120: Embracing Your Inner Slut and Making a Gang Bang Fantasy a Reality feat. Athena

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05/01/25 • 67 min

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This week, Elle and Vee chat with Athena, Vee's metamour and wingwoman in NYC. In this candid chat, the girls hear the details of Athena's first gang bang, chat about how to make your fantasies a reality, being a single woman in the lifestyle, and so much more!

Exploring the Abyss of Porn Together (00:00)

Introducing Athena: From Fainting to Best Friends (2:19)

Embracing Your Inner Slut: Athena's Story (5:23)

Visual Vs. Spontaneous Fantasy & Planning a Fantasy Hangups (10:45)

Planning the Unplanned: Details of the Hooded, Tied Gang bang (18:05)

—How Sensory Deprivation Helped Self-Image and Pleasure

—The Dynamics of Trust and Safety

Why a Gang bang? Exploring Validation and Attention (33:28)

The Complexity of Fantasy Staying in the Mind vs. Making it Reality (38:56)

Fuck Around and Find Out: Surrendering to Experience (44:42)

Play Party Expectations And Pre Party Text (48:23)

Introspection Using Fears, Desires and Boundaries (50:54)

Creativity and Playfulness in the Lifestyle (55:28)

Creating Security in Unconventional Relationships (58:39)

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Exploring the Abyss of Porn Together (00:00)

Introducing Athena: From Fainting to Best Friends (2:19)

Embracing Your Inner Slut: Athena's Story (5:23)

Visual Vs. Spontaneous Fantasy & Planning a Fantasy Hangups (10:45)

Planning the Unplanned: Details of the Hooded, Tied Gang bang (18:05)

—How Sensory Deprivation Helped Self-Image and Pleasure

—The Dynamics of Trust and Safety

Why a Gang bang? Exploring Validation and Attention (33:28)

The Complexity of Fantasy Staying in the Mind vs. Making it Reality (38:56)

Fuck Around and Find Out: Surrendering to Experience (44:42)

Play Party Expectations And Pre Party Text (48:23)

Introspection Using Fears, Desires and Boundaries (50:54)

Creativity and Playfulness in the Lifestyle (55:28)

Creating Security in Unconventional Relationships (58:39)

Where to find us, and how you can support us:
Instagram: @girlsgonedeeppod
Merch: girlsgonedeep.com/shop

Woo More Play Affiliate Link: Support us while you shop!

WHOREible Life: Get 10% off your deck with code GONEDEEP at whoreiblelife.com
Instagram: @wlthegame
Contact: [email protected]

Previous Episode

119: Seek the Risk: Tools for Working Through Challenges and Emotions in Non-Monogamy feat. Author Adam Darrow

In this episode, Elle and Vee go deep with Adam Darrow, the author of Seek the Risk: One Man's Journey Into Non-Monogamy. Described as a "firsthand recounting of a wide-open relationship, told with unflinching candor from the male perspective", Elle and Vee were struck by the relatability of Adam's ENM story in Seek the Risk, from the overthinking and jealousy to the adventurous sex and deep connection in his relationship. His firsthand account of how he worked through the challenging emotional moments of his relationship with "the wrong girl" is FULL of nuggets, many of which are mentioned in this deep, candid, vulnerable conversation. Grab a pen and dig in :)

What does Seek the Risk mean? "Experience hunting" rather than "trophy bagging". (2:52)

Applying the Seek the Risk philosophy to CNM (consensual non monogamy). (6:49)

Misalignment and shame: when one partner is the one who is pushing, and one is being pushed. Being mindful and careful about not shaming the “slower” partner. (9:23)

The treasure you seek: when do you know it’s growth vs. self-flagellation? (15:13)

Tool #1: Creating a container to hear stories about your partner’s sexual activities so you aren’t blindsided by them. Asking for consent to share information. (18:30)

Tool #2: Check-ins/debriefs. (23:37)

Being triggered at a sex party and how to work through it. (25:36)

Tool #3: “Take the cigarette break.” aka Not reacting in the moment. Notice your own growth! (31:22)

Tool #4: Self-hypnosis aka “magical reframing”. (36:01)

Tool #5: “Exist in the grey.” Don’t act on emotions when spiraling out: sit with uncomfortable feelings. “Negative outcome fantasy.” (38:50)

Imposter syndrome: how our childhood traumas show up in our adult relationships. (43:37)

IFS: internal family systems and Aspecting (from ISTA). (49:52)

Masculinity: Societal hypocrisies and submissive associations with pegging and anal play. (52:58)

Final Nugget! (1:00:34)

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Next Episode

121: Dark Eroticism: Piss Play, Kink Psychology, and Exploring the Taboo feat. Priestess Francesca

In this episode, Elle and Vee chat with Priestess Francesca about kink, piss, and the juicy world of dark desires. Bring your curiosity and leave your shame at the door.

What is Dark Erotiscm? (3:04)

Shadow Work: “fill the hole where shame used to be with love and acceptance.” (10:09)

Taboo Kinks: Why are we afraid of our kinks and how can we approach them? (13:57)

How can you start exploring your dark erotic desires? What to check for before you begin on your kink journey. (17:58)

Where do turn-ons come from? The psychology behind why we desire what we do. The eroticsm of our traumatic experiences: recreate or obliterate. (23:40)

Vee’s first erotic piss play scene! (28:55)

Unpacking Pee Play: How do you find where the pleasure lies? (34:52)

Solo Piss Play: drinking your own golden nectar. (39:49)

How to spin toilet play differently depending on the energy of the scene (worship, degradation, objectification). (40:56)

Psychology behind degradation play, and the power behind Priestess Francesca’s Scat Play Scene. (43:09)

Discomfort is not always productive: growth vs guardianship of yourself. (48:26)

Freak School. (55:09)

Erotic Alchemy. (56:34)

Priestess Francesca Links:

Website

Instagram

Free Masterclass!

Source Information:

Homosexuality in the DSM: While homosexuality was formally removed from the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) of Mental Disorders in 1973, it wasn't until DSM-5 (which mobilized it's task force of 13 work groups in 2007 to focus on various disorder areas) that all diagnostic categories pertaining to sexual orientation were removed. Many scholars and advocacy groups believe that only this can be considered "complete declassification" of non-heterosexual sexual orientations as mental disorders.
BDSM in the DSM: Thanks to tremendous efforts by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) the American Psychiatric Association (APA) announced in 2010 that it would be changing the diagnostic codes for BDSM in the next edition of the DSM (formally published in 2013 and integrated into practice in the years that followed).
Trans Porn Statistical Analysis by State (USA): In 2022, Lawsuit.org issued statistical analysis to understand the love for transgender related porn by scraping daily Google search trend data, segmenting by DMA (metro area), and comparing search volume to both 2020 election voting trends, and public opinions about LGBT rights. "The data tells a tragic tale of self-loathing closet cases, Republicans who privately get off sexually to trans folks, while publicly trying to remove trans peoples’ rights and stoking hate against them." You can dig into their data anal

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