Heavy Duty Hysterectomies: Special Guest, Tigress Osborn

06/21/22 • 90 min

Bonus Episode: Merf interviews Tigress and me about our 2 Fat Hysterectomies
Bonus Episode: Heavy Duty Hysterectomies

Welcome Tigress Osborn

Creator of Full Figure Entertainment in Oakland, CA Tigress now lives in Arizona.

Fat Visibility and Fat Activism since 2008: If you are a fat person and enjoy some type of fat freedom fatties did not have before 2008, it’s likely Tigress had her hand in it. (Along with a lot of other fabulous, loud, no shit style fat activists. Thank you Tigress and to the other 60 years worth of activists that have all been working hard for all of us.

Content Warning: Numbers mentioned. There is lots of discussion of blood and clots, because, well. It comes with the territory. This is not a SEXY episode, but we feel like it’s an important story to tell. We are two fat women in our 40’s (TO) and 50’s (CB)

We try our best to NOT use gendered language while discussing uteruses and hysterectomies. We are being mindful of our non-binary friends, two-spirit listeners, and trans friends. But, we do slip up or if you notice we slip up, please accept our apologies. (CB and Merf)

4:27 Merf defines and describes the various types of hysterectomies. (CB : I had a radical style which meant everything was removed, including my cervix.) I had 2 days to decide if I wanted mine. Tigress has a longer experience of dealing with her medical problems around getting her

Hysterectomy.

Myths and Misconceptions about Hysterectomies. Some of the things we grow up hearing about women who have hysterectomies - we dry up, our vaginas are no longer “good” or useful.

Tigress brings up the tender feeling around going to the “women’s health” departments where there are lots and lots pics of babies and moms and like everything to do with women’s reproductive issues are such a fun, good time! NOT. And, not for everyone. Including, sometimes, not for Tigress. Having a hysterectomy gives you a lot to examine - and one of the big ones is that you never have the opportunity to have your own children.

7 minutes Tigress goes into her hysterectomy story. She started having a cycle at 11. (The same week she went to the “special talk” in grade school - Free To Be You And Me.) 10 minutes in we discuss some pretty gory stuff around all of the blood clots we have all dealt with. Clots that remind us of animal organs and aliens running down our legs.

Perimenopause is 10 years LONG and maybe a little less and maybe a little more.

Tigress had some fibroids, an ablation, adhesions, PCOS, and possibly endometriosis. Same with Merf. Merf is currently dealing with PCOS, endo, and really want to have a hysterectomy, but is getting push back from her drs.
RESOURCES: Tigress and I both got a lot of support from Caring for our Fat Bodies on Facebook.

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Bonus Episode: Merf interviews Tigress and me about our 2 Fat Hysterectomies
Bonus Episode: Heavy Duty Hysterectomies

Welcome Tigress Osborn

Creator of Full Figure Entertainment in Oakland, CA Tigress now lives in Arizona.

Hysterectomy.

Myths and Misconceptions about Hysterectomies. Some of the things we grow up hearing about women who have hysterectomies - we dry up, our vaginas are no longer “good” or useful.

Perimenopause is 10 years LONG and maybe a little less and maybe a little more.

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Profanity Warning! I drop a lot of F BOMBS because I am fed up with diet culture and the diet industry and how they work so hard to make us feel shitty about our bodies. Also, we do get into a discussion about Anorexia and how Fat Babes can also have Anorexia, so content warning about Eating Disorders.
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Merf has P.C.O.S. and she talks about her shame and guilt with her facial hair. Merf also shares how her anorexia screwed up her body permanently. It impacted her height (she should have been taller) and it also impacted her breast size. According to her doctors, she should have had larger cups.)
We also talked about some femmes that rock their beards and I want to link to them here. These babes have hirsutism and some due to P.C.O.S.
In the beginning, Merf also shares a book by Malcolm Gladwell she highly recommends. The book is called "Talking To Strangers" and Merf talks about it in the discussion and shares with us all about the theory and how it related to our country's obsession with guns. Malcolm's theory is called the "coupling theory." More info about coupling theory here.

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Welcome to Big Sexy Chat!
We start off with a content warning about CNC. (Consensual Non-Consent)
I explained why I missed a couple of weeks thanks to pneumonia. I'm better now.
Merf: It feels like the end of the world. ALL of the progress that we made have been erased.
Chrystal knows 4 people who have checked themselves into a mental health facility. Life is dark right now. Merf gives us lots of great info about coping skills and all of us just trying to survive. (Supreme Court, Roe v. Wade, Covid, Massacre after massacre.
Reversing Roe v. Wade is taking all of our rights and it includes people who are using IVF to try to have a baby. Trans people will be denied health care. People will continue to get abortions, but they will not be safe. Merf reminded me of the Debbie Reynolds discussion about having to carry a dead baby a few years before Roe v. Wade.
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Fat Babe Armor
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We talked about how my friend from Fat Brunch (who I believe they may be non-binary) talked about the next level that Black people experience. They feel they perform being "respectable" due to being Black. This is very common in marginalized communities due to White Supremacy. In our country, White is the default. Black fat people who are non-binary or trans have to be in "fight or flight" mode 24/7 due to their skin color and the response they may receive from white people
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