On sexuality-Part 2
09/21/21 • 41 min
My guest Madian Al Jazerah is a successful businessman and human rights activist living in Jordan. His story is a story of searching for identity and worth.
In Part two of the episode of Breaking Free- On sexuality, he shares an honest account of how the Gulf war left him knowing what it was like to be a refugee, coping with depression and having to go into witness protection in San Francisco after being gay bashed and much more.
He is described in the preface of his incredible memoir " ARE YOU THIS? OR ARE YOU THIS? " as:
"A Palestinian but wasn't raised in Palestine, Kuwaiti-born but not Kuwaiti, British-educated but not a westerner, a gay man out of the closet but still living in the shadows."
Things we talk about :
- The impact of the Gulf war on Madian and his family (2:00)
- A dark time in Madian's life (7:30)
- Saved by Ellen in San Francisco and outed as Gay (9:30)
- Learning to lie from a young age (11.00)
- Madian comes out to his siblings by FedEX when he thinks he has cancer (12:00)
- Witness protection (15:00)
- Moving to Jordan and finding familiar faces from Madian's life back in Kuwait (16:20)
- Succeeding in business with Zuwwadeh restaurant and Books@cafe (18:00)
- The hell of living in Limbo in Texas (26:35)
- New York, abuse and recognizing a victim pattern (28:00)
- Madian's search for his real name and identity after the loss of his father (32:00)
- Visiting Jenin (35:45)
Madian Al Jazerah's memoir ARE YOU THIS ? OR ARE YOU THIS? :
Let’s connect!
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
My guest Madian Al Jazerah is a successful businessman and human rights activist living in Jordan. His story is a story of searching for identity and worth.
In Part two of the episode of Breaking Free- On sexuality, he shares an honest account of how the Gulf war left him knowing what it was like to be a refugee, coping with depression and having to go into witness protection in San Francisco after being gay bashed and much more.
He is described in the preface of his incredible memoir " ARE YOU THIS? OR ARE YOU THIS? " as:
"A Palestinian but wasn't raised in Palestine, Kuwaiti-born but not Kuwaiti, British-educated but not a westerner, a gay man out of the closet but still living in the shadows."
Things we talk about :
- The impact of the Gulf war on Madian and his family (2:00)
- A dark time in Madian's life (7:30)
- Saved by Ellen in San Francisco and outed as Gay (9:30)
- Learning to lie from a young age (11.00)
- Madian comes out to his siblings by FedEX when he thinks he has cancer (12:00)
- Witness protection (15:00)
- Moving to Jordan and finding familiar faces from Madian's life back in Kuwait (16:20)
- Succeeding in business with Zuwwadeh restaurant and Books@cafe (18:00)
- The hell of living in Limbo in Texas (26:35)
- New York, abuse and recognizing a victim pattern (28:00)
- Madian's search for his real name and identity after the loss of his father (32:00)
- Visiting Jenin (35:45)
Madian Al Jazerah's memoir ARE YOU THIS ? OR ARE YOU THIS? :
Let’s connect!
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Previous Episode
On sexuality- Part 1
My guest on Breaking Free today is Madian Al Jazerah. A successful businessman and human rights activist living in Jordan.
He is described in the preface of his incredible memoir " ARE YOU THIS? OR ARE YOU THIS? " as:
"A Palestinian but wasn't raised in Palestine, Kuwaiti-born but not Kuwaiti, British-educated but not a westerner, a gay man out of the closet but still living in the shadows."
A story of identity and worth.Madian shares an honest account of discovering his sexuality, struggling with identity living as a Palestinian born in Kuwait and much more in PART ONE of this episode.
WARNING: Topics such as molestation, rape and homosexuality are discussed in this episode
Things we talk about :
- Childhood stories escaping the bombing in Jenin - occupied Palestine (1:40)
- Trauma and fear of balloons (6:00)
- Madian's fascination with planes and a long trip to HongKong (8:00)
- Molestation, emotional rape and shame (12:00)
- Experiencing homophobia in Oklahoma at age 16 (18:40)
- How past trauma effects how we respond to others (23:30)
- Forgotten stories of powerful women (27:25)
Madian Al Jazerah's memoir ARE YOU THIS ? OR ARE YOU THIS? :
Let’s connect!
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Next Episode
Personal stories of sexual abuse
WARNING:
The stories in this episode may trigger you and result in flashbacks if you yourself have experienced any form of abuse in the past but have no clear memory of it as the trauma was too painful and your subconscious may have suppressed it.
Discussed in this episode :
The difference between sexual harassment and sexual abuse (1:00)
Different types of sexual assault (2:15)
Defining child sexual abuse (2:45)
Reasons why most victims don't report sexual abuse (4:13)
How sexual abuse impacts health (5:35)
Celebrities who spoke up as survivors of sexual abuse (6:00)
My own personal story of sexual assault at the age of nine (7:00)
Revisiting the place where my assault took place thirty-eight years later (12:28)
Several stories of sexual assault that happened to a woman by someone she knew, a complete stranger and her own husband (marital rape) (15:00)
Child sexual abuse story that happened at the age four (17:56)
Sexual abuse stories of a young boy by his teachers at school (21:20)
The pressure of needing to act more masculine as a young man in order to protect the self from being blamed that being effeminate encouraged the sexual abuse (25:20)
A story of sexual abuse by teachers at University and the impact it had on damaging intimacy or relationships with men years later (29:28)
A man's story of sexual assault that resulted in blackmail (34:10)
A woman's story of sexual and physical assault by a stranger whom she took to court (35:23)
Dating app. story of male harassment (39:21)
A disturbing account of a young girl molested by her adult cousin who raped many other children. This story is read by an actress (43:26)
Resources mentioned:
National sexual violence resource centre :
https://www.nsvrc.org/publications/fact-sheets
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