Isolation in Relationships: Understanding Abuse, Domestic Violence, and Coercive Control
02/28/25 • 26 min
Isolation is one of the most powerful tools of coercive control, and it goes far beyond just cutting someone off from friends and family. In this episode, we explore how abusers use suspicion, false accusations, and emotional manipulation to make their targets feel trapped and alone—even in everyday interactions. Through Maxine’s story, we see how isolation operates in layers, chipping away at independence, self-trust, and access to support. Recognizing these tactics is the first step in breaking free.
A huge thanks to @maxxspressions (Threads) https://www.threads.net/@maxxpressions
Knight, S. (2025, January 7). Isolation tactics abusers use to control. Shadows of Control. https://shadowsofcontrol.com/articles/isolation-tactics-abusers-use-to-control/
Welcome to Escape the Paradox , a podcast dedicated to exposing and exploring the truth about coercive control, emotional abuse, and the long-term trauma caused by abusive relationships.
Whether it's childhood abuse from a parent, intimate partner violence, or domestic abuse in any form, this podcast dives into the patterns, dynamics, and the psychological impact.
My name is Helena, and I am your host! I share my own lived experience as a survivor of childhood abuse, while also creating space for survivor stories, expert insight, and compassionate support.
Healing is non-linear, and a complex and difficult process.
If you're looking for support, please visit escapetheparadox.com to learn more about my services in abuse consulting and advocacy and 1:1 sessions.
Don't forget to subscribe (follow) wherever you get your podcasts!
Remember: It's not your fault, and your story matters!
Isolation is one of the most powerful tools of coercive control, and it goes far beyond just cutting someone off from friends and family. In this episode, we explore how abusers use suspicion, false accusations, and emotional manipulation to make their targets feel trapped and alone—even in everyday interactions. Through Maxine’s story, we see how isolation operates in layers, chipping away at independence, self-trust, and access to support. Recognizing these tactics is the first step in breaking free.
A huge thanks to @maxxspressions (Threads) https://www.threads.net/@maxxpressions
Knight, S. (2025, January 7). Isolation tactics abusers use to control. Shadows of Control. https://shadowsofcontrol.com/articles/isolation-tactics-abusers-use-to-control/
Welcome to Escape the Paradox , a podcast dedicated to exposing and exploring the truth about coercive control, emotional abuse, and the long-term trauma caused by abusive relationships.
Whether it's childhood abuse from a parent, intimate partner violence, or domestic abuse in any form, this podcast dives into the patterns, dynamics, and the psychological impact.
My name is Helena, and I am your host! I share my own lived experience as a survivor of childhood abuse, while also creating space for survivor stories, expert insight, and compassionate support.
Healing is non-linear, and a complex and difficult process.
If you're looking for support, please visit escapetheparadox.com to learn more about my services in abuse consulting and advocacy and 1:1 sessions.
Don't forget to subscribe (follow) wherever you get your podcasts!
Remember: It's not your fault, and your story matters!
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Emotional and Psychological Abuse – Part 2: Impact of Emotional and Psychological Abuse on the Target within Relationships
Emotional abuse doesn’t just wound in the moment—it rewires the way we see ourselves. Over time, the insults, gaslighting, and manipulation become our own inner voice, eroding self-trust and self-worth. In Part 2, let's dive into how abuse shapes our internal narrative and what it takes to reclaim our sense of self.
Most importantly, I want to remind you that the beliefs an abuser ingrains in you are not the truth. Healing is possible, and it starts with challenging their narrative.
Sources:
Gavin, H. (2011). Sticks and stones may break my bones: An examination of the effects of emotional abuse. Journal of Aggression, Maltreatment & Trauma, 20(5), pp.503–529. https://www.researchgate.net/publication/254356919_Sticks_and_Stones_May_Break_My_Bones_The_Effects_of_Emotional_Abuse
Welcome to Escape the Paradox , a podcast dedicated to exposing and exploring the truth about coercive control, emotional abuse, and the long-term trauma caused by abusive relationships.
Whether it's childhood abuse from a parent, intimate partner violence, or domestic abuse in any form, this podcast dives into the patterns, dynamics, and the psychological impact.
My name is Helena, and I am your host! I share my own lived experience as a survivor of childhood abuse, while also creating space for survivor stories, expert insight, and compassionate support.
Healing is non-linear, and a complex and difficult process.
If you're looking for support, please visit escapetheparadox.com to learn more about my services in abuse consulting and advocacy and 1:1 sessions.
Don't forget to subscribe (follow) wherever you get your podcasts!
Remember: It's not your fault, and your story matters!
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Gaslighting (Minimizing, Denying, Blaming) in Coercive Control, Domestic Violence, Abuse, and Relationships – Part 1: My Exploration of Manipulation in my Father’s Correspondence
In this episode, I explore a message I wrote to my father in 2023, and take you through his response with me. It’s a raw and honest conversation that highlights the tactics of minimizing, denying, and blaming, which are patterns that are reflected in the power and control wheel. These dynamics are deeply familiar to many who have lived through coercive control or emotional abuse and domestic violence in any form, and my hope is that by sharing my experience, you’ll feel seen, understood, and less alone. I want my story to create space for yours, because you deserve to feel validated in what you’ve lived through.
Welcome to Escape the Paradox , a podcast dedicated to exposing and exploring the truth about coercive control, emotional abuse, and the long-term trauma caused by abusive relationships.
Whether it's childhood abuse from a parent, intimate partner violence, or domestic abuse in any form, this podcast dives into the patterns, dynamics, and the psychological impact.
My name is Helena, and I am your host! I share my own lived experience as a survivor of childhood abuse, while also creating space for survivor stories, expert insight, and compassionate support.
Healing is non-linear, and a complex and difficult process.
If you're looking for support, please visit escapetheparadox.com to learn more about my services in abuse consulting and advocacy and 1:1 sessions.
Don't forget to subscribe (follow) wherever you get your podcasts!
Remember: It's not your fault, and your story matters!
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