Season 2, Ep 6 - Asking for Your Desires with Stephanie Dickinson
08/24/22 • 46 min
In today’s episode, I’m joined by my good friend Stephanie Dickinson (also a relationship coach), and we’re talking all about asking for our desires from our partners. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and sit down for a heart-to-heart with us.
In this episode, Stephanie & I share our real-life, intimate stories around asking for what we want from our partners.
As we’ve discovered, it’s not easy to ask for what we want. We often build stories around why what we want isn’t possible, or we drop our desires before we get the courage to ask for them.
Here we give you tangible ways to break down the process — how to identify a desire in ourselves and the feelings that come up around the desire, how to approach the desire with a partner, friend, or loved one, and how to be open to others’ desires when we’re on the receiving side of a request.
We also explore masculine/feminine dynamics and how to work with the opposing energies when it comes to asking for a desire.
If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email ([email protected]), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!
If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.
Connect with Stephanie on Instagram
Schedule a call with Stephanie
https://schedulestephanie.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=34999529
Key Moments:
(2:16 - 6:22) Stephanie opens up about an edgy desire she’s asked for recently, and how it went for her
(6:25 - 8:18) Talking yourself out of your wants as a form of self-rejection
(8:20 - 12:07) The inner work Stephanie does to identify desires in herself
(12:26 - 17:08) Megan’s desire to do the tantra retreat - and how she persistently and gently brought James on board
(17:18 -19:50) Resentment is the smoke on the fire of your desire
(19:52 - 26:32) Confiding in your friends to dig deeper before approaching your partner
(26:36 - 31:59) Being on the receiving end of someone else’s desires and setting boundaries
(32:00 - 38:20) Navigating “charged” sensations in difficult conversations
(38:21 - 41:00) Setting a “context” or framework around conversations with loved ones
(41:02 - 43:54) Sharing our current (secret) desires that we haven’t yet spoken to our partners about
In today’s episode, I’m joined by my good friend Stephanie Dickinson (also a relationship coach), and we’re talking all about asking for our desires from our partners. Grab a cup of coffee or tea and sit down for a heart-to-heart with us.
In this episode, Stephanie & I share our real-life, intimate stories around asking for what we want from our partners.
As we’ve discovered, it’s not easy to ask for what we want. We often build stories around why what we want isn’t possible, or we drop our desires before we get the courage to ask for them.
Here we give you tangible ways to break down the process — how to identify a desire in ourselves and the feelings that come up around the desire, how to approach the desire with a partner, friend, or loved one, and how to be open to others’ desires when we’re on the receiving side of a request.
We also explore masculine/feminine dynamics and how to work with the opposing energies when it comes to asking for a desire.
If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email ([email protected]), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts!
If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.
Connect with Stephanie on Instagram
Schedule a call with Stephanie
https://schedulestephanie.as.me/schedule.php?appointmentType=34999529
Key Moments:
(2:16 - 6:22) Stephanie opens up about an edgy desire she’s asked for recently, and how it went for her
(6:25 - 8:18) Talking yourself out of your wants as a form of self-rejection
(8:20 - 12:07) The inner work Stephanie does to identify desires in herself
(12:26 - 17:08) Megan’s desire to do the tantra retreat - and how she persistently and gently brought James on board
(17:18 -19:50) Resentment is the smoke on the fire of your desire
(19:52 - 26:32) Confiding in your friends to dig deeper before approaching your partner
(26:36 - 31:59) Being on the receiving end of someone else’s desires and setting boundaries
(32:00 - 38:20) Navigating “charged” sensations in difficult conversations
(38:21 - 41:00) Setting a “context” or framework around conversations with loved ones
(41:02 - 43:54) Sharing our current (secret) desires that we haven’t yet spoken to our partners about
Previous Episode
Season 2, Ep 5 - Our Pregnancy Journey
In today’s episode, I’m joined by my husband James to discuss our pregnancy journey—how we decided it was time to start a family, how we discovered that I was pregnant, what we learned going through this for the first time, and our separate physical and emotional experiences throughout each stage of pregnancy.
Pregnancy was a completely new experience for both of us. We went into it with our own preconceived ideas and expectations of how it would be and were met with a reality that toppled all of it. While it was intense and hard at times, we were also pleasantly surprised at how it was simultaneously wonderful and exciting. Join us to hear all the juicy details from preconception, conception, and a trimester-by-trimester walkthrough of our journey together.
If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email ([email protected]), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.
I created a guide of all the amazing resources that supported me in my pregnancy journey! You can find that here:
https://www.megandlambert.com/pregnancy-resources
Key Moments:
(1:17 -3:58) How we knew we were ready to be parents
(3:59 - 5:33) Our conception story, feeling the spirit of our future baby with us
(5:35 - 10:03) The many false negatives that led up to our pregnancy announcement
(10:04 -11:35) Why we decided to tell everyone right away instead of waiting
(11:36 - 18:02) The first trimester: learning to slow down and listen to my body
(18:03 - 24:47) The second trimester: “The Great Wait” and regaining my energy
(24:48 -27:19) Traveling while pregnant and getting COVID
(27:20 -31:18) The third trimester: James’s changed perception of pregnancy stereotypes vs. what’s actually possible for pregnant women
(31:19 - 35:02) Being confronted with body insecurities and feeling alone
(35:04 -37:27) Closing up shop and the final preparations before birth
(37:28 - 39:56) Our advice to couples in being supportive to your pregnant partner, and finding the gifts and intuitive nature that pregnancy holds
Next Episode
Season 2, Ep 7 - Reflections on Motherhood – The First 10 Months
This week, I’m sitting down for a solo episode to talk with you about motherhood and my experience so far raising my ten-month-old baby, Lila.
As you can imagine, we’ve learned a lot in the time we’ve had her in our lives. There has been so much expansion, growth, joy, tears, and learning. But all of it has brought me so much love and purpose as our family grows.
In this episode, I’m going to share all the moments — happy, messy, scary, and humbling — starting with the first 40 days of our parenting cocoon. I’ll share what it was like to not leave the house for almost 2 months in the beginning, what traveling the world with a newborn was like, our first big health scare as a family, and all the expectations and teachings I’ve had throughout the last 10 months.
If this episode moves you, please let me know by reaching out by email ([email protected]), Instagram DM (@megandlambert), or leaving a review to let us know your thoughts! If you’re curious about our offerings, visit us at www.integratedintimacy.co.
Safe Infant Sleep is a great resource to learn about co-sleeping safely
Possum Sleep Method for sleep training
Solid starts for baby-led weaning
Key Moments:
(01:19 - 6:26) Feeling so supported by family and friends in the first 40 days of our parenting cocoon
(6:27 - 7:46) The shocking realization that motherhood is a lot messier than it seems
(7:47 - 8:34) Honoring Lila and her spirit sibling in a Balinese placenta burying ritual
(9:56 - 11:45) The sweetest, most expansive moments of motherhood so far
(11:46 - 14:07) The messiness of traveling for 36 hours with a 2-month old
(14:08 -18:00) Navigating difficult emotions through our first health scare as a family
(18:02 - 19:35) Realizing the importance of having friends who relate to motherhood
(19:35 -23:16) Throwing away the parenthood playbook to find what parenting styles worked best for us
(23:17 - 25:27) Screens, or no screens? Adjusting our parenting styles over time
(25:28 - 29:36) Balancing being a wife, mother, entrepreneur, and individual
(29:38 - 32:33) Reflecting on how I’ve grown and evolved over the past 10 months as I navigate first-time motherhood
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