
Gaydar
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08/01/24 • 57 min
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How can you tell if someone is gay? It’s an age-old mystery that often turns into a discussion about “gaydar” – the ability to perceive or intuit someone's sexual orientation. In this episode, we are unraveling the intricacies of this phenomenon in how we navigate the subtle cues and signals that hint at our ‘gayness’.
Some of the topics we’re covering today are:
- The science behind gaydar
- Criteria we use to detect someone’s sexual orientation
- Unconscious bias
- Code switching (adjusting your behavior to fit the social context)
- Challenging assumptions and stereotypes about being gay
- The ability to “turn on” or “turn off” your gayness
- Being closeted vs. being out
- Minority stress
At the core of this discussion, we confront the issue of unconscious bias and its impact on our perceptions of others. How can we challenge these biases to foster a more inclusive and accepting society?
Tune in to this intriguing episode as we uncover the mysteries of gaydar and explore human identity and connection.
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How can you tell if someone is gay? It’s an age-old mystery that often turns into a discussion about “gaydar” – the ability to perceive or intuit someone's sexual orientation. In this episode, we are unraveling the intricacies of this phenomenon in how we navigate the subtle cues and signals that hint at our ‘gayness’.
Some of the topics we’re covering today are:
- The science behind gaydar
- Criteria we use to detect someone’s sexual orientation
- Unconscious bias
- Code switching (adjusting your behavior to fit the social context)
- Challenging assumptions and stereotypes about being gay
- The ability to “turn on” or “turn off” your gayness
- Being closeted vs. being out
- Minority stress
At the core of this discussion, we confront the issue of unconscious bias and its impact on our perceptions of others. How can we challenge these biases to foster a more inclusive and accepting society?
Tune in to this intriguing episode as we uncover the mysteries of gaydar and explore human identity and connection.
Today's Hosts:
Resources Mentioned in this Episode:
Support the Show - viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes
- CONNECT WITH US -
- Watch podcast episodes on YouTube
- Join the Gay Men's Brotherhood Facebook community
- Get on our email list to get access to our monthly Zoom calls
- Follow us on Instagram | TikTok
- Learn more about our community at GayMenGoingDeeper.com
- LEARN WITH US -
- Building Better Relationships online course: Learn how to nurture more meaningful and authentic connections with yourself and others.
- Healing Your Shame online course: Begin the journey toward greater confidence and self-worth by learning how to recognize and deal with toxic shame.
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