3373 Stop Being A Doormat
04/20/24 • 19 min
When one spouse feels like they are constantly being walked over, it changes the dynamic of the marriage.
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Marriage is no longer a partnership; it becomes a one-person show. Dreams and goals are no longer considered.
And maybe you're not sure if you are in a marriage where you are the doormat, or treating your partner as such.
The "walking all over" effect can manifest itself in various subtle or overt ways that erode one's sense of self-worth and the value you add as an individual.
Marriage, yes, is a partnership where 2 become 1; however, the individual is not lose themselves because of another person.
Some examples of being a doormat in marriage is:
1. Lack of Communication: Your spouse consistently dismisses or belittles your opinions, feelings, and needs. Your voice is silenced and you feel unheard in important discussions or decision-making processes.
2. Unequal Power Dynamics: One partner consistently exerts control over the other, making unilateral decisions without considering the other's input or feelings. This imbalance of power can lead to a sense of helplessness and lack of autonomy.
3. Emotional Neglect: Your emotional well-being is neglected, and your spouse fails to show empathy or support during challenging times. You may feel isolated and unsupported in dealing with your emotions or struggles.
4. Constant Criticism or Blame: You are frequently criticized, blamed, or made to feel responsible for issues in the relationship, even when they are not entirely your fault. This pattern of negativity can erode your self-esteem and confidence over time.
5. Lack of Appreciation: Your efforts, contributions, and sacrifices go unnoticed or unappreciated by your spouse. Your value in the relationship is overshadowed, leaving you feeling unacknowledged and unvalued.
Signs that you might be feeling walked all over in your marriage include:
1. Feeling like your needs and opinions are consistently ignored or devalued.
2. Always giving in to your partner's demands or desires at the expense of your own.
3. Constantly feeling drained, unfulfilled, or unappreciated in the relationship.
4. Having a sense of powerlessness or helplessness in influencing decisions or dynamics within the marriage.
5. Experiencing a lack of emotional support, empathy, or understanding from your spouse.
Recognizing these signs is the first step towards reclaiming who you are and who you are becoming, your self-worth within the marriage.
If you want to have a healthier, more harmonious relationship dynamic, you need to address these patterns and reclaim your voice.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Reclaim your voice!As you consider this for yourself, be careful to make sure you look at it from both perspectives. Being in a marriage means you do need to take into consideration both you and your spouse. Because if you are quick to point fingers and not look at the totality of the marriage and what you bring to the relationship, then your actions, or lack there of, can be just as bad as what is being done to you.
Here are three essential steps to reclaim your voice and stop being a doormat in your relationship.
1. Set Boundaries: Marriage counselor Leslie Vernick emphasizes the importance of setting healthy boundaries in a relationship. Communicate assertively with your spouse about your needs and limits.
Dr. Gary Chapman, author of "The Five Love Languages," suggests that understanding and expressing your needs can help create a more balanced dynamic in the marriage.
2. Practice Self-Care: Make self-care a priority in your life. Jimmy Evans, founder of MarriageToday and XO Conference, stresses that taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually can strengthen your sense of self-worth. Remember, it's essential to fill your own cup before you can pour into your relationship.
3. Seek Counseling: If you feel consistently unheard and undervalued in your marriage, seek the support of a professional counselor. A trained therapist can help you and your spouse improve communication, address underlying issues, and work towards a healthier relationship dynamic.
As Kristianne Wargo wisely said, "You can stop being a doormat, but it first starts with who you are and who you are becoming."
Remember, reclaiming your self-worth is a journey...
When one spouse feels like they are constantly being walked over, it changes the dynamic of the marriage.
Desire to be supported and encouraged by other like-minded women? Join us at Women of IMPACT. https://createyournow.mn.co
Marriage is no longer a partnership; it becomes a one-person show. Dreams and goals are no longer considered.
And maybe you're not sure if you are in a marriage where you are the doormat, or treating your partner as such.
The "walking all over" effect can manifest itself in various subtle or overt ways that erode one's sense of self-worth and the value you add as an individual.
Marriage, yes, is a partnership where 2 become 1; however, the individual is not lose themselves because of another person.
Some examples of being a doormat in marriage is:
1. Lack of Communication: Your spouse consistently dismisses or belittles your opinions, feelings, and needs. Your voice is silenced and you feel unheard in important discussions or decision-making processes.
2. Unequal Power Dynamics: One partner consistently exerts control over the other, making unilateral decisions without considering the other's input or feelings. This imbalance of power can lead to a sense of helplessness and lack of autonomy.
3. Emotional Neglect: Your emotional well-being is neglected, and your spouse fails to show empathy or support during challenging times. You may feel isolated and unsupported in dealing with your emotions or struggles.
4. Constant Criticism or Blame: You are frequently criticized, blamed, or made to feel responsible for issues in the relationship, even when they are not entirely your fault. This pattern of negativity can erode your self-esteem and confidence over time.
5. Lack of Appreciation: Your efforts, contributions, and sacrifices go unnoticed or unappreciated by your spouse. Your value in the relationship is overshadowed, leaving you feeling unacknowledged and unvalued.
Signs that you might be feeling walked all over in your marriage include:
1. Feeling like your needs and opinions are consistently ignored or devalued.
2. Always giving in to your partner's demands or desires at the expense of your own.
3. Constantly feeling drained, unfulfilled, or unappreciated in the relationship.
4. Having a sense of powerlessness or helplessness in influencing decisions or dynamics within the marriage.
5. Experiencing a lack of emotional support, empathy, or understanding from your spouse.
Recognizing these signs is the first step towards reclaiming who you are and who you are becoming, your self-worth within the marriage.
If you want to have a healthier, more harmonious relationship dynamic, you need to address these patterns and reclaim your voice.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Reclaim your voice!As you consider this for yourself, be careful to make sure you look at it from both perspectives. Being in a marriage means you do need to take into consideration both you and your spouse. Because if you are quick to point fingers and not look at the totality of the marriage and what you bring to the relationship, then your actions, or lack there of, can be just as bad as what is being done to you.
Here are three essential steps to reclaim your voice and stop being a doormat in your relationship.
1. Set Boundaries: Marriage counselor Leslie Vernick emphasizes the importance of setting healthy boundaries in a relationship. Communicate assertively with your spouse about your needs and limits.
Dr. Gary Chapman, author of "The Five Love Languages," suggests that understanding and expressing your needs can help create a more balanced dynamic in the marriage.
2. Practice Self-Care: Make self-care a priority in your life. Jimmy Evans, founder of MarriageToday and XO Conference, stresses that taking care of yourself emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually can strengthen your sense of self-worth. Remember, it's essential to fill your own cup before you can pour into your relationship.
3. Seek Counseling: If you feel consistently unheard and undervalued in your marriage, seek the support of a professional counselor. A trained therapist can help you and your spouse improve communication, address underlying issues, and work towards a healthier relationship dynamic.
As Kristianne Wargo wisely said, "You can stop being a doormat, but it first starts with who you are and who you are becoming."
Remember, reclaiming your self-worth is a journey...
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3372 Do You Nurture Potential Or Dreams?
As parents, it's natural to envision a bright future for our children. We may hope they excel in areas we value, whether academically, athletically, or artistically. However, do you nurture their potential or their dreams?
In a world where societal pressure can influence parental decisions, it's essential to remember that a child's happiness and fulfillment should always come first.
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Nurturing a child's potential involves recognizing and developing their inherent abilities, talents, and strengths. This can include providing opportunities for growth, education, and skill development in areas where the child naturally excels. However, it can encourage more of your desires regardless of what the child states.
On the other hand, supporting the child's own dreams entails encouraging and empowering them to pursue their passions, interests, and aspirations, even if they may differ from what parents initially envisioned for their child. It involves listening to the child's desires, understanding their goals, and providing the necessary support and guidance to help them achieve their dreams.
While nurturing a child's potential may involve identifying areas of strength and talent to foster growth, supporting the child's dreams is about acknowledging their individuality and allowing them to explore their unique path to fulfillment.
Both approaches are valuable in shaping a child's future, as they encompass a balance of encouragement, empowerment, and personalized support tailored to the child's needs and aspirations. But you must always keep the interest of the child first!
Dr. Meg Meeker, a renowned pediatrician and author, emphasizes the importance of guiding children toward their own passions and dreams. "Every child is unique, with their own set of gifts and talents," she explains. "It's crucial for parents to listen to their children, understand their aspirations, and support them wholeheartedly."
Parenting expert Dr. Laura Markham echoes this sentiment, stating, "Children thrive when they are allowed to explore their interests and pursue what brings them joy. Our role as parents is to provide guidance and encouragement, not to impose our own agenda."
Ultimately, you've got to guide to provide.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Guide to provide!If we are always chasing what we "think" is going to be good for the kiddos, when will we ever see the truth as to what "is" good for the children?
"Our eyes and ears need to be open so our heart can see what inspires our children to be." ~ Kristianne Wargo
Three Ways to Support Your Child's Dreams:
1. Listen Actively: Take the time to engage in meaningful conversations with your child. Encourage them to share their thoughts, dreams, and aspirations. You'll gain insights into what truly matters to them by actively listening.
2. Provide Freedom: Offer your child the freedom to explore different interests and hobbies. Avoid imposing rigid expectations and allow them to discover what truly resonates with their heart.
3. Celebrate Their Unique Qualities: Recognize and celebrate your child's individuality. Encourage them to embrace their strengths and passions, even if they differ from your own preferences.
Kristianne Wargo wisely reminds us, "A parent's love and support should serve as a guiding light, illuminating the path for our children to follow their own dreams."
In a world where external pressures can cloud our judgment, it's essential to prioritize our children's happiness and well-being. By embracing their uniqueness, celebrating their passions, and providing unwavering support, we empower them to soar toward success on their own terms.
Remember, the greatest gift we can give our children is the freedom to be themselves.
"Children are like budding flowers; our role as parents is to nurture their unique beauty, not force them into predetermined molds." - Kristianne Wargo
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3374 Reclaim the Sabbath
Busyness tends to mute the need to rest. But how can you live life if you don't pause for the cause of refreshment? Instead of giving your power away to another day, reclaim the Sabbath.
In today's fast-paced world, where hustle culture often takes center stage, the concept of Sabbath may seem outdated or impractical.
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But how is rest outdated or impractical?
However, delving into the true essence of the Sabbath from a biblical perspective sheds light on its profound significance.
Sabbath, originating from the Hebrew word "Shabbat," means to cease or rest. In the book of Genesis, we read that God rested on the seventh day after creating the heavens and the earth, establishing a rhythm of work and rest.
We are consistently encouraged to find rest in the Lord throughout the Bible.
Psalm 62:1 reminds us, "My soul finds rest in God alone; my salvation comes from him."
Peace and security are found when you entrust your life to God.
The Greek term "sabbaton" signifies a day of sacred assembly and rest.
In Matthew 11:28, Jesus extends a powerful invitation, saying, "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."
This invitation serves as a comforting reminder that in our moments of exhaustion and overwhelm, we can find comfort and renewal in the presence of the Lord.
The K.I.S.S. ~ Reclaim the Sabbath!Renowned evangelist Dr. Robert Schuler emphasized the importance of the Sabbath, stating, "Sunday is the perfect day to refuel your soul and to be grateful for each and every one of your blessings." This sentiment is echoed throughout the Bible, underscoring the divine recognition of rest as a vital component of our well-being.
Hebrews 4:9-10 further emphasizes the significance of entering into God's rest, stating, "There remains, then, a Sabbath-rest for the people of God; for anyone who enters God's rest also rests from their works, just as God did from his." This passage underscores the spiritual rest that transcends physical relaxation, inviting us to release our burdens and find peace in God's unchanging presence.
In a world constantly vying for our attention and productivity, reclaiming the Sabbath is not merely a matter of convenience but a reflection of honoring God's design for holistic living.
Kristianne Wargo aptly says, "In the stillness of the Sabbath, we find restoration for our souls and realign our priorities with what truly matters."
The Bible consistently portrays rest as a foundational aspect of our faith journey, reminding us of the restorative power of surrendering to God's care and provision.
As we realign our perspective on Sabbath, let us embrace the divine invitation to rest, reflect, and rejuvenate, recognizing that true fulfillment transcends the relentless pursuit of productivity.
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