Eros Mama The Podcast with Megan Lambert

In today’s episode, I’m joined by my good friend Stephanie Dickinson (also a relationship coach), and we’re talking all about asking for our desires from our partners. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and sit down for a heart-to-heart with us.

In this episode, Stephanie & I share our real-life, intimate stories around asking for what we want from our partners.

As we’ve discovered, it’s not easy to ask for what we want. We often build stories around why what we want isn’t possible, or we drop our desires before we get the courage to ask for them.

Here we give you tangible ways to break down the process — how to identify a desire in ourselves and the feelings that come up around the desire, how to approach the desire with a partner, friend, or loved one, and how to be open to others’ desires when we’re on the receiving side of a request.

We also explore masculine/feminine dynamics and how to work with the opposing energies when it comes to asking for a desire.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email ([email protected]), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Connect with Stephanie on Instagram

Schedule a call with Stephanie

https://schedulestephanie.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=34999529

Key Moments:

(2:16 - 6:22) Stephanie opens up about an edgy desire she’s asked for recently, and how it went for her

(6:25 - 8:18) Talking yourself out of your wants as a form of self-rejection

(8:20 - 12:07) The inner work Stephanie does to identify desires in herself

(12:26 - 17:08) Megan’s desire to do the tantra retreat - and how she persistently and gently brought James on board

(17:18 -19:50) Resentment is the smoke on the fire of your desire

(19:52 - 26:32) Confiding in your friends to dig deeper before approaching your partner

(26:36 - 31:59) Being on the receiving end of someone else’s desires and setting boundaries

(32:00 - 38:20) Navigating “charged” sensations in difficult conversations

(38:21 - 41:00) Setting a “context” or framework around conversations with loved ones

(41:02 - 43:54) Sharing our current (secret) desires that we haven’t yet spoken to our partners about

In this episode, my husband James Mattingley & I are interviewed by the wonderful Aimee Batuski of Desire on Fire, on how our marriage has changed since becoming parents. Aimee helps us dig into all the shifts we’ve gone through, and how we’ve navigated them together as a couple.

We knew our lives would change after we got married, started our businesses, and had a baby, but it was impossible to fully prepare for the ups and downs that would occur through all of these major life events. Here we share how we’ve adapted to new needs, expectations, and roles as parents.

Today, we’re bringing our tools and advice to you so that you can learn from our mistakes and successes and start integrating these practices into your own relationship to start having the intimacy you crave.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM, or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Key Moments:

(4:13 - 5:52) Our history as a couple so far

(6:16 - 9:25) Reflecting on our marriage and early parenthood. Describing the magnified feelings and emotional bubbles we experienced

(9:26 - 12:20) Megan feeling needy after giving birth, and learning to feel worthy of that extra love and care

(12:22 - 13:39) James’s perspective on being needed more while receiving less, and what has changed for him in becoming a father

(13:41 - 19:26) How we’ve navigated the inevitably uneven roles in new parenthood without becoming resentful of each other (well, not too much!)

(19:28 - 22:11) How James has responded to different communications surrounding Megan’s needs

(22:13 - 27:15) How we’ve kept the erotic intimacy alive after becoming parents. Hint: intimacy doesn’t always involve sex

(27:16 - 32:46) The physical challenges we faced postpartum. Intimacy, sex, and body confidence

(32:48 - 42:37) Sharing our juiciest, most stubborn fights - and how we moved through them by choosing love again and again

(42:39 - 55:55) Analyzing the moments where we’ve failed to disagree in a healthy way, but have always gotten back on track

(55:58 - 1:02:59) Tools like “Emptying the Bucket” on how to move through disagreements and regulate yourself in heated moments.

We’re hosting a couples’ retreat in September! Learn more here:

https://integratedintimacy.co/epic-intimacy-retreat/

Private 2 on 2 couple’s coaching:

https://integratedintimacy.co/couples-intensive/

Get in Touch with James, Megan, and Aimee:

https://www.instagram.com/megandlambert/

https://www.instagram.com/james.mattingley/

https://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski/

Aimee’s Desire on Fire Website:

https://www.desireonfire.com/

Single but don’t want to be? Join me for this insightful solo show where I share the 4 phases of being single, and where you can get stuck, as well as how to progress. I share ways to open back up to love.

For more support with finding your partner, check out my Eros group program for single women, starting Sept 28. Megandlambert.com/eros

This might be one of my favorite episodes yet. It’s a profound interview with my mentor, Londin Angel Winters, where we explore, “How do you create a passionate partnership after decades together? What’s required to continue growing and deepening with your lover through having a child, starting a business, and navigating uncertainty?”

Londin is one of the wisest - yet playful! - women I know, and this episode is packed full of a-ha moments around intimacy, love, and relationship. In the episode, I bring her 3 typical challenges from my clients, and she responds with deep, life-changing advice for these situations. You may even get something for yourself!

We talk about what surrender *really* is, ways we unconsciously kill polarity and attraction, how to inspire masculine leadership, and how to offer yourself as a gift to your relationship. Londin asks, “How are you going to use your body and your time on earth to awaken conscious love?”

Key Topics:

• Learning the art of surrender for life-changing growth [01:46]
• Trusting in what you can’t see or understand [7:25]
• Surrendering during moments of intimacy [14:31]
• Relinquishing control to recognize and receive the gifts your partner is already giving you [23:07]
• Becoming a living gift, the beauty of life through creating polarity [31:07]
• Serve the moment, not the ego [41:50]
• How did you love before you knew hurt? [48:34]

To deepen your surrender practice, check out Londin’s Receptive Breath guided audio practice here: https://on.soundcloud.com/ADAG8

You can find her on Instagram at @londinawinters.

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If you’re curious about my offerings, visit me at www.megandlambert.com. If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review!

This week, I’m interviewing one of my coaching clients, Emily, about her journey on a 3-month coaching container with me that’s now coming to an end. Emily first chose to work with me when she was post-partum with her third child and felt she was dragging baggage around from the past that she was ready to surrender.

In this episode, we get real about Emily’s deepest emotions, desires, and shadows that she had been avoiding bringing into the light before working with me. We talk about opening up about sexual fantasies, grieving the lost relationship with her mother and the rage surrounding it, cutting ties with people who no longer served a purpose in her life, and what’s in store for her future.

If you want to reach into the depths with us and share in Emily’s emotional journey, you don’t want to miss this episode.

If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email, Instagram DM, or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!

If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.

Key Topics:

• Emily’s desire to release the baggage she’s been carrying around from the past [1:03]
• Using the concepts of free birth as a tool for surrender [3:38]
• How my approach helped Emily soften and be vulnerable with me [7:48]
• Getting deep about desire with her partner by channeling her feminine energy [14:16]
• Accepting anger, rage, and grief and releasing expectations around family members [22:21]
• Channeling rage and darkness through swamping [30:36]
• Finding the courage to cut ties with her abusive ex, her legal battles, and the voices telling her to keep fighting for things that were no longer serving her. [34:28]
• Flipping the script on feeling like she had to be a certain way to be seen as professional [36:45]
• Envisioning her future career and wanting to support families through traumatic events [40:37]
• Calling others to go deeper and let circumstances show you where you need to heal [50:27]