Diary, She Wrote - Series 3, Ep. 19 - You're A Gold Nugget Welcomed To The Group

Series 3, Ep. 19 - You're A Gold Nugget Welcomed To The Group

06/06/21 • 21 min

Throughout your life, every now and then, you meet someone who goes on to change your life. You’ll have heard me talk a lot about Rowan throughout the podcast. I met Rowan in 2012 and over the course of time she changed my life for the better and I am incredibly grateful. We worked together for a few years where our friendship began to form, but it was only when she moved on to a new job that we really started to bond and she invited me into her world and to meet her friends and I was welcomed by an amazing group of people who went on to help shape my next chapter; they make me laugh, they inspire me and I learn so much from them and I am always in a very happy place when I’m with them. Between 2015 - 2019 we would always rent a house in the country to celebrate New Year’s Eve. Each year it was never the exact same group of friends, as some would have work or have family commitments or might be celebrating elsewhere, but that meant we could then invite others which allowed us to continue to expand the friendship circle. I’ve picked out 2 of our New Year celebrations, and with it being New Year there are quite a few drug references in this episode, but for me this is a story about the love of friendship, creating shared memories and the joy of merging friends.

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Key Characters:

Rowan - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Flossie, Jay, Cara, Walt, Anne, Ryan, Nina, Morgan, Adam, Chloe, Morgan, Tim, Dave, Mary - London friends

Locations:

Lumiere - now closed down
http://lumierelondon.blogspot.com/

Tywyn Wales
https://www.visitmidwales.co.uk/Tywyn-Tywyn/details/?dms=3&venue=1023165

Kings Lynn
https://www.visitwestnorfolk.com/places/kings-lynn/

Entertainment References:

Frozen
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frozen_(2013_film)

12 Years a Slave
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/12_Years_a_Slave_(film)

Elf
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elf_(film)

Zootopia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zootopia

The Mannequin Challenge
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mannequin_Challenge

Ecstasy: The Battle of Rave
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/brand/p08qw04h

Beats
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beats_(2019_British_film)

Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth and artwork by Robbie Porter.

Follow: https://www.instagram.com/diaryshewrote/

Key Characters:

Rowan - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Flossie, Jay, Cara, Walt, Anne, Ryan, Nina, Morgan, Adam, Chloe, Morgan, Tim, Dave, Mary - London friends

Locations:

Lumiere - now closed down
http://lumierelondon.blogspot.com/

Tywyn Wales
https://www.visitmidwales.co.uk/Tywyn-Tywyn/details/?dms=3&venue=1023165

Kings Lynn
https://www.visitwestnorfolk.com/places/kings-lynn/

Entertainment References:

Frozen
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frozen_(2013_film)

12 Years a Slave
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/12_Years_a_Slave_(film)

Elf
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elf_(film)

Zootopia
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Zootopia

The Mannequin Challenge
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mannequin_Challenge

Ecstasy: The Battle of Rave
https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/brand/p08qw04h

Beats
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Beats_(2019_British_film)

Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth and artwork by Robbie Porter.

Previous Episode

Series 3, Ep. 18 - Thank F*ck I'm Not A Handmaid

In the 8 years I’ve been single I’ve had; many late night snogs, countless first dates, a few one night stands and occasionally just some really intense interactions. This episode is similar to the festival episode from series 2, rather than one overarching story, I’ve picked out a series of 8 short stories that involve a fleeting connection between me and one other person and somehow all made an impact in one way or another. I’ll share them in chronological order starting in 1994 with my first kiss.

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Key Characters:

Tim - My first kiss

Matt - My first date

Johnny - A one night stand

Julian - A guy I dated

Ian - A first date

Graham - A first date

Jimmy - My carpenter

Harry - A first date

Locations:

Stockport Cinema
http://cinematreasures.org/theaters/25390

Visions Video Bar - Now closed down
https://www.facebook.com/visionsvideodalston/

Clapton Hart
https://claptonhart.com/

Hunter S
http://www.thehunter-s-pub.co.uk/

Duke of Wellington
https://www.frontierpubs.co.uk/your-local/duke-of-wellington-dalston-pub/

Lambeth Country Show
https://lambethcountryshow.co.uk/

Entertainment References:

Oasis - Definitely Maybe
https://open.spotify.com/album/3LzKUdUTdJb6P7xGN6SotC

Blue - Parklife
https://open.spotify.com/album/0YS25Dr3hMtMFlVTfuvzl4

Don’t Forget Your Toothbrush
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Don't_Forget_Your_Toothbrush

Matilda
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matilda_(1996_film)

The Handmaid’s Tale
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Handmaid's_Tale_(TV_series)

Get Birding Podcast
https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/get-birding/id1551111133

Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth and artwork by Robbie Porter.

Next Episode

Series 3, Ep. 20 - I'm Going To Corrupt You

Unfortunately during my 8 years of dating I have been confronted with 4 different uncomfortable encounters, one was with Maya from Ep. 2 - The Hope and one was with James from Ep. 13 - I’ve Changed My Mind. On both of those occasions I was put in uncomfortable and non consensual situations. In this episode I look at 2 stories that draw attention to the safety of women and the instinctual decisions we need to make in the moment when it comes to heterosexual dating.

At the time I was fresh into dating after a long term relationship with a very good man, so perhaps I was quite naive, always thinking I could bring out the best in someone and maybe a little bit vulnerable seeking and enjoying attention and quickly getting consumed in the moment. Fortunately neither of these stories were damaging, but I hope by sharing my experiences it will help others to recognise signs of discomfort, follow their instincts, create boundaries and have the confidence to leave difficult situations.

Tinder launched in 2012, and in the summer of 2013 I remember a friend telling me about this new dating app, and how brilliant it was. I was still a bit of a snob about online dating but eventually I caved and soon got sucked into the world of modern dating.

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Key Characters:

Stephen Minder - My first Tinder experience

Sam - A guy I dated

Beth - My best mate

Rowan - One of my best mates who I met in my single years

Heather, Jessica, Adina, Stephanie and Melissa - London friends

Frank - A Tinder match

Isaac - A London friend and the first man I fancied after ending an 11 year relationship

Locations:

Broadway Market
https://broadwaymarket.co.uk/

The Spurstowe Arms
http://www.thespurstowearms.com/

The Cock
https://www.facebook.com/CockTavernBrewPub/

Oslo
http://oslohackney.com/

The Haggerston
https://www.facebook.com/thehaggerston/

Pizza East
http://www.pizzaeast.com/

Entertainment References:

Tinder
https://tinder.com

Peaky Blinders
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peaky_Blinders_(TV_series)

Candy Crush
https://www.king.com/game/candycrush

Ariel Too Big To Fail
https://open.spotify.com/album/5vWp4E5iRzx8VEWmESUvl0

Refuge Charity:

Refuge
https://www.refuge.org.uk/

Diary, She Wrote was produced by Liz Beardsell in partnership with Bird Lime Media with original music by Ethan Illingworth and artwork by Robbie Porter.