Dealing With Disrespect At Work

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01/09/17 • 10 min

Career Talk: Learn - Grow - Thrive

Today we are talking about dealing with disrespect at work, this can be a really challenging thing to deal with.

As humans we tend to react to disrespect faster than our brains can catch up if that makes sense.

If someone is being mean and disrespectful to me, typically I react with emotion, which there is nothing wrong with emotion, don’t get me wrong.

But, I don’t always slow down and think about what the situation is and what’s happening.

This is really, really important at work.

Most of us see our colleagues on a daily basis and we really want to make sure we are building and maintaining those relationships.

Two things to keep in mind:

1) Be very approachable and consciously be thinking about this.

2) Be available so you can have the conversation and move on.

During the conversation do these 7 things:

1) Assume there was positive intent behind whatever happened, assume they are coming from a good place until you know otherwise.

2) Ask questions to understand the situation.

3) Truly assess the situation, put yourself in the other persons shoes.

4) Listen to understand, do not listen just to simply reply.

5) Focus on the facts, this is really important, especially at work. We all know the game of telephone!

6) Talk it out. I have never seen conflicts that have been truly resolved without a conversation.

7) Use ‘me' and ‘I' statements, avoid ‘you' statements.

During the conversation think about these 4 things:

1) Are you being disrespected or are you having a disagreement?

2) How is your day going?

3) Boundaries - what boundaries are going to be setting moving forward?

4) How well you know the person you are in conflict with?

When it comes to being disrespected at work, it is not okay and it is not acceptable.

Try to talk it out first and if it continues to happen you need to get someone else involved.

Come back next week when we are going to be talking about self awareness in episode #25!

Thank you so much for listening.

I would love to connect and learn how I can help you!

Connect with me below!!!

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Have an amazing, awesome, rockin day!!!

Today we are talking about dealing with disrespect at work, this can be a really challenging thing to deal with.

As humans we tend to react to disrespect faster than our brains can catch up if that makes sense.

If someone is being mean and disrespectful to me, typically I react with emotion, which there is nothing wrong with emotion, don’t get me wrong.

But, I don’t always slow down and think about what the situation is and what’s happening.

This is really, really important at work.

Most of us see our colleagues on a daily basis and we really want to make sure we are building and maintaining those relationships.

Two things to keep in mind:

1) Be very approachable and consciously be thinking about this.

2) Be available so you can have the conversation and move on.

During the conversation do these 7 things:

1) Assume there was positive intent behind whatever happened, assume they are coming from a good place until you know otherwise.

2) Ask questions to understand the situation.

3) Truly assess the situation, put yourself in the other persons shoes.

4) Listen to understand, do not listen just to simply reply.

5) Focus on the facts, this is really important, especially at work. We all know the game of telephone!

6) Talk it out. I have never seen conflicts that have been truly resolved without a conversation.

7) Use ‘me' and ‘I' statements, avoid ‘you' statements.

During the conversation think about these 4 things:

1) Are you being disrespected or are you having a disagreement?

2) How is your day going?

3) Boundaries - what boundaries are going to be setting moving forward?

4) How well you know the person you are in conflict with?

When it comes to being disrespected at work, it is not okay and it is not acceptable.

Try to talk it out first and if it continues to happen you need to get someone else involved.

Come back next week when we are going to be talking about self awareness in episode #25!

Thank you so much for listening.

I would love to connect and learn how I can help you!

Connect with me below!!!

To connect -

Facebook:

www.Facebook.com/StephDennis13

Have an amazing, awesome, rockin day!!!

Previous Episode

Is Your Career Part Of Your 2017 Goals?

Is your career part of your 2017 goals? It definitely should be! We are going to walk through a series of questions to help you figure out your career goals for 2017.

Our goal here is to learn, grow and thrive in our careers.

Happy New Year!!!! It is the time of the year where everyone starts to look at how last year went and what we want to accomplish next year.

I am a MAJOR nerd, I love setting goals, I love making lists, accomplishing my goals and checking things off my list. One person I look to for goal setting advice is Chalene Johnson, check her out on social!

When we look at our 2017 goals we need to make sure our careers and jobs are part of those goals. Our career is something we want to make sure we are evaluating each year, I would even encourage you to do this monthly or at a minimum quarterly.

Get out a piece of paper and pen because I want you to make sure your goals are written down on paper. They need to be specific. A lot of people follow the SMART goals process:

S - Specific

M - Measurable

A - Attainable

R - Realistic

T - Timeline

We are going to cover 3 sets of questions, how to evaluate your career, evaluating your current job and questions that will help you set your 2017 career goals.

Evaluating your current career:

1) Think about how your career went in 2017, write down some thoughts

Think about what went well

Think about what did not go well

Think about some of your biggest accomplishments

Think about some of your biggest areas of opportunity

Journal that out for a few minutes

2) Are you where you want to be in your career?

When you look at your ultimate goal, where you are looking to be in your career, are you where you want to be?

If the answer is no, what are you going to do to change that?

If the answer is yes, how are you going to grow?

Evaluating your current job:

1) Do you enjoy what you do on a day to day basis?

When you list out your typical day, week or month, do you enjoy those tasks?

Why or why?

This is everything, this will help you determine if you need to make a change and if so, what change you need to make

2) Do you enjoy the type of work you do or the type of projects you work on?

Why or why not?

3) How do you feel on Monday mornings or Sunday nights?

Ask yourself why you are feeling this way?

Questions that will help you set your 2017 career goals:

1) What is your specific career goal you are going to accomplish in 2017?

Be specific

Specific enough if I asked you how you would know if you accomplished your goals, you would know the answer.

What projects do you want to be involved in?

What momentum do you want to get?

What skills do you want to learn in 2017?

I hope you take the time to write out the information we covered today!

If you want to dig in deeper, check out these episodes:

#3 - How Do You Feel On Sunday Nights?

#5 - Dating Story Turned Career Coaching

#20 - Evaluating Your Career

Next Episode

Self Awareness

Have you ever wondered how your self awareness impacts your work?

Or how personal development impacts your work?

Today we are talking about self awareness, this is really important both at work and at home.

Today we are talking about 7 things you need to be self aware of:

1) Strengths

What do you do well?

What are the things you totally awesome at

2) Weaknesses

Where are your areas of opportunity?

What are the things you can still grow in?

What do you need improvement on?

A couple tools you can use to help better understand yourself are:

1) Myers Briggs personality test

Check out:

16personalities.com

2) Strengths Finder (book)

Here is a link to the book on Amazon:

https://www.amazon.com/StrengthsFinder-2-0-Tom-Rath/dp/159562015X/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1484006734&sr=8-1&keywords=strengths+finder

When I first got into personal development and looked at these two tools, I was literally blown away by all the information I learned. It’s not that we don’t know ourselves, its really putting that information into words and turning that into actionable items.

3) Triggers

When you are stressed what triggers you to get upset, frustrated, disengaged, distracted, etc?

Once you understand your triggers, you need to put systems in place to help avoid or overcome those triggers.

4) Asking yourself why you feel a certain way about certain situations

When you think about how you feel, think about why you are feeling that way

5) Asking yourself if you ever get irrationally angry at work

We all get upset, frustrated, angry, etc at work. But ask yourself if you get irrationally angry, then ask yourself why. Then take that answer and ask yourself why, and repeat this process a couple more times. This will help you understand the entire situation

6) Ask yourself if any of your ‘weaknesses’ can be considered strengths?

7) Ask yourself if you plan to work on your strengths? Or work on your weaknesses?

Do you want to make a few weaknesses a little bit better or do you want to take your strengths and make them excellent?

Know yourself and understand yourself so we can do better!

If you are looking for a similar episode check out:

#21: Feedback

Next week:

#26: 12 Common Mistakes Recruiters Make

Thank you so much for listening.

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