ERP 228: How To See Relationship As A Spiritual Teacher - An Interview with Allana Pratt

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Website: drjessicahiggins.com

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Bio:

Allana Pratt is an intimacy expert, relationship coach, author of 6 books, and the host of the edgy podcast “Intimate Conversations.”

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In this episode, Allana Pratt and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:

How our partner will mirror our work.
How to see our partner as our master spiritual teacher.
The power of taking ownership and offering an apology that lands.
How to become the one to awaken the one.
The process of growth and integration versus bypassing our wounded parts.
How we get transparency by giving transparency.
Tips for couples connection. Presencing together as a couple.
A dyad date night exercise for intimacy. Tune into one another and keep asking the question, be open and curious.

"All hearts when they are wounded close." — Allana Pratt

Mentioned:

Finding ‘The One’ is Bullsh*t: Becoming ‘The One’ is Brilliant & Beautiful, by Allana Pratt
Jennifer Jimenez Vibrant Healthy Living
David Deangelo

Connect with Allana Pratt:

Website: AllanaPratt.com

Podcast: Intimate Conversations

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachallanapratt

Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AlanaPratt?sub_confirmation=1

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:

Twitter: @DrJessHiggins

Website: drjessicahiggins.com

If you have a topic you would like me to discuss, please contact me by clicking on the “Ask Dr. Jessica Higgins” button here.

Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.

Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.

Thank you!

If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

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ERP 227: How To Date Your Significant Other An Interview With Dr. Bill Harley

Willard F. Harley, Jr., Ph.D. earned his Ph.D. degree in psychology from the University of California at Santa Barbara in 1967 and has been a Licensed Clinical Psychologist in Minnesota since 1975.

Dr. Harley is best known as the author of the internationally best selling book, His Needs, Her Needs: Building An Affair-proof Marriage.

Dr. Harley’s ground-breaking mental-health approach to marriage therapy has saved countless marriages over the decades, and continues to do so today. He has written 23 other books and continues to write, speak, and lead seminars throughout the US and Canada.

Dr. and Mrs. Harley also host a daily one-hour call-in show, Marriage Builders® Radio. It can be heard on radio stations and on the Internet. They have been married for 54 years and live in White Bear Lake, Minnesota. They have two adult children, who are now working with them as marriage coaches, and four grandchildren.

Mentioned:

His Needs, Her Needs, by Willard Harley

In this episode, Dr. Bill Harley and Dr. Jessica Higgins discuss:

The four emotional needs that must be addressed in order to fall in love, stay in love, or get love back again.
Breaking the “love busters” to create an environment where a date would actually be a mutually enjoyable experience.
How finding things you enjoy doing together, and encouraging each other’s individual passions can build connection.
Using the “Love Bank Inventory” to measure what areas of love building need more attention.

"No matter where you are in your marriage, dating can create a great marriage for you. It can solve all of your communication problems, it can solve all the struggles that you've been having, trying to make decisions. And I just challenge couples to recognize that 15 hours a week of undivided attention is the answer." — Dr. Bill Harley

Connect with Dr. Bill Harley:

Website: Marriage Builders® - Successful Marriage Advice

Twitter: Marriage Builders (@marriagebuilder)

Facebook: Marriage Builders - Home

YouTube: MarriageBuilders

Show: Marriage Builders Radio

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:

Twitter: @DrJessHiggins

Website: drjessicahiggins.com

Shifting Criticism For Connected Communication

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Thank you so much for your interest in improving your relationship.

Also, I would so appreciate your honest rating and review. Please leave a review by clicking here.

Thank you!

If you are interested in developing new skills to overcome relationship challenges, please consider taking the Connected Couple Program or engaging in relationship coaching work with me.

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ERP 229: Eight Dates to Support and Nurture Your Love & Relationship

Recently, I have been recommending the book "Eight Dates: Essential Conversations For A Lifetime Of Love" by John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams. Since the last two podcast episodes have been referring to the importance of connecting and dating in relationship, I thought it would be valuable to share this book with you.

(Please listen to the podcast episode or read the transcript to hear explanations, stories, and examples.)

In this episode, Dr. Jessica Higgins discusses:

How being curious and interested in and with your partner will support a lifetime of learning, intimacy and vitality with your partner.
The importance of seeing love as a practice.
What threatens commitment and trust in relationship and how to built trust together.
How conflict is inevitable in every relationship, and understanding the real goal of conflict.
Learning the difference between solvable problems and perpetual problems.
What helps partners create a great sex life together.
Understanding the essential role of play and adventure in your relationship, so that you can keep things fresh and exciting.

"Vulnerability creates trust, and trust is the oxygen your relationship needs to breathe." by John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams and Rachel Carlton Abrams.

Mentioned:

Connect with Dr. Jessica Higgins:

Twitter: @DrJessHiggins

Website: drjessicahiggins.com