence’ and how an emphasis on independence can lead to distancing behaviors
- Viewing relationships as ‘hard work’ requiring ‘lots of time, attention and investment’
The pair also discuss ‘The Trust Wound’ and the impact of its ability to trust others around us, particularly in dating.
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