How to Quit People Pleasing with Elaine Blais

01/04/23 • 26 min

Episode Summary:

As women, we’re trained to be people pleasers. To keep others happy. To be nice and compliant. We tend to put our own needs and dreams aside because we feel responsible for everyone else.

My guest this week, Elaine Blaise, life coach, author and “Midlife Troublemaker,” was living the life she thought she wanted. She had a marriage of 37 years and a successful career of 25 years. She had set goals for her life and was following the plan.

But she had a constant niggling feeling something was missing. And she started paying attention to her discontent. This inner wisdom was showing her what she needed to walk away from and what was no longer serving her.

She explains how she was able to LEAN IN to her discontent instead of avoiding it, and how that led her to pursue the life SHE wanted, instead of the one others expected her to live.

“We’re always growing, expanding, and changing. I had to get honest with myself about where I wasn’t meeting my own needs.” - Elaine Blais

Highlights

01:40 Introducing Elaine

04:25 Women Being Trained To People Please

09:35 Incorporating The Idea of Everything is Happening For You, Not To You

18:20 Imagining What You Want to Happen

Important Links:

Get on the VIP list for the Free 5-Day Break Up With Sugar Challenge, coming in 2023: https://sarahhaaswellness.lpages.co/break-up-with-sugar-challenge/

Website: sarahhaaswellness.com

Facebook: Sarah Haas Wellness

Instagram: @sarahhaaswellness

Youtube: Sarah Haas Wellness

Guest Bio:

Elaine Blais, aka the Midlife Troublemaker, is an author, life coach and spiritual practitioner with a passion for helping midlife women live into their dreams. With her life experience as the catalyst, she uses a combination of spiritual principles and practical tools to create a way paved with self-approval and love for women ready to step into true authenticity and express themselves as boldly as they choose.

Important Links:

www.elaineblais.com

Book: 3 Secrets to a Kickass Life https://www.amazon.com/Secrets-Kickass-Life-Empowering-Dreams-ebook/dp/B08MSWLC52/ref=sr_1_1?crid=YOGMIL5TB19K&keywords=3+secrets+to+a+kickass+life&qid=1671035936&sprefix=3+secrets+to+a+kickass+life%2Caps%2C80&sr=8-1

Facebook: A Difficult Woman Collective

Instagram: @elaineblaiscoaching

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Episode Summary:

As women, we’re trained to be people pleasers. To keep others happy. To be nice and compliant. We tend to put our own needs and dreams aside because we feel responsible for everyone else.

She explains how she was able to LEAN IN to her discontent instead of avoiding it, and how that led her to pursue the life SHE wanted, instead of the one others expected her to live.

“We’re always growing, expanding, and changing. I had to get honest with myself about where I wasn’t meeting my own needs.” - Elaine Blais

Highlights

01:40 Introducing Elaine

04:25 Women Being Trained To People Please

09:35 Incorporating The Idea of Everything is Happening For You, Not To You

18:20 Imagining What You Want to Happen

Important Links:

Get on the VIP list for the Free 5-Day Break Up With Sugar Challenge, coming in 2023: https://sarahhaaswellness.lpages.co/break-up-with-sugar-challenge/

Website: sarahhaaswellness.com

Facebook: Sarah Haas Wellness

Instagram: @sarahhaaswellness

Youtube: Sarah Haas Wellness

Guest Bio:

Important Links:

www.elaineblais.com

Facebook: A Difficult Woman Collective

Instagram: @elaineblaiscoaching

Thanks for Listening:

Thanks so much for listening to my podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.

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Previous Episode

Manifest Your Best Year Yet!

Episode Summary:

Taking some time to reflect on the past year and setting intentions for the year to come can be a very powerful motivator to start setting things in motion for what you want to attract into your life.

I want to help you create your most successful year yet! And, by success, I don’t just mean in your career. I mean success in your physical health, relationships, environment, home and, most importantly, your relationship with yourself.

Your outside world, meaning what is all around you, is a direct reflection of your inner beliefs, thoughts and emotions.

This New Year Reflection/Manifestation Ritual can help you uncover what your inner beliefs are about yourself, shed what is no longer serving you and see what is possible for your life.

I can’t wait to see what the New Year has in store for you!

“Your beliefs, your emotions and your thoughts create your actions.” - Sarah Haas

Highlights

02:20 Creating Your Most Successful Year

06:37 Writing Down Your Limiting Beliefs

09:20 Writing Down Your Goals That You Want To Manifest

12:05 Stepping Back and Having Gratitude

Important Links:

Get on the VIP list for the Free 5-Day Break Up With Sugar Challenge, coming in 2023: https://sarahhaaswellness.lpages.co/break-up-with-sugar-challenge/

Website: sarahhaaswellness.com

Facebook: Sarah Haas Wellness

Instagram: @sarahhaaswellness

Youtube: Sarah Haas Wellness

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Next Episode

Using Muscle Testing to Take Charge of Your Life with Judith Richey

Episode Summary:

This week’s special guest, Judith Richey, certified practitioner and spiritual healer, shares her personal story of going from being miserable and unhealthy mentally, emotionally, and physically to finding the courage to stand up for herself and take bold action to get the life she wanted.

She now works with other women to help them heal what she calls “soul wounds” - the deeper reasons life just doesn’t seem to be working, whether that’s in relationships, career, or other aspects of life.

In this episode, Judith walks us through how to use muscle testing, a healing method to:

Access your soul’s wisdom to get definitive answers to what direction you’re supposed to go
Identify and clear patterns and blocks that are weighing you down
Help you make decisions and choices when you know you need a change, but you’re not sure what to change or how

Judith also shares her three-step plan to create an exact roadmap to get to your dream life.

“The beauty of going through those difficulties is in the gifts from the lesson.” - Judith Richey

Highlights

01:50 Introducing Judith

06:25 Finding the Courage to Stand Up for Yourself

09:25 How Muscle Testing Works

21:40 Being Still and Listening

Important Links:

Get on the VIP list for the Free 5-Day Break Up With Sugar Challenge, coming February 2023: https://sarahhaaswellness.lpages.co/break-up-with-sugar-challenge/

Website: sarahhaaswellness.com

Facebook: Sarah Haas Wellness

Instagram: @sarahhaaswellness

Youtube: Sarah Haas Wellness

Guest Bio:

Judith Richey is a Healing From The Body Level Up Practitioner, who uses spiritual healing methods to help her clients release negative energies, trauma, harmful generational and family patterns, and damaging life experiences that are holding them back from living their dream life.

Instagram: @judith.forcefortransformation

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