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Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad

Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad

Ryan and Rebekah Frost

This is the Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad Podcast with hosts Ryan and Rebekah Frost. The show where we talk about our journey through parenthood. We have two boys under the age of 4 and are only in the early phases of parenting. We are not going to pretend that we have it all together or figured out. This is about our experiences and the things we are wrestling with and learning along the way. We hope you enjoy the ride as we share our stories and talk to other parents and affirm the never ending process of learning to be a parent!
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Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad - 002: Rebekah Sleeps Sitting Up, Ryan Gets TONS of Sleep!
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01/16/19 • 21 min

Ryan asks Rebekah, “How do you get through the day when you are very tired? “

Rebekah talks about how sleep deprivation is blowing up her world right now and not in a good way. It’s been going on for a long time since she is nursing our youngest Ari.

Ari grew out of the co-sleeper bed and we live in a one bedroom apartment with two kids who sleep in the room with us. Liam has a toddler bed in the corner, and we set up a pack and play for Ari, but he will not sleep in it. So Rebekah holds the baby all night in bed. She has worked it out so he fits in a good spot, but she ends up sleeping sitting up. She is getting out of that stage and things are getting better.

When Liam was a baby, it was a whole different story. We had a traumatic birth which prevented Rebekah from being able to nurse him. Ryan ended up sharing the feeding responsibilities which formed a special bond with Ryan and Liam. For a long time, he only wanted Ryan to put him to bed at night.

Now since Rebekah is nursing, Ari refuses a bottle and Ryan gets TONS of sleep!

We are beginning to move into a new stage where Ari is able to eat real food! He loves those baby-food-squeeze-packs. This is allowing Ryan to start helping with feeding and Rebekah is able to get out of the house with friends...but not without feeling baby-withdrawals.

Our 3 year old savors his food, which we just realized. We share a story about how he recently got a cake pop from his Grandmother and made it last for 2 days! The other day, he was given a Starbucks card with 5 dollars on it. We let him pick out chocolate milk and pay for it himself....it was the first time he had ever had chocolate milk and it blew his mind. He would only take the tiniest sips to make it last as long as possible. He would tell us, “I need to save it for later”...

We have a feeling that Ari, is going to have the opposite relationship with food and that we may need to guard Liam’s food from him.

Rebekah shares a poop story — Our toddler playing with his poop in the shower!

Newsflash: We have successfully potty trained Liam!! We utilized bribery and hollowed candy. This has changed our lives!!! Sometimes we think things will never change or get better. But then something clicks and we move onto the next stage.

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Rebekah brings up a quote “Dear God please let me not raise the child that I was, or the child I wish I had, but let me raise the child that I have”...It had never crossed her mind that she might try to raise her kids as if they were just like her growing up. Ryan and Rebekah discuss the idea of not projecting personal context on our kids. Just because they are our offspring, it does not mean they will be just like us and experience the same things the same way we did. It is important to utilize personal context and experience, but to make sure to remember that our children are different people. For Rebekah, this means that she needs to pay more attention to each kid and analyze each situation in it’s own merit.

Ryan digs into some internet memes on parenting which brings up some personal reflection moments on how Ryan used to be an “arm-chair-parent” before having kids.

Ryan talks about a great piece of advice somebody gave him to keep sane while parenting: “Establish a consequence and follow through if the child disobeys”. In other words, warn them they are going to get a time out, and if the child disobeys, give them a time out...no drama....Sort of. Ryan and Rebekah talk about the reality of following through on this advice.

[11:20] Playing Inside vs. outside.

This is different for Ryan because he as at work all day and Rebekah is home all day with the kids. Rebekah was noticing that when Liam is inside, he does imaginative play, but it’s very short lived and jumps from project to project. She notices when they go outside, his attention span increases. Ryan notices that he can go “forever” outside. He finds creative things (leaves, sticks, bugs) to play with.

Ryan brings up an article from psychology today that talks about the brain development advantages of playing outside. [Source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/moral-landscapes/201404/whats-better-indoor-or-outdoor-play]

We live in a second story apartment, so it is harder to go outside. Especially because we are so tired all the time and we can’t let Liam go run outside by himself. If we had a backyard, it would be much easier. It’s city life, which is different than how we grew up as kids. Rebekah talks about what it was like growing up in her home.

Ryan points out that there is a thing called “Nature Deficit Disorder” (according to Psychology Today article).

Ryan and Rebekah share experiences of playing outside when they were kids. We also grew up before video games were a thing.

The challenge for Rebekah and Ryan is: What do you do when you are too tired??

[22:00] Parenting Pet Peeves

Being constantly tired is a major parenting pet peeve. We ask the audience to share their advice in the comments.

Ryan struggles with being patient. This is a personal pet peeve for him. He wants things to happen quickly and struggles to let Liam jump in and help —which takes longer.

Bekah does not like “mom-chit-chat”. It can feel like comparison between moms which is frustrating. Ryan loves “mom-chit-chat” conversations...

Conclusion: we are all wired differently. We need to be the best version of who we are, so our kids can be the best version of who they are!

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Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad - 008: Getting Sick, Thermometer Drama, Parental Instincts
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02/18/19 • 30 min

We just got better from being sick...the kinda sick that is not bad enough to stay in bed, but ...it’s miserable.

**NOTE: We are NOT giving medical advice, only sharing anecdotes and our experiences. Nothing in this episode should be considered advice. Please consult a physician with any medical concerns.**

When one person gets sick...everybody gets sick. The whole ordeal can last anywhere from a week to a month!

Wintertime, especially the holidays is when people start dropping like flies.

Liam and Bekah were both sick up through Christmas Eve this year. We were traveling and staying with family, so we quarantined ourselves.

Liam was especially fascinated by “barfing”. He would ask for juice so he could barf more. NO!!! Yuk. He would end up barfing all over the floor and Ryan would end up walking through it.

Ryan tried to keep his distance from the sick room only going in when needed. Poor Bekah!

The quarantine worked! Nobody else got the flu!

The thing about toddlers is—you never know if they are barfing from excitement, or if they have a terrible stomach flu.

Playground equipment is an especially precarious scenario ...there was a season where Ryan debated letting Liam play on playgrounds because he did not want to have the consequence of the whole family being sick for three weeks. In the end though, he would let Liam play.

No matter what you do, people are going to get sick.

THERMOMETER DRAMA [8:45]

You would think thermometers would be straightforward.

Not at all.

There are way too many thermometers to choose from. Our doctor recommended the kind you run across the forehead. Ryan’s friend recently let him know we had been using the stupid thermometer the wrong way.

We discuss our troubles with wildly various results using thermometers which adds to the chaos of parenting.

We now have three different kinds of thermometers. Including an infrared sensor thermometer that would line up red lights on the forehead, but that would also give us unreliable readings.

One time, our youngest was getting high readings and lower readings, so we decided to go get a rectal thermometer. A horrifying proposal. But we needed to know if we had to take him to the doctor...Ryan bought the thermometer and Rebekah figured out how to use it...all that to say, his temperature was normal.

The other thing that is frustrating about thermometers is traveling...when you forget to bring them. We spend more money replacing thermometers that we already own.

For Rebekah, the thing about getting sick as the mother, is that it’s not fair because she is taking care of everyone and no-one is there to take care of her....Yup. she threw Ryan under the bus.

When parents get sick: life is already impossible with life and kids. But being sick adds that extra layer. Everything begins to fall apart, because nothing is getting done. Thats just how it is. It’s part of familydom.

What do you do if your kid is starting to feel sick, do you cancel everything? Or what if you find out other families are not feeling well, do you stay away? For us, if it’s obvious stay away. But if it’s mild, then each scenario is different. At the end of the day, it’s about communicating with and informing other parents so people can make their own discussions. We appreciate it when people tell us, even after the fact, that we’ve been exposed to something because their kids got sick after hanging out with us. We’ve all got kids. Life happens. The more kids you have, the more you realize that you cannot control everything.

We talk about a story where we took Liam to a playground at a zoo and came back with Hand Foot and Mouth Disease...But the memory was really incredible and he had so much fun playing with the other kids. Ryan says it was worth it, Rebekah is not so sure. We dig into how Ryan gets to go to work the next day, but Rebekah has to take care of the sick kiddos at home. It’s hard to see your kid suffering while sick.

We talk about the strange advice you get from doctors. When Liam had croup, we thought he had something stuck in his thought because he was wheezing. The doc advised us to stick his face in front of the open freezer door...which we did...but it was weird.

[27:00] PARENTAL INSTINTS

Parental instincts. We talk about having the first kid and how parents are overprotective...at least Ryan was. He was told it would happen, he tried to prepare for it, but instinctually he would respond to things at an extreme level. He believes it’s about creating new brain pathways and learning where to put new emotions and responses. The second kid is much easier because you have built those new pathways.

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Welcome to the Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad Podcast with Ryan and Rebekah Frost. This is our first podcast episode together!

This is a podcast about parenting. Not about parenting advice. We want to share our enthusiasm of parenting.

Ryan talks about how he has to remind himself that the kids will not remain the same always as they are in this moment. Children change drastically faster than adults do. Rebekah talks about how babies change each week

Why did we choose “Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad” as a title? We tell the story about how this came to be and the roots in Hawaii where we bought a used car while our 9 month old was having a melt-down. We were affirmed as parents by the folks who sold it to us, and it left a great impression.

We talk about the struggle of being a tired parent, and glossing over real moments that our children are having. Small things to us, may be their entire world in that moment and it’s important as a parent to be patient and take the time to interact. Rebekah shares a story of being a small child with her grandmother while she let her help make a peanut butter and jelly sandwich and how that left an impact on her.

We share stories of interacting with our son in the kitchen while grating cheese and victorious moments while building hot wheels tracks that took over the living room.

We finish strong with a poop story. A true horror story for Ryan. This is the one that made us feel like a true story. Waterfall diarrhea in a movie theater that got all over Ryan...its bad...poop trauma

Share your poop stories in the comments!

LINKS: http://www.runningforgracemovie.com/

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Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad - 004: Bedtime Routines, Plans vs. Needs, and Being Intentional
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01/21/19 • 27 min

Normally Ryan takes our 3-Year-Old Liam out for a walk every night in the stroller on a “Daddy Date”. They run some errands, grab some groceries, then by the time they get home, Liam is asleep. No drama. Zero wrestling.

We recently returned from a trip, where we had been able to get Liam to lay down and go to sleep in a new bed without the stroller ride. Now back in LA, we are seeing if we can transition to this new routine at home!

At first it did not go over very well. Liam broke down into tears because he wanted to go on the “Daddy-Date”. The next night, we decided to prep him ahead of time and let him know how the bed time routine was going to go. And it worked!

Ryan did have to wrestle through several delay tactics— multiple trips to the bathroom. Including one trip where he had a “poop” family which he named after mommy and daddy. Flattering.

Ryan started to get frustrated that Liam would not go to sleep. He would not get off the toilet. Rebekah suggests bribing him off with chocolate...right before bedtime...

Rebekah shares how she let Liam get himself dressed for bed by himself, which gave him ownership of the bedtime process. Win!

We discuss how Rebekah is way more patient than Ryan. As a kid, she used to sit until humming birds would land on her. Ryan tells a story about how they lured squirrels to their back door with nuts. Which was great until one bit his grandmother. Squirrels are not your friend.

*** We have to take a small break due to a crying baby ***

We are still learning how to pivot when we have plans but our kids have needs. Plans vs. Needs....a non-stop issue that we need to adjust to.

There is a culture out there that says our kids are in the way of us having a great life. We are excited to have our kids and we are trying to figure out how to do life with them.

Sometimes we have grownup things we need to take care of. Ryan could work from home, but does not, because it would be more difficult for Liam who would not understand why dad can’t pay attention to him.

Rebekah is launching a new company called “Your Generous Home” (www.yourgeneroushome.com). This would potentially allow for our family to spend more time together.

Rebekah and Ryan are both type B personalities, so it is easy to want kick back and relax and let things happen. We have to choose to be intentional and give our children the attention they deserve. We have to be intentional as parents with our time. Sometimes that means we do things along side our kids, sometimes that means we do it on our own. That could mean finding space outside of home, or even staying up late.

We are young in our marriage with young kids (we’ve been married almost 6 years) and we are still learning what is important to us. Ryan talks about how “Freedom” is important to him. He values the ability to choose what to do with his time. It’s not where we are, but what we are working toward. We are still learning how to re-adjust and be flexible.

Send us your questions or leave comments. We want to hear your experiences as parents!

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We are potty trained! Ryan tries to pull off a terrible dad joke. Boooo.....

Unintended consequences of potty training: using public bathrooms. —using the toilet is great at home.. its our bathroom. its our toilet. Public Bathroom: Not so much. We went to IKEA today and Liam had to go 4 times. Ryan shares his harrowing experiences taking Liam into the bathroom which involves a lot of shouting “Don’t touch that...DONT TOUCH THAT!!!!”

When a toddler tells you “I have to go potty” they have to go potty, RIGHT NOW. Ryan talks about dealing with disgusting toilet seats in the public bathroom. Which ended up with Ryan cleaning the toilet seat off with his bare hands....yep. It’s tempting to just have Liam put on a pull-up...but we don’t. That would be traumatic.

Liam hates the hand driers. Bekah talks about how they recycle “Poo-particles” into the air. Disgusting.

Work Vs. Homelife:

We are still in the early phases of parenthood. Figuring out the balance of family vs. work can be a challenge. We need to figure out how to be intentional with everything.

Ryan feels the limitation of hours in the day. Ryan talks about why he does not work from home even though he can. It’s important for him to separate home life from work life.

The frustrating thing is that Ryan ’s best hours are spent on work, and he feels like the kids and family get second best. It’s tough, and we do not know necissarily how to change it.

Ryan asks Rebekah how it affects her.

Rebekah talks about how she spends the majority of her time serving the needs of her family. She does not have the “perceived” freedom that some might think.

Bekah talks about how she has been seeking out valuable input. Trying to figure out how to make the parenting experience meaningful, and “not just getting through it”. This is her life’s work.

Rebekah is starting a new venture: Your Generous Home [LINK]

The most difficult part of Ryan not being around during the day: Not having someone on her level around to talk to (she is with kids all day).

So Rebekah has been finding different women on instagram (bloggers) who are putting out solid, positive empowering advice. The big things she is coming across is “simplifying your life, so you can be more intentional with your motherhood. And How do you integrate your work life and your family life as a mother

Phylicia Masonheimer Website: https://phyliciamasonheimer.com Instagram: @phyliciamasonheimer

Phylicia is a very well put together woman who is doing a lot of things with 2 toddlers. She credits her success to a lifelong fascination with productivity.

Ryan and Rebekah talk about how “working” happens at the office and at home. Work has developed a negative connotation. Traditionally work is trading time for money. But work is ultimately something you can find meaning from.

Rebekah talks about how “achievement” kind of work that we are compensated for that we value over home-life or we feel like victims of the system — which we are not. Ultimately we have to make choices on what we are going to focus on.

Ryan talks about how It’s important to make choices about what is important and what you will spend your time on. Does your job allow you to be available to your family? It’s a conversation we are constantly having and wrestling with. It’s a real struggle.

Bekah is working out processes in her life to make home-life more successful.

One great resources is Allie Casazza

Allie Casazza Website: http://alliecasazza.com/Instagram: @allie_thatsme

Minimalism saved Allie’s motherhood. When you let go of the things you don’t need, it gives you more time for your family.

LINK: How Getting Rid of My Stuff Saved My Motherhood by Allie Casazza

Rebekah talks about a study that Allie brought up that gets into the science of clutter in the house raising the stress levels of women. Ryan talks about how clutter shuts him down and makes him less present with the kids.

There is a movement of “New Homemakers” helping women redefine homemaking in positive ways.

Add your comments and tell us your stories and feedback!! How do you balance work vs. home-life? Any crazy pubic bathroom stories -- please share!! We might even add it to the show (with your permission of course!) Listen to the podcast at: Apple Podcasts:

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Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad - 003: Chore Charts, Robot Karate, and Toddlers at Bedtime
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01/16/19 • 20 min

The Chore Chart: a new strategy we are considering since our 3 year old gets a huge sense of accomplishment when he does something by himself.

Ryan shares about his memories of the family chore chart when he was growing up.

***Our 8 month old Ari is awake and with us, squeaking into the microphone.***

We share what Liam loves to clean up including his many different “train tracks”, Ryan puts Rebekah on the spot and has her sing the "In The Bag" clean up song that she uses to inspire Liam to clean. (See Disney's "In The Bag" here)

How do we get things to be less clutter around the house? We get Liam to help us in the cleaning.

Ryan talks about how he built a tower with Liam, who refused to let Ryan knock it down while filming in slow motion. Ryan decided to play “Robot” with Liam, and attempted to karate-chop the tower down, but Liam would take off after Ryan, shouting “No!!! No!!!!” then poke Ryan (like pressing a robot button) which stopped the Robot. Then we’d declare that “Liam Saved The Day!”

Ryan talks about how he is so tired at night and it is hard to play with the kids. He tries to engage with the kids, but gets exhausted after only a few minutes.

Rebekah talks about how exhausting it is to do simple errands during the day because she has to get both kids ready to go out.

We realized that Liam is confused and very concerned when we tell him we are “pooped”...

We talk about how our energy is not the same as it was in our 20’s...

One solution Ryan has come up with in the evenings is, owning the fact that he is tired and just picking one thing to do with Liam. Including watching some videos with him — not the best advice — but it does allow us to connect.

We discuss how Liam learning to put on his own “jammies” at night could be a game changer, because getting him dressed for bed is an exhausting endeavor.

Thought of the day from Rebekah: Give your kids something to accomplish.

Thought of the day from Ryan: Don’t judge yourself.

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Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad - 009: Traveling With Kids

009: Traveling With Kids

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02/25/19 • 26 min

We are on the road! This episode is all about our experiences traveling with the kiddos. We share our stories from the car and in the air.

Get ready for mountains of luggage, racing through the airport, and of course a plethora of bathroom stops! It always comes down to adjusting expectations and the fact remains -- you will always get there in the end...just maybe not when you thought you would!

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Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad - 010: The Surprises of Parenthood

010: The Surprises of Parenthood

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03/04/19 • 29 min

In this episode Ryan and Rebekah talk about what surprised them the most about becoming, and being, a parent.

  • [4:27] Surprise #1: The severe lack of sleep that never ends.
  • [10:25] Surprise #2: Our ability to increase our capacity.
  • [15:51] Surprise #3: How quickly kids change and develop.
  • [21:16] Surprise #4: The overwhelming love we feel toward our kids.

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Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad - 011: Things We Use & Love and Birthdays!
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03/18/19 • 34 min

We talk about some of the things we use that have been totally WORTH IT!

[1:45] Highchairs and Bibs

[8:43] Teething Necklace

[11:30] Refilable Baby Food Packs

[14:10] Thermometers!

[14:35] Delux Pack N Play (with all the bells and whistles!)

[18:36] Breast Pump

[23:10] We talk about Birthdays!!

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Good Job Mom, Good Job Dad currently has 12 episodes available.

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The podcast is about Mom, Parents, Wife, Parenting, Dad, Kids & Family, Baby, Family, Fun, Podcasts, Kids, Husband, Toddler and Children.

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