Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
Janna Denton-Howes: Marriage Coach | Sex Educator | Low Libido Expert
Too often, the focus is placed on labels like “low libido” and “low sex drive” without addressing the root issues including physical and emotional safety, shame, porn use, unintentional pressure, lack of emotional awareness, and many others.
I’m Janna Denton-Howes, a Relationship Coach and Sex Educator who has specialized in this one area for the last 7 years, helping thousands of couples create a sex life that both partners can look forward to and genuinely enjoy. I’ve developed Doing It Together (formally known as “Wanting It More”), a unique program offering both men and women the tools, skills, and support to do the work required for a healthy and sustainable intimate life.
If you’re looking for a fresh perspective on how to have a great sex life that is truly nourishing, connecting, and fulfilling without any feelings of obligation, duty, or guilt, this is the podcast for you!
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Do You Need To Be Sexually Attracted To Your Husband To Have A Great Sex Life? | Ep. 38
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
04/25/23 • 32 min
I don't believe that making the choice to explore a sexual connection AND enjoy the experience is connected to physical attraction to your spouse in any way (aka, you don't need to be turned on by his body.)
This also includes you if you DO find him hunky and still don't want and/or enjoy sex with him.
This doesn't mean anything about you or your marriage.
Curious to know why?
I'm choosing to be honest in hopes that it will calm some fears on this hotly debated topic.
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.
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Wanting It More After 18 Months of Avoidance - with Sarah | Ep. 34
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
03/28/23 • 58 min
1. Janna interviews Sarah, a current Wanting It More (WIM) participant, about her personal and relational shift after seven weeks in the eight-week program.
2. Sarah describes her tearful breaking point the week before signing up for WIM, thoughts of divorce, and how she’s used the tools learned in WIM to save her marriage.
3. Honest talk about her declining desire over 15 years and why it’s so hard for women to verbalize what happened.
4. How honestly acknowledging and expressing her anger, fear, and resentments was the first step toward finding freedom.
5. Details about her first intimate experience during WIM and the amazing discovery she and her husband shared that they never knew about each other.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Janna's Program: Wanting It More
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.
Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.
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Feeling Broken and Alone While Searching for Answers About Low Libido - with Kate | Ep. 132
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
02/04/25 • 58 min
Kate and her husband started out having what she describes as a great sex life. It felt exciting, easy and fun and her pleasure was easily accessible. As the years passed and life got more stressful and overwhelming, her desire plummeted. She couldn’t understand what happened. She started keeping a calendar to track how often they had sex and if too much time went by she would shame herself into doing it. Even though sex felt fine in the moment, she had no desire and felt broken and very alone.
Desperate for help, she searched for ‘low libido’ in her podcast browser and discovered Janna’s podcast. She listened to the first episode on the way to the grocery store and exclaimed, “That’s me, that’s me, that’s me!” Hearing her story for the first time prompted her to listen and learn further, and finally take the program with her husband. Listen as Kate describes what was really going on, what she and her husband learned, and how their communication and sexual relationship has dramatically improved.
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.
Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.
Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your rating and review to help the podcast reach more couples.
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What Does Safety In The Sexual Experience Actually Mean? A Man's Transformative Experience Unveils The Answer - with Erin’s husband, Rob | Ep. 41
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
05/09/23 • 51 min
In this follow-up conversation to Episode 40, I talk with Erin's husband Rob about his ‘old ways’ of thinking about sex and how his views have drastically transformed since taking Wanting It More.
Learning about my concepts of safety in the bedroom originally floored him, but incorporating these vital ideas has ultimately made all the difference in their marriage and sexual relationship.
If you're confused about what safety in the bedroom means, I hope you'll have a listen to a man's perspective on the subject.
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.
Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.
Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your rating and review to help the podcast reach more couples.
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Tim's Journey from Confusion to Clarity in His 30-Year Marriage | Ep. 127
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
01/01/25 • 61 min
Tim and his wife have been married for 30 years. Their initial connection was deep and fulfilling, but once they got married, something changed. His wife began to touch him less and less, and Tim felt rejected and confused. This led to frequent arguments. After their three kids moved out, Tim hoped things would improve, but they didn’t. He fell into an emotional spiral, convincing himself that the only explanation was that his wife no longer loved him.
Thankfully, Tim’s wife discovered Janna’s podcast. After listening to just half an episode, Tim immediately recognized their own experience in what was being shared, and they decided to sign up for the program. In the men’s group, Tim was able to open up honestly with other men for the first time and realize he wasn’t alone. Meanwhile, in the women’s program, his wife discovered she wasn’t broken either.
For the first time in years, they felt like they were on the same team, working together to find a solution. Listen to why Tim now feels free from the emotional turmoil that sex had caused in his life, and why he and his wife have never been closer.
Episode References:
Zoe’s Episode 121: https://jannadentonhowes.com/121-breaking-the-cycle-zoes-30-year-journey-to-reclaim-intimacy/
Ep. 79: https://jannadentonhowes.com/79-is-wanting-it-more-the-right-program-to-solve-my-low-libido-problem/
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.
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Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your rating and review to help the podcast reach more couples.
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His Side of the Story - with Nick | Ep. 35
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
04/04/23 • 37 min
1. Janna interviews Nick, the husband of a current Wanting It More (WIM) participant, about his experience going through the program.
2. Nick explains the challenges and rewards of vulnerability in male friendships.
3. His ah-ha moment realizing the lack of physical connection was not the real problem in his marriage.
4. How his attempts at “gentle pressure” and reverse psychology backfired and what actually worked to rebuild their connection in and out of the bedroom.
5. His misinterpretation of his wife’s lack of desire and what was actually going on.
6. His liberating experience in understanding boundaries and how they enhanced feelings of closeness.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Janna's Program: Wanting It More
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.
Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.
Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your rating and review to help the podcast reach more couples.
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How To Explain Low Libido To Men (The Real Symptoms Behind Low Sex Drive In Women) | Ep. 36
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
04/11/23 • 43 min
While I've spent years talking to women about safety, pleasure, equity, communication, and desire for a healthy sexual connection in marriage, it's felt like an entire different ball game to share this content with men.
I recently gave a presentation to a group of men from goodguys2greatmen.com on "Low Female Desire in Struggling Marriages" and got permission from the hosts, Dan and Steve to use the presentation portion of the audio for my podcast so that's what you get this week!
We discuss the deep flaws in outdated sexual research that don’t hold true for many women, the pitfalls of “transactional” or “duty sex” which lead to resentment, and the key element in creating a space for real sexual pleasure and connection to flourish. I also offer three steps men can take to spark discussion and learning about one another in the sexual experience.
Learn more about Wanting It More: https://jannadentonhowes.com/wantingitmore
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Ready to get in the mood, and increase interest and enjoyment without pressure or guilt? Get my FREE video straight to your inbox! https://jannadentonhowes.com/freeclass-evergreen
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How to Recover Intimacy in Marriage After Betrayal and Porn Addiction - with Sandra | Ep. 74
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
12/19/23 • 48 min
Throughout their 17 year union, the presence of pornography cast a shadow over Sandra and her husband’s relationship, steadily eroding its foundation. Initially, Sandra dismissed it, swayed by the notion that incorporating porn could add a spark to their connection. However, as time unfolded, she witnessed alarming shifts in her husband's behavior—his inability to heed her pleas for gentleness, defensiveness clouding his responses, emotions spiraling into dramatic extremes, an inability to distinguish between sex and love, and an insistence on using orgasms as a mood-management tool. Caught in a web of lies and betrayal, Sandra recognized the compulsive and addictive nature of her husband's porn consumption.
In this powerful podcast episode, Sandra shares her story of resilience and transformation, recounting how therapy and the Wanting It More model became the catalysts for rebuilding intimacy in their relationship. She delves into their journey of porn recovery, shedding light on the steps they took to recreate their sex life. Sandra explores the intricacies of navigating boundaries, revealing the specific measures she implemented to safeguard her well-being within the relationship. She also shares what their sex life looks like now and how her husband feels about intimacy since recovering from porn addiction.
Resourses: Sandra and her husband used the following resources to help them on their healing journey.
Helping Couples Heal Podcast (interviews with Stan Tatkin, Omar Minwalla, and Carol Jurgensen Sheets): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/helping-couples-heal-podcast/id1462962051
Omar Minwalla Deceptive Sexuality & Trauma Resource Library: https://minwallamodel.com/resource-library/We used ERCEM coaches to facilitate our disclosure. ERCEM is
Carol Jurgensen Sheets Workbooks: https://sexhelpwithcarolthecoach.com/products
Dan Drake and Janice Caudill’s books to prepare for full therapeutic disclosure and emotional impact statement: https://intensivehope.com/resources/
SPAA: http://spaa-recovery.org/
Dr Paula Hall’s TED talk on pornography addiction: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Qf2e3XZ8Twhttps://www.paulahall.co.uk/books/
The TINSA book connects addictive behavior to adverse developmental experiences: https://a.co/d/eYaltET
Robert Augustus Masters, mature monogamyhttps://www.robertmasters.com/books-audiobooks/
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.
Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.
Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your rating and review to help the podcast reach more couples.
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Is 'Just Do It' The Only Answer To Low Libido? Unravelling The Truth Behind Women's Sexual Desire- with Amber | Ep. 42
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
05/16/23 • 56 min
Amber spent years searching for help for her low sexual desire with no answers. She spoke to her university counsellor, her mom, read books and sought help from her church.
In a moment of desperation she reached out to her physician and was given this response: "Look, it's just one of those things. You simply have to do it. It'll make him a better husband and father."
I can personally relate to this lonely experience. I searched for years for answers to my low sex drive from similar sources as Amber- books, workshops, therapists, and doctors and found nothing that helped me in the long term. Thankfully, Amber's story has a happy ending but my heart breaks for the hundreds of thousands of women out there who are searching for a solution and finding nothing except, "Just do it, it's good for your marriage."
There is a better answer to help women experiencing low libido and I'll hope you'll listen to find out what it is.
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.
Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.
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A Love Note To Those Struggling In The Bedroom | Ep. 33
Doing It Together: Making Sense of Low Libido, Sex, and Intimacy in Marriage.
03/21/23 • 11 min
1. Janna shares a love note filled with compassion and validation to her listeners feeling the weight of this difficult work.
2. Her thoughts on how our culture has completely lost the true meaning of intimacy.
3. Why it’s still hard for her in her own relationship after all these years.
4. The importance of knowing you're not alone, you're not broken, and it's definitely not your fault.
RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Janna's Program: Wanting It More
Janna's new Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is open for registration.
The next round of Doing It Together runs June/July 2025. Join the Waitlist.
Learn about the Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A.
Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your rating and review to help the podcast reach more couples.
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