EmPowered Couples with The Freemans - How To Balance Being A Parent And A Strong Spouse: Figs + Teale O’Sullivan Episode 59

How To Balance Being A Parent And A Strong Spouse: Figs + Teale O’Sullivan Episode 59

10/16/19 • 34 min

For all the parents out there! Have you ever thought it was too difficult to balance being a great parent and a great partner to your spouse? Do you feel this is a season that you have to sacrifice some areas of your own life or relationship to ‘make it all work’?

If so this is THE episode for you as you introduce you to Figs and Teale O’Sullivan are a powerful couple, both of whom are marriage and family EFT certified therapists from SF, CA. They are the founders of Empathi, a company that provides affordable and convenient relationship support for both individuals and couples. Empathi offers online courses as well as live support from a whole team of licensed and certified therapists; through fun, effective, and simple solutions to help couples stop fighting, stop suffering, and snuggle more. Figs designed Empathi to be available for everyone, no matter their socio-economic status, orientation or station in life. So all couples can “Love better with Empathi”!

In this episode you will:

know that even as you enter into more demanding seasons of life as a parent, that you can truly be a strong individual and strong spouse. You will have ways to create intentional time for you and your spouse, no matter how little time you really have and tools to have arguments in a way that actually benefits your own kids. So that you can feel connection, compassion, and empathy in your relationship no matter how busy (or dirty with kids) your life feels.

Questions asked in this interview

What is the biggest challenge for couples to maintain connection and a strong relationship with each other when they are raising kids?
1. Is any parenting season more difficult than others?
Have you found that most couples experience being limited in their time and focus toward each other, or to things they want to experience, when they are parents?
Since family dynamics have evolved and many more women are working or starting businesses AND wanting to be a mother, are you noticing any new levels of ‘overwhelm’? And what can do about that
What are some ways couples can still connect when they have young children?
Should a couple argue in front of their kids or shelter them from disagreements?
Traditional parenting roles were seen in a hierarchy (patriarchy) model. In modern parenting, is there a better model to follow that empowers the entire family to contribute?
Why is it important to have empathy and what is it in practice anyway?
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy and how can parents best use it to lead and connect with both their spouse and children?

Connect More With The Guests:

As mentioned in the episode, you can take your own Relationship Empathi Quiz Here

Other resources:

Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us

PS. Because of demand the call is a $97 placeholder to book your breakthrough session.

In this episode you will:

Questions asked in this interview

What is the biggest challenge for couples to maintain connection and a strong relationship with each other when they are raising kids?
1. Is any parenting season more difficult than others?
Have you found that most couples experience being limited in their time and focus toward each other, or to things they want to experience, when they are parents?
Since family dynamics have evolved and many more women are working or starting businesses AND wanting to be a mother, are you noticing any new levels of ‘overwhelm’? And what can do about that
What are some ways couples can still connect when they have young children?
Should a couple argue in front of their kids or shelter them from disagreements?
Traditional parenting roles were seen in a hierarchy (patriarchy) model. In modern parenting, is there a better model to follow that empowers the entire family to contribute?
Why is it important to have empathy and what is it in practice anyway?
What is Emotionally Focused Therapy and how can parents best use it to lead and connect with both their spouse and children?

Connect More With The Guests:

As mentioned in the episode, you can take your own Relationship Empathi Quiz Here

Other resources:

Book a Relationship Breakthrough Session with us

PS. Because of demand the call is a $97 placeholder to book your breakthrough session.

Previous Episode

How To Communicate Your Needs To Your Partner Without Rocking The Boat: The Freemans Mini Episode 58

We received a message last week on instagram that powerfully portrayed how many of you might feel about expressing your needs to your spouse. The question said, ‘how do I tell my partner I really want (and need) for us to proactively work on our communication and that I want to start working on us more? I don’t want to upset her.’

Now the content of what you want to say or ask of your partner might be different, the context is likely similar: you want to share something important to your partner without rocking the boat. So this episode will dive into ways that we bring up these subjects with each other:

In this episode you will:

Know the 3 easy to make mistakes you might be making when trying to communicate your needs to your partner now.

Have 3 game changing ways to better communicate your needs so that keep you both on the 'same team'.

So that you feel empowered to make requests to each other that have you be the best partners you can be!

Quotes:

"The goal of a relationship is to grow, and to grow you need to have tension (just like lifting weights)" - Jocelyn

Other Resources:

Book a Relationship Breakthrough Call with us

P.S. The Family Meeting Worksheet mentioned in the episode can be given to you on the coaching call, scheduled with the link above. Because of demand, the call is now a $97 placeholder to book your breakthrough session.

Next Episode

How Do I Get My Spouse On Board With Personal Development?: The Freemans Mini Episode 60

Welcome to another ‘Mini Chat with The Freemans’. This time we are talking about this subject of personal development, but as a couple. How do you get your partner on board with first growing as an individual AND THEN doing it together as a couple? Of course without them getting defensive, feeling something is wrong, or thinking you need counseling.

That is exactly what we’ll cover, and by tuning into this episode you will learn that progress = happiness, and growing (getting better at anything) is the most fundamental and natural thing in life. You will have 3 steps to actually bringing up this kind of conversation with your partner, in a way that has them feel open and curious about how you can both make positive progress in any area of your life together. Which will have you feeling at ease and a contribution to both your partner and the direction of your relationship. This is the path of happiness and fulfillment throughout your life!

Summary of The Steps To Have The Conversation: