Ep 391: How to Love Yourself in 2022

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06/06/22 • 33 min

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Loving yourself is an all the time thing and in today’s episode I’m specifically reflecting on how to love yourself in 2022 after all we’ve been through. Self-love can feel out of reach, especially in a world that actively feels like it’s falling apart. With a pandemic, wars, hate crimes and what feels like growing violence in our communities, pursuing self-love may seem frivolous or overwhelming but in reality, pursuing self-love is the greatest thing you can do to tip the scales and bring peace to yourself and the world around you.

Today I’m getting into my Embodied Self-Love framework of self-awareness, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, self-trust, and self-respect. The framework is designed to help you fully love your whole self, including your wild soul. It’s different from traditional self-improvement work because rather than teaching you that pieces of yourself are broken, I’m showing you how to love yourself from a place of knowing that you are whole and that not only are you not broken but in fact you can’t break.

Rather than teaching you to do more, to be “better,” self-love shows you what it can feel like to fully embody your whole self; to live as a soul on this earth.

When you love yourself in this way and know you are and whole, you can tap into the best version of yourself and from that place, show up the way you want to, not only for yourself but for your loved ones and your community.

In Episode 391 we take a look at what self-love is, what the wild soul is and how your unique human design can give you clues to what your unique superpower is.

My superpower is self-love and my mission is to help as many individuals as possible learn how to love themselves so that we can tip the scales and bring more healing to this world.

If you want to begin or deepen your self-love journey check out my Self-Love Immersion. It starts June 13th. You can sign up at untameyourself.com/selflove

In episode 391 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

[1:37] showing up for yourself even when you aren’t feeling okay
[3:58] Elizabeth’s superpower is self-love and how she discovered that
[4:15] Secrets to “success” and what success looks like to Elizabeth
[5:21] what is the self-love framework
[5:38] applying the self-love framework to all stages of life
[8:18] why we don’t try to escape reality at The School of Sacred Embodiment
[10:23] Transmutation versus transfiguration - which one is better
[12:02] what soul truth feels like in the body
[13:09] what does “wild” mean to Elizabeth and your wild soul
[16:12] what it looks like to embody self-love
[16:47] the difference between feeling broken vs. being broken
[17:46] how to love yourself in 2022
[18:51] practical ways to embody self-love
[21:45] review from former student of The School of Sacred Embodiment
[23:33] the three reasons Elizabeth if fixated with self-love
[26:23] Elizabeth’s mission behind self-love work
[28:16] geeking out on human design

For full show notes and resources, head to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/391

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Since 2013 I’ve been developing a body of work that helps women embody self love, healing and wholeness. We do this by focusing on the four levels of consciousness - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual.

In practical terms this looks like exploring tools and practices to help you tune into the deep wisdom of the body and the knowing of the heart, which I believe are gateways to our souls. Then we cultivate a new relationship with our minds that allows the mind to serve this wisdom and knowing and soul connection, rather than override it, which is what many of us were taught.

If you’ve been doing self help or spiritual development work for a while, these are the types of foundational things that often people overlook in pursuit of fancier concepts that often aren’t practical or sustainable. Here, we will focus on building these strong foundations so you can honestly and thoroughly embody self love. If you’re feeling it, subscribe to the show, and leave us a review wherever you listen from. You can also keep up with show updates and community discussion on Instagram here.

Rather than teaching you to do more, to be “better,” self-love shows you what it can feel like to fully embody your whole self; to live as a soul on this earth.

In Episode 391 we take a look at what self-love is, what the wild soul is and how your unique human design can give you clues to what your unique superpower is.

My superpower is self-love and my mission is to help as many individuals as possible learn how to love themselves so that we can tip the scales and bring more healing to this world.

If you want to begin or deepen your self-love journey check out my Self-Love Immersion. It starts June 13th. You can sign up at untameyourself.com/selflove

In episode 391 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

[1:37] showing up for yourself even when you aren’t feeling okay
[3:58] Elizabeth’s superpower is self-love and how she discovered that
[4:15] Secrets to “success” and what success looks like to Elizabeth
[5:21] what is the self-love framework
[5:38] applying the self-love framework to all stages of life
[8:18] why we don’t try to escape reality at The School of Sacred Embodiment
[10:23] Transmutation versus transfiguration - which one is better
[12:02] what soul truth feels like in the body
[13:09] what does “wild” mean to Elizabeth and your wild soul
[16:12] what it looks like to embody self-love
[16:47] the difference between feeling broken vs. being broken
[17:46] how to love yourself in 2022
[18:51] practical ways to embody self-love
[21:45] review from former student of The School of Sacred Embodiment
[23:33] the three reasons Elizabeth if fixated with self-love
[26:23] Elizabeth’s mission behind self-love work
[28:16] geeking out on human design

For full show notes and resources, head to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/391

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Previous Episode

Ep 390: How to Unconsume Yourself

Do you feel consumed by worry, fear, self-doubt or comparison?

Or maybe you find that you’re coverconsuing (food, media, the opinions of others) and that overconsumption is robbing you of joy, peace and compassion.

If you’re living your life comparing yourself to others or trying to force yourself to behave and think the way dominant culture suggests you “should”, you might be setting yourself up for disappointment, because regardless of what the coaching world suggests, usually a one size fits all approach doesn’t work for us all.

In today’s episode, I’m sharing how you can begin to unconsume yourself by looking at those things that consistently consume you and then consciously make choices about how to let those things go.

We’ll take a look at how Human Design can help you better understand how you uniquely manifest in this world, we’ll go over the my Embodied self love framework (self-awareness, self-knowledge, self-acceptance, self-trust, self-respect/boundaries), and I’ll show you what it looks like to take a life inventory to see where you might be the most consumed by things that do not serve you.

If you enjoy today’s episode and want to dive deeper into this conversation and into the work of unconsuming yourself, check out my Self-Love Immersion at untameyourself.com/selflove. The immersion is designed to help you do the deep work so that you can come out of it with real deal self love as your super power.

Listen to episode 390 now!

In episode 390 of the Embodied Podcast we discuss:

[2:36] One size doesn’t fit all - not everything is universal
[4:12] Stop comparing yourself to people who aren’t on the same journey
[6:30] Understanding how astrology affects our behaviors
[7:41] Dominant culture’s role in our lives and in the results we get
[8:59] Manifestation arrows and the directions they point (what that tells us about ourselves)
[9:30] Manifesting by feeling rather than numbers
[11:09] Unconsume yourself - what does it mean?
[12:49} What are you consumed by? What are you consuming too much of?
[13:58] Elizabeth’s example of what protecting your resources and not getting consumed by interruptions in your day
[15:18} What it looks like to give yourself consideration
[16:50] are you walking the dog, or is the dog walking you?
[19:00] how to detox from judgment and guilt
[20:14] Understanding the difference between toxic people and toxic behavior
[21:11] the main difference between an unhealthy reaction and a healthy response
[23:53] the types of overconsumption
[25:42] examples of what we get consumed by
[29:04] one thing to stop doing now and why acceptance is the ultimate stepping stone
[30:36] take a life inventory
[33:50] what happens when you consume more than you release
[34:08] the 6 aspects of the self-love framework
[36:03] Elizabeth’s example of how being consumed is like having a bad wifi connection
[41:00] who should sign up for the self-love immersion course

For full show notes and resources, head to https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/390

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

Next Episode

Ep 392: Follow Your Calling in Each Season of Life with Chela Davison

Chela Davison works with individuals to help them discover the call of their soul and make the meaningful impact they wish to see in their lives.

The core of Chela’s work is to help people meet their calling, discover what it is and develop the capacity to carry it out in the world.

In Episode 392 Chela shares how her calling is evolving and how she is reckoning with that now, in the same way you may need to mourn when a role you’ve previously played no longer is sustainable in your current life. Because let’s be honest, life changes and you need to learn to change with it.

Life, like nature, has seasons, and when you try to operate in an “endless summer,” negating your Autumn, you can enter burnout and/or crisis. You’ll know if you are headed this direction because you might find yourself in the middle of self-sabotage or saying things like “I just want to burn the whole thing down.”

Because life's complicated and multifaceted you might find various parts of your life in different seasons all at once.

Listen to episode 392 to hear how knowing where you’re at in each aspect of life can help you hold space for those dynamic tensions and avoid the suffering that comes from not letting go.

In this episode we discuss:

[1:28] Chela’s definition of God and how she communes with God
[2:26] Communing with God in nature
[5:57] The Divine is in everything - even in the trash
[9:36] The way we commune with our trash - both physically and metaphorically
[11:03] Life lessons Elizabeth is taking from her current parking spot
[13:55] The cycle of life falling apart and coming back together
[14:08] How the myth of individualism applies too much pressure in our personal and professional lives
{15:27] Running a Post Capitalism business
[15:33] The difference between Anti Capitalism and Post Capitalism
[18:50] The regenerative aspect of the 1 for 1 business model
[22:38] The core of Chela’s work and how she helps people find and develop their calling
[26:57] What to do when your calling evolves
[29:03] Shedding roles that are no longer sustainable for you
[31:49] What is saviorism and are you allowing it to keep you stuck
[32:56] What is extraction and how is it depleting your energy
[37:13] Experiencing burnout and how honoring the seasons of life
[39:55] Language as a guide to understanding if you are approaching or are already in burnout
[40:21] Signs you need to let go of something
[43:21] The beauty of starting something new in December instead of waiting for January
[47:02] Learning to “winter” in different phases of life
[49:32] Balancing various aspects of life (personal, business, projects) that are in different seasons at the same time
[51:37] are you operating from intentional strategy or from the nervous system’s desire to survive
[54:31] How Elizabeth feels about dating in this season of life
[01:01:02] Recognizing cultural programming
[01:04:07] Chela’s backup plan in standup comedy

For full show notes and resources, head to: https://untameyourself.com/podcasts/392

About the EMBODIED Podcast with Elizabeth DiAlto

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