Overcoming Years of Silent Tension & Unspoken Emotions - with Chloe | Ep. 128
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01/07/25 • 64 min
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Chloe and her husband, married for 12 years, struggled with their intimate relationship from the very beginning. However, they found it difficult to have honest conversations with each other. Both raised in Britain with the belief in keeping a “stiff upper lip,” discussing emotions or sensitive topics didn’t come naturally to them. Her husband’s moods often turned dark and tense, and Chloe learned to tread carefully, trying to manage his unspoken feelings. Instead of confronting the issues, they both silently stewed in frustration for years.
Five years ago, Chloe came across Janna’s program but never mentioned it to her husband, fearing it might hurt his feelings. Eventually, after reaching a breaking point, they had an honest conversation and decided to try the Doing It Together program. Chloe shares how surprised she was by what she discovered about herself, especially the depth of certain issues she hadn’t fully recognized before.
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Chloe and her husband, married for 12 years, struggled with their intimate relationship from the very beginning. However, they found it difficult to have honest conversations with each other. Both raised in Britain with the belief in keeping a “stiff upper lip,” discussing emotions or sensitive topics didn’t come naturally to them. Her husband’s moods often turned dark and tense, and Chloe learned to tread carefully, trying to manage his unspoken feelings. Instead of confronting the issues, they both silently stewed in frustration for years.
Five years ago, Chloe came across Janna’s program but never mentioned it to her husband, fearing it might hurt his feelings. Eventually, after reaching a breaking point, they had an honest conversation and decided to try the Doing It Together program. Chloe shares how surprised she was by what she discovered about herself, especially the depth of certain issues she hadn’t fully recognized before.
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Get $300 off for this round only! Join the Waitlist.
Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.
Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your rating and review to help the podcast reach more couples.
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Tim's Journey from Confusion to Clarity in His 30-Year Marriage | Ep. 127
1 RecommendationsTim and his wife have been married for 30 years. Their initial connection was deep and fulfilling, but once they got married, something changed. His wife began to touch him less and less, and Tim felt rejected and confused. This led to frequent arguments. After their three kids moved out, Tim hoped things would improve, but they didn’t. He fell into an emotional spiral, convincing himself that the only explanation was that his wife no longer loved him.
Thankfully, Tim’s wife discovered Janna’s podcast. After listening to just half an episode, Tim immediately recognized their own experience in what was being shared, and they decided to sign up for the program. In the men’s group, Tim was able to open up honestly with other men for the first time and realize he wasn’t alone. Meanwhile, in the women’s program, his wife discovered she wasn’t broken either.
For the first time in years, they felt like they were on the same team, working together to find a solution. Listen to why Tim now feels free from the emotional turmoil that sex had caused in his life, and why he and his wife have never been closer.
Episode References:
Zoe’s Episode 121: https://jannadentonhowes.com/121-breaking-the-cycle-zoes-30-year-journey-to-reclaim-intimacy/
Ep. 79: https://jannadentonhowes.com/79-is-wanting-it-more-the-right-program-to-solve-my-low-libido-problem/
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Get $300 off for this round only! Join the Waitlist.
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Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your rating and review to help the podcast reach more couples.
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Understanding Anxiety and Emotional Suppression in Men - with Kris | Ep. 129
From a young age, Kris learned to suppress his emotions and handle his feelings alone. His friends, family, and culture reinforced this mindset, showing him quick fixes for managing his growing anxiety, such as drinking alcohol, using drugs, or turning to adult entertainment. Over time, he became an expert at burying his emotions, but this came at a cost—dark moods, silence, and withdrawal from his family and marriage.
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Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Get $300 off for this round only! Join the Waitlist.
Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.
Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your rating and review to help the podcast reach more couples.
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