
123 - How to heal from cheating and infidelity
10/27/23 • 42 min
#123 - Why can some people stay and make it work after infidelity whereas this feels impossible and doesn’t work out for others? This week, after obsessing over all things BECKHAM, Louise & Dr. Tari Mack discuss whether you should ‘stay’ or ‘go’ after infidelity and cheating: The pair cover:
- Why some people stay after infidelity (and how you can make that work)
- The Sunken Costs Theory & how this can impact your decision to stay or go
- Whether you should stay for the sake of time invested, children, or family
- The importance of a ‘double-team-rebuild’
- The impact of our childhood experiences on our adult perceptions of infidelity
- How low self-esteem and low self-trust can leave us staying in relationships we should leave
- Why some people just truly can’t get over betrayal or infidelity
- How infidelity can open up our deepest wounds, even when time has passed
- What a partner needs to do to lead, rebuild, and direct the process, while also allowing the other person
- How cheating can show you the ‘truth’ of a person if they have a personality disorder that points to repeated cheating
- How to bring some ‘reality’ to the ‘fairy tale ending’ you are hoping for
⭐ This episode is supported by the ‘They Cheated, Should I Stay Or Should I Go’ Guide, a 39-page therapy e-book that offers valuable insights on navigating the aftermath of infidelity. Dr. Tari provides a comprehensive 10-step process and presents 10 essential questions to consider before making any crucial decisions. This is the therapy journey ⭐
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#123 - Why can some people stay and make it work after infidelity whereas this feels impossible and doesn’t work out for others? This week, after obsessing over all things BECKHAM, Louise & Dr. Tari Mack discuss whether you should ‘stay’ or ‘go’ after infidelity and cheating: The pair cover:
- Why some people stay after infidelity (and how you can make that work)
- The Sunken Costs Theory & how this can impact your decision to stay or go
- Whether you should stay for the sake of time invested, children, or family
- The importance of a ‘double-team-rebuild’
- The impact of our childhood experiences on our adult perceptions of infidelity
- How low self-esteem and low self-trust can leave us staying in relationships we should leave
- Why some people just truly can’t get over betrayal or infidelity
- How infidelity can open up our deepest wounds, even when time has passed
- What a partner needs to do to lead, rebuild, and direct the process, while also allowing the other person
- How cheating can show you the ‘truth’ of a person if they have a personality disorder that points to repeated cheating
- How to bring some ‘reality’ to the ‘fairy tale ending’ you are hoping for
⭐ This episode is supported by the ‘They Cheated, Should I Stay Or Should I Go’ Guide, a 39-page therapy e-book that offers valuable insights on navigating the aftermath of infidelity. Dr. Tari provides a comprehensive 10-step process and presents 10 essential questions to consider before making any crucial decisions. This is the therapy journey ⭐
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🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍
https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys
https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/
https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_
https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/
💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline
💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories
HEAL WITH LOUISE
✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion
✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop
✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up
✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up
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122 - Shadow Work, Manifestation, Money and Financial Trauma
95% of our lives are controlled by our subconscious mind, not the conscious mind that we function from daily. Is this ‘hard drive of life’ the one that holds our ‘story’ and where the key to real healing and changing lives? To really change, do we have to step outside of the 'talk therapy' room and dive into the subconscious mind, our shadows, the somatic and the stories that our bodies have held for a long time?
Today, Louise & Zack Alexander discuss:
- Their only personal journeys and how talk therapy was only part of the puzzle
- The power of the subconscious mind + what is shadow work?
- Whether your limiting beliefs wired into your subconscious are impacting your physical 3D reality and blocking your ability to ‘live your best life’
- The truth behind chronic illnesses
- Handling and healing shame and toxic shame
- Spiritual bypassing and the communities of Bali and Tulum
- How a ‘spiritual awakening’ and a ‘spiritual path’ can help you find the real you (but can be a gnarly AF journey!)
- The importance of community, attunement and connection
The pair also discuss how subconsciously ‘needing’, ‘desiring’ or ‘hating’ money can impact our career success and general wellbeing, as well as all of the things that might be blocking your financial abundance or monetary manifestations.
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https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/
https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_
https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/
💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline
💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories
HEAL WITH LOUISE
✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion
✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop
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124 - Healing heartbreak with hypnosis ft. Dr David Spiegel
This week, we are gifting you a 2 week trial of Reveri, the leading global self-hypnosis app to help you move through heartbreak quicker. ⭐ For 2 weeks free of Reveri, just tap this link from your mobile: reverihealth.app.link/openhouse ⭐
Can you reprogram your mind to deprogram the ex you can't get over? Today, we’re exploring all things 'self-hypnosis' and how to start getting your brain to work 'for you' rather than working against you during those times of deep heartbreak, loss, grief, and sadness.
We’ve all been there—the breakup you cannot get over. It’s a mental, physical, and emotional rollercoaster, and hearing ‘it will pass’ and 'time will heal all' sometimes doesn’t help us at all.
This week, Louise asks leading American psychiatrist and Stanford Professor, Dr. David Spiegel, how his clinically backed, evidence-based self-hypnosis app Reveri can help you work *with* your biology to move through some of the most difficult times of our lives.
The pair discuss:
- What self-hypnosis actually is
- Why you need to heal your biology, not just your 'psychology,' to heal your heartbreak faster
- How we can use these states of highly focused attention to start creating new thoughts, beliefs, stories, and pathways—rather than the ones we get fixated on and play repeatedly
- The importance of cognitive flexibility in the grieving process and how this contributes to the development of new perspectives concerning the past, present, and future
- How self-hypnosis contributes to building confidence and STOPS you from thinking you were the only problem in the relationship
- How neuroplasticity allows for the formation of new neural patterns and behaviors, including the development of new stories and beliefs
- How self-hypnosis can help you open your mind to meeting someone new; and
- How hypnosis can also help with stress, pain, and grief, and how we can learn to work with the pain we are feeling in our body
Dr. Spiegel has created Reveri so you can access all his sessions in 1 app.
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🤍 FOLLOW LOUISE / HEALING HONEYS 🤍
https://www.youtube.com/@healinghoneys
https://www.instagram.com/iamlouiserumball/
https://www.tiktok.com/@healinghoneys_
https://www.instagram.com/healinghoneys/
💌 Submit a question to the Healing Honeys Hotline
💌 TRASH TALKS: Submit Your Awful Dating Stories
HEAL WITH LOUISE
✨ 7 Day Somatic Healing Trial: Daily Devotion
✨ Therapy + Healing PDFs: Therapy Shop
✨ 7 Day Free Confidence Queen Overhaul: Waitlist Sign Up
✨ There She Glows: 12 Week Life Transformation: Waitlist Sign Up
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