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123 - How to heal from cheating and infidelity

Healing Honeys (formerly OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball)

10/27/23 • 42 min

#123 - Why can some people stay and make it work after infidelity whereas this feels impossible and doesn’t work out for others? This week, after obsessing over all things BECKHAM, Louise & Dr. Tari Mack discuss whether you should ‘stay’ or ‘go’ after infidelity and cheating: The pair cover:

Why some people stay after infidelity (and how you can make that work)
The Sunken Costs Theory & how this can impact your decision to stay or go
Whether you should stay for the sake of time invested, children, or family
The importance of a ‘double-team-rebuild’
The impact of our childhood experiences on our adult perceptions of infidelity
How low self-esteem and low self-trust can leave us staying in relationships we should leave
Why some people just truly can’t get over betrayal or infidelity
How infidelity can open up our deepest wounds, even when time has passed
What a partner needs to do to lead, rebuild, and direct the process, while also allowing the other person
How cheating can show you the ‘truth’ of a person if they have a personality disorder that points to repeated cheating
How to bring some ‘reality’ to the ‘fairy tale ending’ you are hoping for

⭐ This episode is supported by the ‘They Cheated, Should I Stay Or Should I Go’ Guide, a 39-page therapy e-book that offers valuable insights on navigating the aftermath of infidelity. Dr. Tari provides a comprehensive 10-step process and presents 10 essential questions to consider before making any crucial decisions. This is the therapy journey ⭐

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119 - Being needy in love / the fear of abandonment

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10/09/23 • 50 min

Do you need people close to feel safe? Do you think they might always leave? They’re probably not going to stay. If these statements are relatable, this episode is for you. Today, Louise and Stephanie discuss the abandonment wound, how you can have the wound *without* being abandoned and how it can drive us to overcompensate, cling, and pull others closer.

The pair talk about the concept of ‘overcompensating’ to the abandonment wound, as well as:

The neurobiological roots of abandonment
The roots of clingy behavior and over giving
The concept of pulling and keeping people close
The subconscious patterns at play, as well as repeating cycles
Why if it's hysterical, it's often historical
And more

This is a critical episode to help you understand how your abandonment wound shows up in your life, and how you can start to work to heal it. Understanding & conscious awareness is the first step in the healing journey.

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115 - Meeting an Ex: When to Do It and When to Walk Away

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09/11/23 • 40 min

There are some situations when meeting an ex is necessary, and some where it is NOT. Today, in Part 2 of the ‘Ex Factor - when should I meet up with an ex’ series, Louise & clinical psychologist Dr. Tari Mack get into that question. They discuss:

Collecting and exchanging stuff
When meeting an ex is an absolute necessity and when it's a big NO
The Checklist - discussing intentions, expectations, time frames and healing
How to handle mutual friends, parties and co-parenting
The importance of setting boundaries and considering the impact on others when meeting with an ex

Plus, to send or not to send? They also discuss the age old ‘writing a letter to an ex’ - should you send it, should you not? Dr. Tari and Louise have slightly different opinions on this one. Join us to work out where you stand on the ‘send it, or don’t send it’ spectrum.

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116 - Emotional eating, binge eating + the nervous system

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09/18/23 • 51 min

Have you learned about the crazy connection between food and our nervous system yet? Understanding your nervous system (and polyvagal theory) could overhaul your relationship with eating and food. Is food the ultimate drug and most widely available method of self soothing? Does it help us understand why we reach for food, when we may need to reach for something else? Today we ask: are you hungry for love, or hungry for food, or is your nervous system crying out for help?

Louise is joined by integrative health practitioner, Sarah Murphy, as they have a totally new way of looking at comfort eating, binge eating and your relationship with food.

The pair discuss:

How childhood shapes our relationship with food
Hunger for love, hunger for bonding & the oxytocin deficiency theory
Why feeling loved, seen, heard and cherished can reduce emotional eating or binge eating
Why we eat when we’re not hungry (pleasure, calming and self soothing)
Understanding the impact of stress on our appetite and how it affects our relationship with food
The connection between nervous system regulation, dysregulation, the vagus nerve and our emotional eating patterns.

+ The Ladder Analogy - how food can take you through different states of the nervous system when we need to learn to ‘scaffold’ on our own.

Sarah also delivers us a suite of top tips and tricks on how to break this emotional eating cycle covering lifestyle changes, cold plunging, bodywork, gut health, supplement recommendations, and more.

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136 - Why You Feel Empty (and How to Heal) ft. Dr Jonice Webb

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12/25/23 • 51 min

Do you have big emotions or nearly none at all? Do you feel blocked off from others even when you want to connect? Ever wondered why intimacy seems to be so easy for everyone else? If yes, this episode is for you. This one is for the people who had ‘good parents’ and a ‘good childhood’ and objectively ‘not much to complain about’ but still don’t seem to have found the answers, solutions or connections in intimacy that they were hoping for.

Today, Louise is joined by Dr. Jonice Webb, leading clinical psychologist in the space of childhood emotional neglect to discuss how a parent’s failure to notice, acknowledge or respond to your emotions and emotional needs can deeply shape the adult that shows up in the dating and friendship world today.

The pair discuss how:

Our brain registers what ‘happened’ more than what didn’t happen (& how our childhood can impact our ventral striatum)
Having our feelings invalidated (being told they are wrong or excessive) or that emotions are a burden is very damaging for children
The concept of ‘walling off’ our feelings (so they happen outside of our awareness) + how this shows up in adulthood
The concepts of emotional numbness, emotional suppression and emotional disconnection
How these experiences can impact our self-worth, self-esteem and relational health
A lack of emotional attunement and validation in childhood can lead to a lack of self care in adulthood

The pair also discuss a journey towards warmth, connection and recovery. They talk about HOW to break down emotional walls and allow oneself to feel, facing neglected emotions, finding meaning and purpose.

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122 - Shadow Work, Manifestation, Money and Financial Trauma

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10/23/23 • 52 min

95% of our lives are controlled by our subconscious mind, not the conscious mind that we function from daily. Is this ‘hard drive of life’ the one that holds our ‘story’ and where the key to real healing and changing lives? To really change, do we have to step outside of the 'talk therapy' room and dive into the subconscious mind, our shadows, the somatic and the stories that our bodies have held for a long time?

Today, Louise & Zack Alexander discuss:

Their only personal journeys and how talk therapy was only part of the puzzle
The power of the subconscious mind + what is shadow work?
Whether your limiting beliefs wired into your subconscious are impacting your physical 3D reality and blocking your ability to ‘live your best life’
The truth behind chronic illnesses
Handling and healing shame and toxic shame
Spiritual bypassing and the communities of Bali and Tulum
How a ‘spiritual awakening’ and a ‘spiritual path’ can help you find the real you (but can be a gnarly AF journey!)
The importance of community, attunement and connection

The pair also discuss how subconsciously ‘needing’, ‘desiring’ or ‘hating’ money can impact our career success and general wellbeing, as well as all of the things that might be blocking your financial abundance or monetary manifestations.

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121 - High sex drive, low sex drive & turn ons ft. Dr Massimo Fontana

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10/20/23 • 33 min

Ever wondered why you’re not ready for sex at the drop of a hat? Or, maybe you are, and your partner isn’t? Enter stage right: the two types of sex drives that you NEED to learn about: the responsive and the spontaneous.

In today’s episode, Louise and clinical sexologist Dr. Massimo Fontana explore the responsive vs. spontaneous sex drives and why often people think they have mismatched libidos but actually they have different sex drive types and styles - and why understanding the difference is SO important for for understanding our sexual pleasure and relationships.

The pair discuss:

❤️‍🔥 Two types of sex drives: spontaneous and responsive

❤️‍ What triggers each sex drive into action

❤️‍🔥 How to identify which sex drive type you have

❤️‍🔥 How to communicate this to your partner to modify and optimize your intimate moments

❤️‍🔥 How to not ‘over categorize’ yourself and learn to flow between the two

The pair also discuss the different types of ‘cues’ that turn different people on and how visual, auditory and kinesthetic cues are *probably* another part of our sex lives that they never taught us about at school.

In this episode, we unravel the dynamics of sex drives, helping you enhance your intimate connections with yourself and any lucky person in your life.

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120 - Self-sabotaging love + the fear of abandonment

Healing Honeys (formerly OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball)

10/16/23 • 43 min

Not everyone "clings" to people to prevent people leaving. Some people surrender to the abandonment wound and engage, repeatedly, with people who ‘always leave’. Others will avoid intimacy totally, so as not to get hurt, and others will punish people when they let us down or try to leave us.

Today, in part 2 of the OPENHOUSE Abandonment Wound Series, Louise & Stephanie explore:

The concept of surrendering to the abandonment wound.
The connection between the abandonment wound and the father wound.
The hope associated with surrendering to both the father wound and the abandonment wound.
How the abandonment wound can manifest as a self-fulfilling prophecy.
The link between low self-worth and the abandonment wound.
Counterattack: Why we engage in self-sabotage and punish others when they withdraw.
Avoidance of intimacy: Exploring why some people steer clear of closeness to avoid the fear of abandonment.

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62 - Anxious attachment and dating

Healing Honeys (formerly OPENHOUSE with Louise Rumball)

11/15/22 • 41 min

⭐ ACCESS THE SOMATIC / NERVOUS SYSTEM CLASSES THAT HEALED MY ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT STYLE!: HERE ⭐

Therapy PDFs:

⇢The Ultimate Guide - How to navigate & heal your anxious attachment style when dating - A 26 page PDF guide created by clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack & Louise Rumball - linked HERE

⇢The Ultimate Script - How to communicate your anxious attachment style when dating - a 14 Page Script PDF - linked HERE

⇢ The Ultimate Guide - How to navigate & heal your anxious attachment style when dating - A 26 page PDF guide created by clinical psychologist Dr Tari Mack & Louise Rumball - linked HERE

⇢ The Ultimate Script - How to communicate your anxious attachment style when dating - a 14 Page Script PDF - linkedHERE

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Do you feel full of dread every time you go on a date, or when it has ended? Do you constantly focus on whether they are into you or whether they’re going to text back or ask you out again - rather than focusing on getting to know you? Do you hate it when they don’t reply, or are sat online and constantly wonder if they are about to ghost you or reject you? If you’re anxiously attached and in the dating world- it’s painful, and you’re not alone.

Louise talks with Dr Tari Mack, clinical psychologist and relationship expert on how to make the dating world a little more manageable.

The pair talk:

⇢ Why dating and an anxious attachment style do not mix well together

⇢ The 6 things you need to understand to navigate the dating stage more easily

⇢ The concept of neutral, negative and positive cues when dating

⇢ How and when you can start talking about things they do that trigger you

⇢ When you should talk about your anxious attachment (and how)

⇢ The psychology of words and actions aligning

⇢ The concept of ‘communication’ and then ‘observation’

And more

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