Obsessed with Loneliness (The Brené Brown Inspired Series)

01/27/22 • 27 min

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What is loneliness?

Brené Brown, the author of Atlas of the Heart (a book we are obsessed with), defines loneliness as:

The absence of meaningful social interaction—an intimate relationship, friendships, family gatherings, or even community or work group connections.

Today the world appears to be becoming more and more disconnected, with the cracks between people, races, genders, ethnicities, political beliefs, religions, and philosophies widening at an alarming rate. But, when we look deeper, this disconnection and the political and economic machines that are moving people apart are ironically spawning movements bringing people closer together than ever.

People are united in their humanity, joined by their hearts, by their desire for a better world, and the sincere wish to help others who are less fortunate. It takes tremendous strength and courage to remain open-hearted and vulnerable in the world we live in today. And yet, to survive, we must lead from the heart. And we must belong to ourselves.

Loneliness is disconnection (versus being alone). We are social creatures, and in today's climate, it is easier and easier to become disconnected, which leads to loneliness. In Tia's case, she suffered immense grief after her sister's death. And she disconnected from all those around her. She was surrounded by many people - yet felt a deep loneliness.

In this episode, Tia and Julie share their insights and stories about facing the feeling of loneliness and how it leads to disconnection – and how to pick yourself up from being lonely and disconnected.

This episode is dedicated to Shelby Sandahl, a loving sister to Tia who has touched many people's lives.

What You Will Learn From This Episode:

01:23 - The difference between loneliness and being alone

02:02 - Linking loneliness to disconnection

06:40 - Getting into the darkroom

08:31 - Avoiding being hard on yourself

11:02 - The need to become self-aware

11:37 - Coping with the inevitability of change

13:36 - Having an armor as a means for pain protection

14:52 - Rebuilding and reconnecting with your community

Resources Mentioned:

Brené Brown’s 30 core emotions https://brenebrown.com/resources/list-of-core-emotions/
Atlas of the Heart
Obsessed with Leaning into Grief ft. Heidi Dunstan - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/obsessed-with-leaning-into-grief-ft-heidi-dunstan/id1559480972?i=1000545180987

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What is loneliness?

Brené Brown, the author of Atlas of the Heart (a book we are obsessed with), defines loneliness as:

The absence of meaningful social interaction—an intimate relationship, friendships, family gatherings, or even community or work group connections.

This episode is dedicated to Shelby Sandahl, a loving sister to Tia who has touched many people's lives.

What You Will Learn From This Episode:

01:23 - The difference between loneliness and being alone

02:02 - Linking loneliness to disconnection

06:40 - Getting into the darkroom

08:31 - Avoiding being hard on yourself

11:02 - The need to become self-aware

11:37 - Coping with the inevitability of change

13:36 - Having an armor as a means for pain protection

14:52 - Rebuilding and reconnecting with your community

Resources Mentioned:

Brené Brown’s 30 core emotions https://brenebrown.com/resources/list-of-core-emotions/
Atlas of the Heart
Obsessed with Leaning into Grief ft. Heidi Dunstan - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/obsessed-with-leaning-into-grief-ft-heidi-dunstan/id1559480972?i=1000545180987

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Obsessed With The Emotion of Humiliation ft. Dr. Laura Cobb ( The Brené Brown Inspired Series)

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What is humiliation?

Brene Brown, the author of Atlas of the Heart (a book we are obsessed with), defines humiliation as:

The intensely painful feeling that we have been unjustly degraded, ridiculed, or put down, and that our identity has been demeaned or devalued.

Almost everyone has experienced the sensation of being humiliated. It's a feeling of helplessness, embarrassment, and rejection. Humiliation can quickly determine how we view ourselves in the years to come.

Dr. Cobb shares her own humiliation experiences and how they negatively impacted her life -- which extended to personal problems, eating disorders, and alcoholism.

For Dr. Cobb, humiliation doesn't necessarily have to be what other people see as it takes place in our minds and how it manifests in our bodies. But fortunately, she shares insights on how to get out of it!

Dr. Laura Cobb is a life coach who empowers high-achieving women to rid themselves of fear, guilt, and shame to proudly and confidently suit up, show up, step up, and speak up at every opportunity. She sees herself as an ordinary woman making extraordinary choices one day at a time.

What You Will Learn From This Episode:

01:33 - What Dr. Laura Cobb is obsessed with

04:02 - Dr. Cobb’s personal experiences with humiliation

15:03 - The deterioration that comes with feeling humiliated

16:27 - The demonic nature of humiliation

17:58 - Losing a lot of important things

25:43 - Pulling oneself out of humiliation

30:57 - The meaning of hope

Listen to our newest favorite obsession, The Stay On Course Podcast, hosted by Julie Riga.

Resources Mentioned:

Brené Brown’s 30 core emotions https://brenebrown.com/resources/list-of-core-emotions/
Atlas of the Heart

Learn More About Dr. Laura Cobb:

Website: https://drlauracobblifecoach.com/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drlauracobb/
Clubhouse: https://ios.clubhouse.com/@drlauracobb

Learn More About our Guest Co-Host Julie Riga:

Website: https://www.julieriga.com/
Stay on Course Podcast - https://www.podpage.com/stay-on-course-ingredients-for-success/episodes/

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Next Episode

Obsessed With Empathy ft. Kevin Henry (The Brené Brown Inspired Series)

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What is empathy?

Brené Brown, author of Atlas of the Heart (a book we are obsessed with), defines empathy as:

A skill set that is one of the most powerful tools of compassion.

Empathy and compassion are related but distinct concepts since both involve understanding another person's situation. The concept of empathy is rooted in identifying, relating, and being present to another person's feelings. It does not necessarily mean you feel the same thing that the other person is feeling.

In this episode, Kevin Henry joins us in exploring and understanding all facets of empathy. For Kevin, people fear the feeling of empathy since it makes us more vulnerable and makes us remember specific occurrences in the past.

He also gives tips regarding opening ourselves to other perspectives, allowing us to feel empathy fully. Kevin pointed out that disallowing ourselves in doing this opens the door to more fear, anxiety, and nonacceptance towards other people.

Kevin is changing the narrative of how people navigate their lives with his 30 years of experience in Program Management, Diversity-Equity-Inclusion education, journalism, training, writing, acting fields, public speaking, and as the host of All The Way Authentic podcast.

What You Will Learn From This Episode

02:27 - What Kevin Henry is obsessed with

02:41 - Working on your empathy tools

05:33 - Applying empathy in professional relationships

09:14 - Learning how to listen better

11:32 - Embracing diversity and inclusion

15:17 - Upbringing as an influence on one’s ability to listen and understand

17:44 - Different degrees of empathy based on one’s profession

22:48 - Treating everybody as an individual

28:45 - Being open to other perspectives

30:48 - Kevin’s final message and tips

Resources Mentioned