38: How to Form Secure Attachments with Eli Harwood, the Attachment Nerd

10/13/23 • 46 min

Welcome to another episode where we discuss parenting reprogramming through healing. Today, I have the privilege of sitting down with Eli Harwood; the Attachment Nerd, a remarkable individual who speaks on different attachment styles and how to form secure attachments.

Eli's story began in a family marked by trauma, a history that propelled her into a profound personal transformation. At the tender age of nine, Eli witnessed her mother's decision to change her lifestyle, sparking a realization in Eli about the dramatic impact such a shift could have. Recognizing the need for change in her own life and in the lives of others, she embarked on a journey of self-discovery. She pursued her master's degree, delving into the intricate world of attachment theory, becoming captivated by the nuances of human connections and patterns.

In this episode, we explore the various attachment styles that define how we function as human beings. From the primal instinct of survival to the intricate dynamics of early bonds. Eli unpacks how comfort intertwines with our vulnerability, shaping our responses to the world around us. Crucially, she emphasizes the pivotal role caregivers play in our emotional development.

Our responses in life are deeply influenced by our caregivers' emotional regulation and their attachment styles. Eli sheds light on how these coping mechanisms are passed down through generations, forming the basis of our own attachment styles. Eli speaks on how important it is to have a space to feel seen, safe, secure, and regulated. When we don’t experience these spaces in our childhoods, there may be negative side effects that we can pass on to our children. Eli passionately explains the importance of creating spaces where individuals can feel seen, safe, secure, and regulated. She highlights the profound impact these environments, or the lack thereof, have on our childhoods and then our adulthood. When these nurturing spaces are absent, negative effects can flow through generations, and it is vitally important to break these cycles both individually and collectively. You can expect to be enlightened about the power of understanding attachment styles in the context of parenting. Eli emphasizes the possibility of reparenting ourselves by examining our attachment styles and their origins by looking at the patterns woven throughout our lives, patterns that can be unraveled through introspection and inner work. Throughout this entire episode she inspires hope, showing us that with dedication and self-reflection, we can shift, change, and transform these patterns, ultimately fostering healthier relationships with ourselves and others.

But that's not all – Eli has an exciting announcement to share. Her upcoming book, "Securely Attached: Transform Your Attachment Patterns into Loving, Lasting Romantic Relationships," is a wealth of information and insights, offering practical tips and tricks to shift our attachment styles while healing the wounds left behind. This book isn't just for individuals seeking personal growth; it is also a valuable resource for therapists, coaches, and anyone passionate about fostering healing and transformation from within.

Grab a cuppa, get comfy, and be ready for a powerful conversation that delves into the heart of attachment theory, parenting, and the incredible capacity we all possess to rewrite the narratives of our lives. Stay tuned for Eli Harwood's wisdom, guiding us toward a more secure and fulfilling emotional future.

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37: Embodiment and the Celtic Wheel with Jen Murphy

Join us for this magical episode as I sit down with Jen Murphy, a true guardian of Celtic traditions who speaks on her journey of embodiment and the Celtic Wheel. Jen's journey into the world of Irish folklore and mythology began with her storyteller grandmother, who regaled her with captivating tales of ancient Ireland. This early fascination with Irish traditions set the stage for her remarkable academic and spiritual journey that you wouldn’t want to miss!

With a degree in Medieval Irish and Celtic Studies and anthropology, Jen delved deep into the study of systems of oppression, forging her path towards teaching practices and learning how to adapt ancient traditions for the modern day. After the birth of her first son, she experienced a profound transformation, guided by the energy of the Goddess and Queen Maeve, among other powerful archetypes. Jen describes this journey as a trail of breadcrumbs leading her to her present purpose.

Today, Jen runs a Celtic Embodiment School where she imparts her wisdom and knowledge to others. In this episode, she shares her profound connection with the Calliach during the Autumn Equinox, highlighting the immense power of these energies during this sacred time of year when we slowly descend into the darkness.

Listen in as Jen reveals the daily practices she teaches women, helping them awaken their feminine and masculine energies while inviting supportive archetypes to hold space with them. These practices not only foster personal growth but also enable a profound connection with the spirit.

Intrigued by the Selkies and the Celtic Wheel? Join us as Jen takes us on a journey through these mystical realms, tales, and her personal experiences, offering insights into the ancient practices and wisdom she recommends. Discover how she seamlessly incorporates her academic skills and spiritual work to connect with archetypes, cultures, and traditions from around the world while empowering women to incorporate these rituals into their everyday lives.

Don't miss this episode as we explore the magic of the Autumn Equinox and the Celtic Wheel with Jen Murphy, a true guide to the hidden depths of Celtic spirituality and tradition.

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39: Sacred Homecoming: A Priestess Path to Self with Elaine Doyle

Join me in this episode as we discuss the Priestess Path and how sacred the homecoming of self is with Elaine Doyle who underwent a drastic lifestyle change to bring her life into Divine balance.

A chance encounter during the Bealtaine season brought Elaine and I together, and I’m so grateful that we met because our paths of self-discovery and more importantly, self-re-discovery in becoming a priestess and following the path of a priestess have such similar energies. I resonate with so much of what Elaine shares in this episode.

Do you resonate with the Path of a Priestess? Does it feel overwhelming when you think of changing your lifestyle, changing your perspective and profoundly healing from within? Are you tired of a stressful career and an imbalance in your life?

It can be overwhelming, and Elaine shares how when something in your life is misaligned in your life, it becomes a progress of stimulation toward the sacred. When you choose to step into your authenticity and walk in the path of a Priestess, your own unique journey, you are essentially signing up for a journey of coming home to your true self. A continued journey of remembrance of self, and this journey is not easy. But, when you’re on this path of a priestess, pilgrimage, you come face to face with parts of yourself, your shadow self, that you may have lost or forgotten about. Remembering your true self will activate levels of your soul that you have hidden, forgotten about, or suppressed.

In this episode, Elaine and I share how we were drawn to this path of the Priestess, and how we faced many challenges and blockages to eventually emerge in our own Divine truth. The answers of your soul reveal themselves as you follow this path, as you unveil the parts of yourself that may lay dormant, and when you’re ready they will activate within you.

Do you feel like you don’t know who you are?

We have all been there, and this episode will make you feel at home in the confusion! Sometimes, not knowing who you are, or why you are called to do what you feel so deeply within yourself, is the best place to be. Because once you open yourself up to this vulnerability, you open yourself up to the possibility of the Priestess Path, which leads to divine timing, trusting yourself, ancestral healing, listening to your womb, and listening to your body, mind, and spirit. Your spirit already knows what it needs, and when you enter the path of a Priestess, and you welcome spirit to lead you, you will find the authenticity and remembrance you’ve longed for.

If you are still figuring out your path of figuring out who you are and where you’re meant to be, you’re not alone. That is why Elaine and I have come together to speak about our journeys of remembrance and how we can share that light and wisdom with others. We are still continuing to grow, learn, and open ourselves up more and more to channel the energy and power of Source.

Listen to this episode to hear the real-life experience of the Priestess path, and how you can incorporate balance, healing, and sacredness into your everyday practices.

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Elaine is a qualified life coach, CBT therapist, social worker, and energy healer and is currently walking the path of the priestess. Elaine has worked with thousands of people from all over the world both one-on-one and in groups to help them come home to themselves, to their hearts, and to help them remember their divinity.

Elaine is passionate about connecting people back to the ancient indigenous ways of Ireland as a way to receive the codes of wisdom needed to birth this new earth.

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