5. The Myth of Balance: Why You’re Burnt Out and Disappointed
04/10/25 • 39 min
In this deeply empowering solo episode, Holly Joy McCabe dismantles one of the most toxic personal development ideals: balance.
We’ve been told to “strive for balance” — in our work, our relationships, our self-care — but what if that goal is keeping us in a cycle of burnout, disappointment, and self-blame?
Holly reframes this outdated narrative by offering a revolutionary alternative: harmony.
From juggling glass vs. rubber balls, to hormone cycles, business seasons, nervous system capacity, and daily rhythms — this episode gives women the tools to finally stop chasing a fantasy and start creating a life that works with them, not against them.
- Why balance is a myth that sets women up to fail
- The power of harmony over perfection
- How your hormonal cycle impacts productivity
- What “rubber vs. glass balls” really means in your daily life
- Why hustle culture isn’t bad — when it’s used correctly
- The #1 priority every woman should structure her day around
- How to build capacity in your nervous system and life
- Tools to regularly recalibrate and check in with yourself
- How to organize your priorities to reduce anxiety & increase clarity
- ✍🏼 $2.99 Printable Self-Care & Habit Tracker:
Your weekly tool for staying grounded, organized, and prioritized.
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“Balance is a moving target in a constantly shifting world. Harmony, on the other hand, meets you where you are.” – Holly Joy
“When you finally stop expecting every day to be easy, you give yourself permission to build a life that’s real.” – Holly Joy
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In this deeply empowering solo episode, Holly Joy McCabe dismantles one of the most toxic personal development ideals: balance.
We’ve been told to “strive for balance” — in our work, our relationships, our self-care — but what if that goal is keeping us in a cycle of burnout, disappointment, and self-blame?
Holly reframes this outdated narrative by offering a revolutionary alternative: harmony.
From juggling glass vs. rubber balls, to hormone cycles, business seasons, nervous system capacity, and daily rhythms — this episode gives women the tools to finally stop chasing a fantasy and start creating a life that works with them, not against them.
- Why balance is a myth that sets women up to fail
- The power of harmony over perfection
- How your hormonal cycle impacts productivity
- What “rubber vs. glass balls” really means in your daily life
- Why hustle culture isn’t bad — when it’s used correctly
- The #1 priority every woman should structure her day around
- How to build capacity in your nervous system and life
- Tools to regularly recalibrate and check in with yourself
- How to organize your priorities to reduce anxiety & increase clarity
- ✍🏼 $2.99 Printable Self-Care & Habit Tracker:
Your weekly tool for staying grounded, organized, and prioritized.
Get it here → https://www.brainbodyspeak.com/shop - Mind Mag Magnesium by Zen In A Bottle
Your magnesium must-have for nervous system health & stress support.
Use code BRAINBODYSPEAK at checkout for savings.
Shop now → Mind Mag Note worthy quotes:
“Balance is a moving target in a constantly shifting world. Harmony, on the other hand, meets you where you are.” – Holly Joy
“When you finally stop expecting every day to be easy, you give yourself permission to build a life that’s real.” – Holly Joy
📲 Share your favorite moment on Instagram and tag @brainbodyspeak to be entered in our monthly Brain Body Reboot giveaway ($500 value!)
✨ Podcast Resource Page (Secret Episodes + Episode Notes)
https://www.brainbodyspeak.com/bbs-podcast
🔗 Brain Body SpeakWebsite: https://www.brainbodyspeak.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/brainbodyspeak/YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/hollyjoymccabeX: https://x.com/HollyJoyMcCabeFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/hollyjoymccabe
Zen In A Bottle – Supplements & BeautyWebsite: https://www.zeninabottle.bizInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/zen_in_a_bottle/
🛒 Use code BRAINBODYSPEAK at checkout to save!
💼 Regulated CEOWebsite: https://www.regulatedceo.comInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/regulatedceo/
🤍 Confidence CoalitionWebsite: https://www.confidencecoalition.comInstagram:https://www.instagram.com/confidence_coalition/
📲 Spread the Word & Win!
Tag @brainbodyspeak on Instagram with your biggest takeaway to enter our monthly Brain Body Reboot course giveaway ($500 value)!
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4. The Truth About Emotional Eating—It’s Not What You Think
The Truth About Emotional Eating—It’s Not What You Think
🎙 Episode Title: The Truth About Emotional Eating—It’s Not What You Think
🧠 What if everything you thought you knew about emotional eating was wrong?
If you’ve ever felt out of control with food, struggled with cravings, or found yourself stress-eating despite knowing better... this episode is for you.
The truth is, emotional eating isn’t just about emotions. It’s not about willpower, self-control, or needing more discipline. It’s about your nervous system, your survival instincts, and how your body responds to stress and restriction.
In this deep dive, I break down:✔️ Why your body treats dieting like a famine (and how it forces you to binge)✔️ The nervous system’s role in emotional eating—it’s not just about stress!✔️ Why extreme dieting backfires and makes cravings worse✔️ How the fitness & diet industry set you up to fail (and what to do instead)✔️ The REAL reason you can’t “just stop” emotional eating—hint: it’s biological✔️ How to regulate your nervous system so food stops feeling like a battle
🚨 This isn’t another “just eat intuitively” talk. This is the science behind why your body fights you—and how to work with it to create sustainable, long-term healing.
🔊 Listen now and learn how to stop the cycle of stress, restriction, and bingeing—for good.
👇 Want to dive deeper?
Follow all Holly Joy’s Pages & Resources
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/regulatedceo/
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Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/confidence_coalition/
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6. Stuck in Toxic Relationships? Here’s Why. Attachment Styles, Trauma Bonds & Codependency w/ Dr. Nima Rahmany
In this compelling episode of Brain Body Speak, host Holly Joy McCabe engages with Dr. Nima Rahmany, an expert in healing attachment wounds and creator of the Trigger-Proof Method. They delve into the intricacies of attachment styles, trauma bonds, and the path to genuine healing.
Key Discussion Points:
- Understanding Attachment Styles: Dr. Nima explains how our early relationships shape our attachment patterns and influence adult connections.
- The Reality of Trauma Bonds: Exploring the dynamics of relationships that, while intense, may be rooted in unresolved trauma rather than genuine connection.
- Empathy vs. Hypervigilance: Challenging the notion of being an "empath" and recognizing when heightened sensitivity is a response to past trauma.
- Pathways to Healing: Strategies for individuating from past wounds, regulating the nervous system, and fostering healthier relationships.Apple Podcasts
Notable Quotes:
"You're not falling in love with them... you're falling in love with how they make you see yourself." — Dr. Nima Rahmany
"People pleasing feels virtuous... until you realize it’s rooted in fear and hypervigilance. It’s not love. It’s survival." — Holly Joy McCabe
Resources Mentioned:
- Attachment Style Assessment: Gain insights into your attachment patterns with Dr. Nima's Attachment Style Quiz.Apple Podcasts
Connect with Dr. Nima Rahmany:
- Website: drnima.com
- Instagram: @drnima
Connect with Holly Joy McCabe:
- Website: brainbodyspeak.com
- Instagram: @brainbodyspeak
- YouTube: Holly Joy McCabe's Channel
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