Episode 30: Is Finding Love Abroad Worth the Price?
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04/22/25 • 51 min
Brandon Held shares his personal journey of finding love internationally and marrying a woman from Brazil, discussing the realities that dating shows like 90 Day Fiancé don't fully capture. He explores the challenges and rewards of cross-cultural relationships with honesty and vulnerability based on his own experience.
• Dating internationally completely reverses American dating dynamics - men receive abundant messages instead of competing for attention
• Video calls are essential to weed out scammers who use attractive photos and eventually ask for money
• Language barriers create misunderstandings even when both people speak the same language due to cultural connotations
• Cultural differences regarding family relationships, financial support, and lifestyle expectations require significant adaptation
• Immigration processes are brutal. Fairly expensive, time-consuming, and stressful with little transparency about timelines
• Finding your perfect match internationally can be worth every obstacle if you're prepared for the challenges
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Brandon Held shares his personal journey of finding love internationally and marrying a woman from Brazil, discussing the realities that dating shows like 90 Day Fiancé don't fully capture. He explores the challenges and rewards of cross-cultural relationships with honesty and vulnerability based on his own experience.
• Dating internationally completely reverses American dating dynamics - men receive abundant messages instead of competing for attention
• Video calls are essential to weed out scammers who use attractive photos and eventually ask for money
• Language barriers create misunderstandings even when both people speak the same language due to cultural connotations
• Cultural differences regarding family relationships, financial support, and lifestyle expectations require significant adaptation
• Immigration processes are brutal. Fairly expensive, time-consuming, and stressful with little transparency about timelines
• Finding your perfect match internationally can be worth every obstacle if you're prepared for the challenges
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Episode 29: Divorce: The TRUTH They Don't Tell You Pt. 2
Brandon reflects on the lessons he's learned from his divorces, exploring how good communication and understanding are essential for lasting relationships.
• Communication is absolutely critical - especially about your feelings and mental state
• Nobody is perfect, so allowing grace for mistakes is essential for both partners
• Discussing finances openly before marriage can prevent major conflicts later
• People change over time, and relationships need constant nurturing to stay strong
• It's never too late to start over - people fall in love with you, not your statistics
If you haven't listened to any of my podcasts before, start at episode one and go to episode 25 to learn my story. After that, skip around and listen to whatever you'd like. Also check out brandonheld.com to see what I have to offer.
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Episode 31: Uncover Your Purpose: 10 Life-Changing Questions
Powerful questions can fundamentally change the trajectory of our lives, helping us reconnect with what truly matters when we've lost sight of our purpose in the daily hustle. I share ten transformative questions that can help you break through barriers and create meaningful change.
• What do you truly desire to achieve in your life, beyond others' expectations or societal definitions of success
• Examining what would make you jump out of bed with excitement each morning as an indicator of purpose alignment
• Identifying your big audacious dream that both scares and excites you at the same time
• Understanding how achieving your goals will positively impact not just you but those around you
• Determining the specific skills or knowledge you genuinely need to move forward
• Establishing daily habits that consistently move you toward your goals rather than relying on occasional effort
• Considering the potential cost of not pursuing your authentic goals using the "deathbed test"
• Creating a detailed vision of your life after achieving your goal to train your brain for success
• Expanding your thinking to imagine exceeding your own expectations
• Exploring how professional guidance can help overcome obstacles and accelerate progress
Visit BrandonHeld.com to sign up for a free 15-20 minute consultation or coaching sessions to explore these questions more deeply with professional guidance.
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Brandon Held - Life is Crazy - Episode 30: Is Finding Love Abroad Worth the Price?
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Introduction and Podcast Overview
Brandon Held: Hey, this is Brandon Held and welcome to Life is Crazy, episode 30, the Big three. Oh. Gonna talk about international dating today, but before I do, I gotta get the plugin. Go to Brandon held.com, check out my site and if you haven't already, please start from episode one. Go through one from one through 25.
It's the story of my life. It's the whole thing that started this podcast, and from there you can jump around
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