Ep. 99 How Transforming Shoulds Can Instantly Decrease Anxiety & Boost Midlife Calm
11/04/24 • 8 min
Feeling burdened by expectations? In this episode of Creating Midlife Calm, MJ Murray Vachon LCSW, dives into how the "shoulds" in your life can impact your spirit, both positively and negatively. Using her simple S.O.S. process, you'll discover how to turn oppressive shoulds into empowering coulds, helping you feel more connected to your inner calm and less anxious.
In this episode, you'll learn:
1. What "shoulds" are and the role they play in your life.
2. The S.O.S. process for assessing your shoulds and transforming them into possibilities.
3. How to reconnect with your spirit to make decisions that lift you up rather than drag you down.
If you're ready to stop letting shoulds control your life and start living with more calm and clarity, this episode is for you.
Check out Fan Favorite Ep.52 Ways to Renew Your Weary Spirit
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About the Host:
MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.
Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.
Feeling burdened by expectations? In this episode of Creating Midlife Calm, MJ Murray Vachon LCSW, dives into how the "shoulds" in your life can impact your spirit, both positively and negatively. Using her simple S.O.S. process, you'll discover how to turn oppressive shoulds into empowering coulds, helping you feel more connected to your inner calm and less anxious.
In this episode, you'll learn:
1. What "shoulds" are and the role they play in your life.
2. The S.O.S. process for assessing your shoulds and transforming them into possibilities.
3. How to reconnect with your spirit to make decisions that lift you up rather than drag you down.
If you're ready to stop letting shoulds control your life and start living with more calm and clarity, this episode is for you.
Check out Fan Favorite Ep.52 Ways to Renew Your Weary Spirit
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About the Host:
MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.
Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.
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Ep. 98 How Changing One Thought Can Decrease Your Anxiety & Increase Your Coping Skills Creating Midlife Calm!
Are you often overwhelmed by the thought, “This should not be happening”? You’re not alone. This mindset can fuel anxiety and a sense of being out of control, leaving you feeling miserable.
By the end of this episode, you’ll gain a new perspective on your thoughts and learn practical strategies to cultivate calm amidst life’s challenges.
In this episode you'll discover:
1. How the thought “this should not be happening” can contribute to feelings of anxiety and unhappiness.
2. Two philosophies—Stoicism and Buddhism—that offer a fresh perspective on accepting reality and reducing suffering.
3. Practical strategies to cultivate calm in challenging situations and improve your mindset.
Tune in to learn how shifting your perspective can empower you to create a more peaceful existence.
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Join me on Monday for more insights on *Creating Midlife Calm*!
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About the Host:
MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.
Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.
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Ep.100 Coping Skills To Transform Your Shoulds in Midlife To Increase Calm When Others Get Mad
In this episode, you'll discover what to do when others aren't happy about you transforming your "shoulds."
When you're shifting priorities, people may resist or push back, creating a unique tension. I'll walk you through a helpful mindset shift to stay true to your decisions and maintain connections with those affected by your choices.
In this episode, you'll learn:
1. The SOS tool—a three-step process of Spirit, Options, Select to evaluate "shoulds" and choose actions that align with your values.
2. The balance of the "Capital I" and "Italicized i"—how to stand firm in your identity while staying connecting and flexible in relationships with others.
3. Strategies for effective communication—how to deliver your decisions compassionately and handle any negative reactions without sacrificing your well-being.
Thank you for listening to this milestone 100th episode! If you’re new, start from Ep. 1, What is Mental Wellness?, and join our journey to achieve calm and balance in midlife. Tune in on Monday for another episode of Creating Midlife Calm.
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About the Host:
MJ Murray Vachon LCSW is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with more than 48,000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching her Mental Wellness curriculum, Inner Challenge. Four years ago she overcame her fear of technology to create a podcast that integrated her vast clinical experience and practical wisdom of cultivating mental wellness using the latest information from neuroscience. MJ was Social Worker of the Year in 2011 for Region 2/IN.
Creating Midlife Calm is a podcast designed to guide you through the challenges of midlife, tackling issues like anxiety, low self-esteem, feeling unworthy, procrastination, and isolation, while offering strategies for improving relationships, family support, emotional wellbeing, mental wellness, and parenting, with a focus on mindfulness, stress management, coping skills, and personal growth to stop rumination, overthinking, and increase confidence through self-care, emotional healing, and mental health support.
Creating Midlife Calm: Coping Skills for Stress & Anxiety in Family, Work & Relationships - Ep. 99 How Transforming Shoulds Can Instantly Decrease Anxiety & Boost Midlife Calm
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A should should lift your spirit, not drag it down Welcome to Creating Midlife Calm, a podcast dedicated to empowering midlife minds to overcome anxiety, stop feeling like crap and become more present with your family, all while achieving greater success at work. I'm MJ Murray Vachon, a licensed clinical social worker with over 48, 000 hours of therapy sessions and 31 years of experience teaching mental wellness. Welcome to the podcas
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