Anger Management for Moms

12/06/18 • 30 min

“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” -Yoda Yes, I'm a Star Wars geek. But there is some wisdom found in Yoda's words. If nothing else, it shows us that we can quickly get from a subtly uncomfortable place to a place of darkness quickly. And let's face it, when mom's angry, everybody suffers! If you find yourself getting angry quickly, this is the show for you.

As moms we all get angry, but we can control how we show and handle that anger, along with letting go of most of it by being prepared.

Join me as I talk to Afghanistan veteran Amanda Huffman about Anger Management for Moms.

How to Manage Anger: 1. Take a time out (for yourself) 2. Call someone if you feel like things are out of control (Get urgent help right now by calling Boys Town 24 hour hotline at 800-448-3000) 3. Communicate your feelings before you get to the point of anger 4. Evaluate expectations. Decide what's expected of everyone. Decide together how realistic those expectations are.

EXPECTATION - REALITY = FRUSTRATION

5. Identify your triggers and come up with a plan so you can avoid being so angry in the future.

Remember, if you do lose your cool, don't be too embarrassed to talk to your kids about it. Let them know about your feelings. Apologize.

WHERE TO GET HELP: Do you need urgent help right now? Call: Boys town 24 hour hotline at 800-448-3000 Celebrate Recovery, a place for people with hurts, habits, and hang-ups: https://www.celebraterecovery.com

About Amanda Huffman: Amanda is military veteran who served in the Air Force for six years as a Civil Engineer including a deployment to Afghanistan. She traded in her combat boots for a diaper bag to stay home with her two boys and follow her husband's military career. Her blog, Airman to Mom, incorporates stories from her past military life and how she views life through her unique life experiences of both a veteran and military spouse.

Amanda's advice: Know you're not alone. It's normal to get angry. Reach out for help when you need it.

You can find Amanda:

www.airmantomom.com

www.instagram.com/airmantomom www.twitter.com/airmantomom www.facebook.com.airmantomom www.pinterest.com/airmantomom

Thank you for joining me today!

Want more? Go to HardyMom.com and you'll find ways to live well, grow, and enjoy your life again -with any health challenges.

I'd love to hear what you think about this episode! Send me a message at HardyMom.com/contact

Have a blessed week,

Jen

As moms we all get angry, but we can control how we show and handle that anger, along with letting go of most of it by being prepared.

Join me as I talk to Afghanistan veteran Amanda Huffman about Anger Management for Moms.

EXPECTATION - REALITY = FRUSTRATION

5. Identify your triggers and come up with a plan so you can avoid being so angry in the future.

Remember, if you do lose your cool, don't be too embarrassed to talk to your kids about it. Let them know about your feelings. Apologize.

Amanda's advice: Know you're not alone. It's normal to get angry. Reach out for help when you need it.

You can find Amanda:

www.airmantomom.com

www.instagram.com/airmantomom www.twitter.com/airmantomom www.facebook.com.airmantomom www.pinterest.com/airmantomom

Thank you for joining me today!

Want more? Go to HardyMom.com and you'll find ways to live well, grow, and enjoy your life again -with any health challenges.

I'd love to hear what you think about this episode! Send me a message at HardyMom.com/contact

Have a blessed week,

Jen

Previous Episode

Redefining Beautiful - with Kirstie Ennis

"When I was in the hospital I didn't have that role model" (amputees, or people in a wheelchair).."and that's what I've been trying to be for other people." Kirstie Ennis

If you haven't heard of Kirstie Ennis, here's a quick introduction (you can learn more here:

Kirstie Ennis is redefining beautiful. When you look at her picture, you know right away Kirstie is a beautiful woman, but she doesn't always feel that way. You might not notice the scars on her face, or her prosthetic leg, but Kirstie does.

"The injury doesn't define me but it's absolutely a part of who I am."

Kirstie grew up as an strong and attractive young woman. Her parents were both Marines, and she joined the Marines at at 17, wanting to help others. Kirstie was a helicopter gunner who served in two deployments. During her second deployment, her helicopter was shot down. Kirstie suffered a traumatic brain injury, injuries to her spine, face, brain, and shoulders, and her left leg. She's had over 40 surgeries since then. The most difficult for Kirstie was an above the knee amputation of her left leg.

"I needed to see myself as someone who could be sexy, or be attractive...Now I want to show other people that they can do it for themselves too."

As someone who had always been active, the healing process has been difficult for her, and one year after the accident, she lost hope. Fortunately, after a talk with her dad, Kirstie found new motivation, and has kept moving forward ever since. Kirstie says she's accomplished things she'd never imagined since her accident, and she can't wait to see what the future holds.

I was lucky to catch up with Kirstie and have a great conversation about disability, beauty, and what she's doing to change the way people view both.

You'll find the transcript at HardyMom.com/redefining-beautiful

You can find Kirstie:

Website: https://kirstieennisfoundation.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kirstieennis2/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kirstie_ennis

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Our music is A New Day, by Scott Holmes

Next Episode

How to Enjoy the Holidays with Your Family

Is the holiday season a time of joy, or do you wish it could just all be over already? You don't have to suffer through the holidays!

1. Set boundaries. You don't have to have Aunt Edna stay with you for two weeks over the holidays if she upsets you and/or your family. She can stay in a with other family, a hotel, or her own home.

2. Eat what makes you feel good. No, ice cream for breakfast, lunch, and dinner isn't the best choice unless you've just gotten your tonsils out, but start enjoying your food.

3. Bring foods you can eat to events. Sure, gluten-free, dairy-free cookies taste different, but at least you'll have something on the buffet line.

4. Sit down with the people you love and discuss holiday expectations. This includes your kids. A ten minute conversation now can save hours of frustration on the big day.

5. Change things up! Just because your family has done something for 50 years doesn't mean you have to do it if you are uncomfortable.

6. Create family traditions. #5 doesn't mean you need to ditch everything you've ever done before. Keep the traditions that give you joy. Tweak traditions you kind of like to make them your own.

7. Do as much, OR AS LITTLE, as you like.

8. Take time for yourself. Don't have any extra time? Make some. You're a grown up, and you really can take time for you when you need it.

Create a new Holiday for yourself! Here's how we're doing that with Festivus:

Only inviting our kids, keeping it small
No cooking, we're ordering Chinese take-out
We're creating family picture books that include a note from each person to have when we're apart
We made t-shirts to commemorate the date
We've talked to everyone to make see which parts of holidays they like so we're all comfortable, happy, and full of joy

Are you creating joy this holiday season? Share how at hardymom.com/contact

Thank you for joining me today!

Want more? Go to HardyMom.com and you'll find ways to live well, grow, and enjoy your life again -with any health challenges.

I'd love to hear what you think about this episode! Send me a message at HardyMom.com/contact

Have a blessed week,

Jen