#1.32 Discomfort change = Happiness!

03/03/20 • 35 min

Happiness-Matters in Midlife - for Professional Women

This week, coach Julia Seal dives into the topic of Change and Change Management as it applies to us and changing ourselves on our happiness coaching journey.

We explore why change is hard, why we believe "You can't teach an old dog new tricks" and we find out why it's just so difficult to stick to our goals, our New Year's Resolutions - why we're not like Billy Ocean's song "When the Going gets Tough..."!

Discover how we continue to add to our unhappiness and emotional suffering every day just by resisting the Reality of Change. How resisting the reality of impermanence, one of Buddha's 4 Noble Truths, gets us stuck in the Circle of Chaos and Pity City. Knowing how and why our brains resist change holds a key secret for us.

Then, find out why changing ourselves is actually NOT HARD > why we're actually good at it... and how to use our current change skills for our happiness coaching!

Use the discoveries in Neuroscience, led by William James and Michael Merzenich, to change how we think about our brains in change and how we can use this knowledge to further our self coaching.

Then... we "add wood to the fire" just as experienced meditators do, in order to understand why "getting used to being uncomfortable" is such a vital skill in your happiness - why "discomfort is the currency of your dreams.

Finally, learn how to coach yourself "over the edge" of your changing horizons by understanding the world of Edge Work from ORSC team coaching - Julia shares an example here from her own self-coaching around procrastinating her To-Do List.

And of course, learn more about how the Midlife transition of Menopause is your best opening for this work of change - your best time for metamorphosis, your best chance for deep Happiness, ever!

Lastly, Julia briefly wraps up the 17-part Negative Emotions mini-coaching journey within Series 1: Defining - Assessing - Visioning - just so we can see where we are before we embark on our next exciting step.

" May you be Happy, May you be Free - there is no better time to coach together!"

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This week, coach Julia Seal dives into the topic of Change and Change Management as it applies to us and changing ourselves on our happiness coaching journey.

Then, find out why changing ourselves is actually NOT HARD > why we're actually good at it... and how to use our current change skills for our happiness coaching!

Use the discoveries in Neuroscience, led by William James and Michael Merzenich, to change how we think about our brains in change and how we can use this knowledge to further our self coaching.

And of course, learn more about how the Midlife transition of Menopause is your best opening for this work of change - your best time for metamorphosis, your best chance for deep Happiness, ever!

" May you be Happy, May you be Free - there is no better time to coach together!"

All free Coaching Tools - https://happiness-matters.coach/free/

Subscribe to Julia's blog

Learn more at http://www.happiness-matters.coach or start coaching with us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/HappinessMattersCoach/

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#1.31.Q&A - Ending Powerlessness in you & others

In this Q&A for our negative emotions coaching journey, we look at Inner Power and Powerlessness: what to do to balance power and when to intervene in unhealthy conflict and toxic behaviours at home and work.

We discover why powerlessness is at the root of all this toxicity and what we can do about it - for ourselves and for others.

Firstly, Coach Julia Seal, looks at exactly what's happening in our brains when we're in relationships where power is abused, exploring what's happening whether we are Victims or Persecutors. This guides us to use the best response of all, taking The High Road, balancing the power. Here, we discover the magic of the whole thing: we need be the only ones to do this, no matter who is indulging in Contempt, Criticism, Blame, Defensiveness or Stonewalling!

How to find our Inner, rather than external, Power leads us to a step-by-step process of building Inner Power and practicing it every day - how to coach our own powerlessness, using our Coaching Tools to support you.

Then, Julia looks at powerlessness and what to do if you're a manager or HR and have to intervene to "sort out that difficult person". She explains how to intervene in unhealthy conflict effectively from a coach's perspective that includes some intriguing ideas: cleaning up the inside of your brain, getting yourself to neutral, activating your inner wisdom as well as the power of role-modeling and the art of invitation into change. You can end Kindergarten-like conflict behaviour!

Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, Gandhi, Donald Rumsfeld, Socrates, Scottish band Runrig and South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission add further insight into this last episode on coaching our negative emotions, our unhappiness and how to FEEL better.

" May you be Happy, May you be Free - there is no better time to coach together!"

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#1.33 The Science of your Happiness

We're off this week to deepen your definition of Happiness and Success - what is Happiness for you, exactly!

We start this exploration with an overview of our 8-foundational pillars of Happiness Wisdom from around the world and through history. This includes outlining the 4 leading academic models coming out of the scientific study of happiness.

This is the start of our exploration of constructs, such as Flow, Engagement, Purpose, Kindness and Achievement and where you get to decide which of these is essential to your own version of happiness and success.

As we start coaching ourselves from this angle, Julia Seal introduces Socratic Ignorance or Socratic Wisdom as a way to kick-start the changes you want to make in your life, on our happiness coaching journey together.

She links the coaching ahead with the coaching we've done so far in Series 1 - from the core Coaching episodes to the insight sessions and through the recent negative emotions mini-coaching journey. This session is full of useful links to past episodes and free Coaching Tools.

It's also Julia's birthday this week - on a day when the world's mathematicians are reciting Pi and eating pie and it's the week of the World Happiness Summit (WOHASU) - home of the Global Happiness Movement too!

" May you be Happy, May you be Free - there is no better time to coach together!"

All free Coaching Tools - https://happiness-matters.coach/free/

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Learn more at http://www.happiness-matters.coach or start coaching with us on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/HappinessMattersCoach/