019: Relationships Struggle While Competing with Sonia Lewis

11/20/18 • 57 min

Relationships Struggle While Competing

By competing, we all strive to gain victory when we step out of that stage. However, the prepping process is not always easy. It’s a difficult plight. While your attention shifts to prepping for the competition, your relationship with family and friends is at risk of going down the drain.

As a matter of fact, when you immerse yourself to competing, things are going to change. Relationships will be affected either negatively or positively depending on how well you address the foreseeable change. So, how do you strike a balance between your relationships and competing? I had the pleasure of speaking to Sonia, who’s will share how she lost relationships while competing.

Sonia Lewis is an IFBB Bikini Pro. She was the overall Bikini Winner in the 2018 Arnold Amateur where she turned pro. Dues to her outstanding performance, she has been invited to go to the Arnold in 2019. Her goal is to compete in the Olympia.

In this episode, we’ll dive deep and talk about relationships: how we've lost relationships in the past and how things change when we're deep into competition prepping. Sonia talks how she has absolutely no balance when she's in prep, as well as her love life. Additionally, she will share on how relationships with her friends and her family are just so stinking hard to manage.

I’m sure you struggle with this too. So let’s go!

Takeaways

Always stay ready so you don't have to get ready

Talk to your family and friend about what competing takes

Find a balance between competing and your relationships

Even if you have stretch marks, you can still compete

Just like it takes time to build your muscles, it takes time for your skin to tighten up

Be confident with yourself

The more shows you do, the more comfortable you get on stage

Compete with yourself, don't compete with other people

Competing definitely teaches you great practices of health

Do thorough research on your coaches, you just can’t trust everyone

Important Questions

[00:06:46] How many years have you been competing?

[00:07:33] What is your favorite quote that keeps you going?

[00:10:12] What exactly keeps you motivated?

[00:12:36] How did you start your bikini journey?

[00:23:24] Can you quickly explain the Arnold to everyone just in case they don't know what it is?

[00:26:09] How exactly were you able to balance being in this negative energy, having a child, and going into this competition?

[00:27:50] What exactly gets left behind when you start competing?

[00:29:43] How did the relationship with your child change?

[00:31:40] Do you ever regret growing out of some of the old relationships that you had?

[00:37:09] What's your remedy for stretch marks?

[00:42:10] If you could change anything about the sport, what exactly do you think you would change?

[00:48:53] What exactly would you tell someone who's struggling through their first competition?

[00:50:56] What do you think has been your biggest struggle?

[00:55:02] What piece of advice would you give to someone wanting to become an IFBB Bikini professional in the sport?

FOLLOW SONIA

Instagram:

@soniablewis

----->Head HERE for your FREEBIES, coupon codes, and other links! https://vibe-athletics.mykajabi.com/links

Relationships Struggle While Competing

I’m sure you struggle with this too. So let’s go!

Takeaways

Always stay ready so you don't have to get ready

Talk to your family and friend about what competing takes

Find a balance between competing and your relationships

Even if you have stretch marks, you can still compete

Just like it takes time to build your muscles, it takes time for your skin to tighten up

Be confident with yourself

The more shows you do, the more comfortable you get on stage

Compete with yourself, don't compete with other people

Competing definitely teaches you great practices of health

Do thorough research on your coaches, you just can’t trust everyone

Important Questions

[00:06:46] How many years have you been competing?

[00:07:33] What is your favorite quote that keeps you going?

[00:10:12] What exactly keeps you motivated?

[00:12:36] How did you start your bikini journey?

[00:23:24] Can you quickly explain the Arnold to everyone just in case they don't know what it is?

[00:26:09] How exactly were you able to balance being in this negative energy, having a child, and going into this competition?

[00:27:50] What exactly gets left behind when you start competing?

[00:29:43] How did the relationship with your child change?

[00:31:40] Do you ever regret growing out of some of the old relationships that you had?

[00:37:09] What's your remedy for stretch marks?

[00:42:10] If you could change anything about the sport, what exactly do you think you would change?

[00:48:53] What exactly would you tell someone who's struggling through their first competition?

[00:50:56] What do you think has been your biggest struggle?

[00:55:02] What piece of advice would you give to someone wanting to become an IFBB Bikini professional in the sport?

FOLLOW SONIA

Instagram:

@soniablewis

----->Head HERE for your FREEBIES, coupon codes, and other links! https://vibe-athletics.mykajabi.com/links

Previous Episode

018: I Survived Domestic Violence and a Crappy Coach with Jasmine Gonzalez

I SURVIVED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND A CRAPPY COACH

Definitely, you hire a coach with a hope that they will help you realize your full potential or achieve your professional or personal goals. But sometimes your coach may do more harm to you than good. Now, as a learner, is it advisable not to just follow blindly on the things your coach asks you to do. This way, you will be in a position to tell if your coach is helpful or they’re just after your bucks. Sometimes also you have to listen to your gut feeling. I’m excited about this episode because this is absolutely what Jasmine will be talking to us about.

Jasmine Gonzalez is an IFFB Bikini Pro, and a US Marine Veteran. She is currently a Posing Coach.

In this episode, Jasmine will shed some light on inappropriate and harmful tactics a prior coach used on her and how she fired the coach. She will also share a life-changing story on how she attempted suicide three times and how she survived. In addition, she will talk about how she escaped domestic violence, as well as how she turned pro in less than a year.

You might get teary so please keep your hanky close.

Here we go!

Takeaways

When you feel you've reached the end, talk to someone.
The first sign of feeling like you have nothing else is when you need to reach out
Work with a coach that believes in you
Question why you feel certain way before moving
If you have something festering in your mind, always reach out to somebody
Stay away from things that trigger your mental health
Surround yourself with a good support network
If you're not mentally right, you can't help anybody else
Do it, you can definitely do it.
Listen to the right people, do the right thing and you'll succeed

Important Questions

[00:06:08] How many years have you been competing?

[00:15:08] Why did you start your fitness journey and how did you get into competing?

[00:18:15] What prompted you to get in the military?

[00:20:11] Do you think that joining the Marine Corps had anything to do with maybe trying to find an escape from what happened to you when you were younger?

[00:21:54] When you got married, did you feel like you got married for the wrong reasons, then?

[00:22:41] Was it something where it happened and then you knew right away this wasn't for you?

[00:25:01] Is there anyone that helped you through all of this?

[00:25:36] Why did you feel that suicide was the answer?

[00:27:42] Were there any words of advice that you want to tell someone contemplating something as severe as taking their own life?

[00:28:48] How is your recovery process through this all?

[00:31:58] When did you decide that you wanted to become a professional in the sport?

[00:35:45] What made you really stand up against coach?

[00:40:06] How was the process of getting out?

[00:51:54] How do you use your professional card for good?

[00:58:30] What advice would you give to someone wanting to become an IFBB Bikini professional in the sport?

FOLLOW JAZZY

@jazzyfresh.ifbbpro

Pose with Jazzy

PoseWithJazz

----->Head HERE for your FREEBIES, coupon codes, and other links! https://vibe-athletics.mykajabi.com/links

Next Episode

020: Fuck It, Im Done

Fucki It! I’m Done!

All I had to do was quit. That's it. I quit. It's annoying, discouraging, and mentally draining to constantly change who you are to please others. It's even more annoying when you have to do it at the expense of your happiness.

We all want money. I get it. But I'd rather be broke and be happy. No amount of money should you allow to compromise your happiness. Reason being, happiness is an exceptional recipe for many great things. If your job no longer brings you joy, chances are your time is up. I mean it. It's time to quit. I love being in control of how I spend my time, my day and my energy. I also love helping others.

Why am I telling you all this? Because I know you could be struggling to get out of a situation that is pulling you behind. A situation that is an obstacle to your happiness or even achieving your goals.

This episode is all about myself - what I was doing, what I am currently doing and what my plans for the future are. It's all about who I am and what I stand for. I will also talk about why I started this podcast and how it has continued to impact lives.

I will also touch on four different points that I want you to sit and think about. These points may help you get out of the situation that you're in so that you too can start living a happier life as well as live to your fullest potential.

The four points

1. Your why

2. Your environment

3. Filling up your cup

4. Believe in yourself

Trust me by the time you're done listening you will have a different perspective.

Let's go!

Takeaways