#473 Teaching Your Children How to Say No

03/28/22 • 15 min

Why Kids Who 'Talk Back' Grow Up To Be Better Adults

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Article mentioned - Why Kids Who 'Talk Back' Grow Up To Be Better Adults
Kylie was a compliant child. Justin was not. His family encouraged speaking up for yourself.
"the inability to say "No" — the inability to set personal boundaries — is one of the most common, insidious causes of human suffering." - Clinical psychologist Kelly M. Flanagan
Our job as parents is to teach them how to say no and push back effectively
Get curious, not furious
Kids need to be able to practice being heard
Kids need to know that we trust them
Acknowledge that your children have preferences
Come into the conversation with compassion
If our children don't feel safe saying 'no' to us, who else are they going to have trouble saying 'no' to?

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Why Kids Who 'Talk Back' Grow Up To Be Better Adults

Topics included in this episode:

Article mentioned - Why Kids Who 'Talk Back' Grow Up To Be Better Adults
Kylie was a compliant child. Justin was not. His family encouraged speaking up for yourself.
"the inability to say "No" — the inability to set personal boundaries — is one of the most common, insidious causes of human suffering." - Clinical psychologist Kelly M. Flanagan
Our job as parents is to teach them how to say no and push back effectively
Get curious, not furious
Kids need to be able to practice being heard
Kids need to know that we trust them
Acknowledge that your children have preferences
Come into the conversation with compassion
If our children don't feel safe saying 'no' to us, who else are they going to have trouble saying 'no' to?

Purchase a ticket to the Bringing Up Boys Summit

Purchase The Do's & Dont's of Discipline or find it in your Happy Families Membership. Because a happy family doesn't just happen.

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Are we being too soft on kids these days?

Topics included in this episode:

Kylie takes Miss 7 to an activity, which results in a large meltdown but ends sweetly
Labelling their feelings
Understanding their development better
Emotional regulation
High emotions = low intelligence
Name it to tame it

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How do we raise children who are independent, critical thinkers while also fitting in?

Topics included in this episode:

Justin speaks with Todd Kashdan about his new book
"We want our youth to be compelling - likeability plus confidence."
Instilling values
Basketball free throws
Losing while you stick to your principles is better than winning by taking the shortcuts
Stereotyped, non-conforming behaviour
Masculinity and insubordination

Learn more about Todd Kashdan or buy his book, The Art of Insubordination

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