Build Along the Way

04/28/23 • 5 min

[00:00:00] Dr. Stacey Gonzales: Welcome to today's Build and Public podcast. You're joining me for the first time. I'd like to welcome you. This podcast is a place where we experiment, where we try new things, where we see who we are in between the spaces and so. , I invite you to enter into this space on this podcast tonight. It's called Build in Public because I'm literally feeling like I'm building my myself publicly through sharing and recording.

Daily, and it's interesting because when I talked to my podcast producer about this show and what it meant to build publicly, he mentioned that it takes a lot of courage and. I didn't really feel that way when I said yes, I want to build a daily podcast. I just knew that I had something inside of me that I needed to share or wanted to share in a way that would be authentic and relatable.

I didn't know it would challenge me to grow in such profound ways, because showing up for yourself consistently every day, trying to have something new or have a reflection. that is insightful, that other people might wanna listen to instead of asking myself the question as I sit here in my, in my room alone, recording a podcast to myself of what do I need to remember today?

And so I invite you. to ask yourself that question because what I am learning for myself is that what I need is a space and a place where I can be completely safe in my bedroom by myself recording this podcast.

And I can have a place and a space where my voice is heard and will be potentially heard again by someone else,

and learning to use my voice has been a really huge learning growth for me. . Hmm. Learning to use my voice, learning to trust my voice,

learning to embrace my voice, all of it from that part of my heart and soul that is the most genuine

inviting you to yours. that space and place inside of you, where you are just you. And so I realize tonight's podcast was a bit of a departure.

I brought a different perspective, a different focus to try something in a way that might work for me better. I don't know. But this podcast, this space, this moment is about creating and learning to create. That is what I am building. Whether I'm talking about building a business or I'm talking about building myself, I'm building, and so

I'm letting go and I'm inviting you to bring your journey, your growth next to mine, and together, together we'll learn. A thing or two along the way. I'm Stacy Gonzalez. This is my Build in Public podcast. Thank you.

And I can have a place and a space where my voice is heard and will be potentially heard again by someone else,

and learning to use my voice has been a really huge learning growth for me. . Hmm. Learning to use my voice, learning to trust my voice,

learning to embrace my voice, all of it from that part of my heart and soul that is the most genuine

inviting you to yours. that space and place inside of you, where you are just you. And so I realize tonight's podcast was a bit of a departure.

Previous Episode

Building Together

[00:00:00] Dr. Stacey Gonzales: Welcome to today's Build in Public podcast. I am Stacy Gonzalez, the hostess of this amazing podcast, and I'm doing something a little differently today because I'm trying to also cook dinner at the end of a very long day. And what I'm finding for myself is that when I create content like this podcast, I do a little Facebook Live.

When I go for a walk with the dog in the morning, it feels great to be doing an activity that brings me grounding, that brings me joy. And so cooking dinner, or me and my husband didn't always bring me joy. Actually. It felt icky. I didn't like to cook dinner. I did not like to prepare meals. I felt like a task and a chore and really exhausting hard work, especially after a long day.

And so part of my decision to leave education and become an entrepreneur was so that I could have multi aspects to my life and all of those aspects. Could work together in a harmonious way. And I feel like the work I'm doing now and the way I'm approaching the work is feeling like it's in better harmony as I build out my ideal day, my ideal morning.

And so that's really to me what my growth path and my journey and. , this sole growth journey that I've been on, knowing that growth doesn't come in learning modules like we think in education, but they come when individuals make a commitment to each other, but more importantly to themselves. And I couldn't be more proud of who I am becoming.

On my entrepreneur journey and finding ways to balance my life better that works for me, such as recording a podcast while cooking, starting to to make dinner. And so with that, today's podcast is gonna be short. In order to build in public the life that is of your dreams than that you love, um, you have to do it differently.

And so I think my. building public journey is about me doing things differently and I'm appreciating the space to do that, to try things, to build my confidence and competence in public ways that feel open and safe, like this building public podcast. So if, if, if you are new, if you are just joining, welcome

My name is Stacy Gonzalez and. I just appreciate you being on this journey with me as I am becoming this calm, confident creator who is doing some pretty amazing things and, and at the end of the day, am really thankful for a space to, to share those things and keep a record. Um, because at the end of the day, that is what we have, right?

Um, so thank you for joining me on this journey and, um, I hope, I hope you will tune in as we continue to build together.

Next Episode

Practice

[00:00:00] Dr. Stacey Gonzales: One of the things that I hope for for this building public podcast is that.

It is not about a cognitive understanding. It is about an experience that I'm creating in this space first for myself second. for those who hear it. And then third, for myself when I hear it again later, from a different perspective at a different point in time.

And my hope is through opening myself up and allowing. The insights, understandings, and moments to flow through me as I let them go, as I embrace the courage it takes for me to share openly and publicly in this space.

that this space becomes a catalyst.

A catalyst where the changes that I am experiencing, the transformation that I am sharing publicly while I'm in it in the moment.

Sparks in others. You see, I do not have the answers for your life.

I only know that the answers for mine are inside of me

in order for me to access those answers. What I am learning is to be still is to settle the noise.

I believe elite performers have a unique ability to separate the noise and distractions. From the vision and mission that they have.

And in those moments, those quick moments of decisiveness where they again pull themselves back to the focus. Distraction comes pull themself back, distraction comes, pull themself back. Distraction comes pull themself back. Their ability

to remain focused when distraction comes seems like one of the keys to the success and impact. that those who we might consider high performers.

Just before this recording, I was meditating and what came to me was that. . The reason why people say they can't meditate or doesn't work for them, they don't like to meditate, is perhaps

because meditation is very much like opening the hood of our vehicle

and when we. , open that hood or open our closet door. Sometimes we don't like what we've seen

many times. I think about my closet, and I have places in my closet for everything where my shoes go. Wear shirts are hung. Winter shirts, summer shirts. Spaces and places for everything in the closet,

and I tend to keep my closet pretty tidy, but little by little if on the daily I do not specifically put something back or I just throw a sweatshirt in, or depending on when the dirty clothes wash or all the things. That happen because our clothes are a daily part of our lives, it can get a little disorganized, and part of it is seasons change and change in clothes, and part of it is just pure laziness and inattention to detail

and at times,

it can seem like our mind might be like our closet,

and for many of us, when we get still and get quiet and start to look around and begin to notice, all that is behind the door.

It can be very overwhelming.

It can be very distracting, making it very hard for us to sit and be to just notice the thoughts as they. Plow through or pop through or come and go.

But the first step, the first step in meditation is to sit and to allow,

allow, allow it to be whatever it will be. Kind, gentle, gracious with ourselves. Cuz I talk to so many people every day and connect with many people.

I often hear the way they describe circumstances or things in their lives. One thing I notice is that many times people are really hard on themselves. I know I was, and there are moments when I am still and what has really been coming forward for me as I am stretching myself and growing. in these businesses and in my building public journey is gentleness, kindness, meekness, humility towards myself, giving myself the time and the space and the grace that I would hope.

Others would extend to me that I would extend to others. Like a child,

A child learning to walk. You wouldn't scold the child for stumbling or misstepping. Certainly not. You support the child and reach your hand out and say, let's try again. We're just practicing. This is practice. It's all practice. . So if you are joining me on this Build and Public podcast for the first time, welcome.

Thank you for being here. Thank you for taking the time that you've listened and gotten to this point.

This is a journey, not a one time event. It's an experience that will continue to unfold and evolve. . So I invite you to join me on my building public journey for Stacy Gonzalez. I'm looking forward to it.