Diary, She Wrote - Series 3, Ep. 23 - That Drunk Girl Crying On The Train

Series 3, Ep. 23 - That Drunk Girl Crying On The Train

06/27/21 • 20 min

The last we heard from Dexter Turner was in November 2018 when I was in Paris for my 37th birthday, he rang and then looked into Eurostar tickets to see if he could afford to join me for a night. He didn’t, but of course that was never going to be the last time I heard from him...

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Key Characters:

Dexter Turner - A guy who briefly entered and quickly exited my life on a number of occasions and unjustifiably has become one of those people who is hard to shake off and annoyingly someone I’m quite fond of.

Beth - My best mate

Rowan - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Grace - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Hayley, Nina, Ryan, Jade, Tori, Monty - London friends

George - An amazing man who I dated for 3 months

Maya - A girl I met in a Club in Nottingham, had what I thought was a one night stand, but it turned into something a little more complicated.

Eric - A guy I dated

Isaac - A London friend and the first man I fancied after ending an 11 year relationship

Billie - A holiday fling

Entertainment References:

Barbican - Beatie Wolfe, From Red to Green - An Environmental Statement of our Times
https://www.barbican.org.uk/whats-on/2019/event/from-green-to-red

He’s Just Not That Into You
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/He's_Just_Not_That_Into_You_(film)

Friends With Benefits
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friends_with_Benefits_(film)

Millennial Love Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/millennial-love/id1286791385

Constellations
https://www.robertrowlandsmith.com/

Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth and artwork by Robbie Porter.

Follow: https://www.instagram.com/diaryshewrote/

Key Characters:

Beth - My best mate

Rowan - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Grace - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Hayley, Nina, Ryan, Jade, Tori, Monty - London friends

George - An amazing man who I dated for 3 months

Maya - A girl I met in a Club in Nottingham, had what I thought was a one night stand, but it turned into something a little more complicated.

Eric - A guy I dated

Isaac - A London friend and the first man I fancied after ending an 11 year relationship

Billie - A holiday fling

Entertainment References:

Barbican - Beatie Wolfe, From Red to Green - An Environmental Statement of our Times
https://www.barbican.org.uk/whats-on/2019/event/from-green-to-red

He’s Just Not That Into You
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/He's_Just_Not_That_Into_You_(film)

Friends With Benefits
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Friends_with_Benefits_(film)

Millennial Love Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/millennial-love/id1286791385

Constellations
https://www.robertrowlandsmith.com/

Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth and artwork by Robbie Porter.

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Series 3, Ep. 22 - Man, We Kicked Ass

I didn’t experience your standard university life, from 2000 - 2003 I went to a tiny little art college in Epsom, called The Surrey Institute of Art & Design to study Fashion Promotion & Illustration. There were probably only about 1,500 students on campus, no halls of residence, only student houses, the cafeteria doubled up as the student union bar and the opening of a new Yates & Wetherspoons was as exciting as it got. There were 2 locations you could loosely call a club, and then there was the Odeon cinema.

I found the first year very up and down. I am dramatically hating life one day and then loving it the next. For the most part I was jealous of my school friends living out the stereotypical student life in city centres like Leeds, Sheffield and Liverpool. I didn’t appreciate the new friendships I was building, as I was comparing 6-month friendships to ones that I had cultivated over 6 years and in my first year of uni I was obsessed with wanting to be friends with the group I deemed to be the popular & cool crowd. At school, everyone knew me, and I found it so difficult to suddenly be in a space where no one cared who I was.

I don’t have any student stories or endless drinking or constant partying. But what I will share are my coming of age experiences over my 3 years at uni; moving away from home for the first time, making new friends, learning how to self motivate, recognising my potential and finding a career focussed job in the industry I had aspired to work in since religiously watching The Clothes Show on TV every Sunday night as a teenager.

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Key Characters:

Beth - My best mate

Ashley, Ellie, Dawn, Sally, Harriet, Amber, Erica - Some of my oldest friends

Dan - My ex boyfriend who I spent 11 years with from 2001 - 2012

Locations:

The Surrey Institute of Art & Design - Now called
https://www.uca.ac.uk/life-at-uca/locations/epsom/

Odeon Epsom
https://www.odeon.co.uk/cinemas/epsom/

Wetherspoons Cheadle Hulme
https://www.greatukpubs.co.uk/kings-tap-cheadle-hulme?utm_source=google&utm_medium=local_seo_gmb&utm_content=website

Topshop Oxford Circus
https://www.businessoffashion.com/news/retail/topshops-flagship-oxford-street-store-up-for-sale

Entertainment References:

The Clothes Show
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Clothes_Show

Harry Potter 2001
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harry_Potter_and_the_Philosopher's_Stone_(film)

Graduate Fashion Week
https://www.graduatefashionweek.com/

Helmet Newton Photo Machine
https://www.dazeddigital.com/fashion/article/168/1/topshops-newton-machine

Topshop Unique LFW
https://www.vogue.com/fashion-shows/spring-2006-ready-to-wear/topshop-unique

Dazed and Confused
https://www.dazeddigital.com/

Twenty Twenty Podcast
https://messageheard.com/podcasts/twenty-twenty-pop-culture-podcast

Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth and artwork by Robbie Porter.

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Series 3, Ep. 24 - Look At The Change In You

If you’ve listened to the other 23 episodes of Diary, She Wrote, you may have picked up on some of my insecurities. These mainly centre around not feeling intelligent enough and not talking enough in social situations. After a therapy session and with the therapists comments in mind I read back over my time at school and it became obvious how year after year my school’s class rating system and some teachers' comments were no doubt partly responsible for installing my perception of my intelligence which in turn impacts my confidence when it comes to talking up in social situations. I had been aware of my insecurities all my life but they only really started to surface and to become a hindrance in my mid 30’s, so in order to try and figure out how to better deal with them I went to see said therapist.

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Key Characters:

Rowan - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Flossie, Ryan, Nina & Cara - London friends

Paula - My therapist

Dan - My ex boyfriend who I spent 11 years with from 2001 - 2012

Eric - A guy I dated

Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth and artwork by Robbie Porter.