The Social OODA Loop: Fighter Pilot Thinking for Everyday Confidence

04/22/25 • 11 min

If you’ve ever frozen mid-conversation, overthought what to say, or replayed a moment 500 times in your head... this episode for you.

You’ll learn a 4-step framework—borrowed from a literal fighter pilot—that’ll help you stop second-guessing and start speaking up.

You don’t need a new personality. You don’t need to be the loudest person in the room. You need a system that keeps you present and moving forward.

This is that system.

Let’s go.

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AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)

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If you’ve ever frozen mid-conversation, overthought what to say, or replayed a moment 500 times in your head... this episode for you.

You’ll learn a 4-step framework—borrowed from a literal fighter pilot—that’ll help you stop second-guessing and start speaking up.

You don’t need a new personality. You don’t need to be the loudest person in the room. You need a system that keeps you present and moving forward.

This is that system.

Let’s go.

NEXT STEP:

QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.

AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)

PRIVATE COACHING

Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.

SOCIAL ACCELERATOR: SELF PACED + GROUP COACHING

Get the right lessons, the right coaching, and the right accountability to become more socially confident.

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The 5 Effort Mistakes That Keep You Stuck (No Matter How Hard You Try)

Are you putting in effort to get better socially... but still feel stuck?

If you’re an overthinker, this might sound familiar:

👉 You’re applying effort—but not seeing the results you want. 👉 You feel like you're doing the right things—but progress is slow. 👉 You’re trying—but something’s not clicking.

That’s not a sign you should give up. It’s a sign that your effort might be getting stalled in one of five traps that slow down your progress:

✅ You’re not practicing often enough ✅ You’re practicing in places that don’t challenge you ✅ You’re focusing on the wrong skills ✅ You’re using the right skills in the wrong situations ✅ You’re doing the right things—but your beliefs are secretly holding you back

In this podcast episode, I walk through each of these five effort mistakes—and give you simple, specific ways to fix them.

🎯 So if you’ve been frustrated with slow progress... 🎯 Or if you want to finally start seeing results you feel in real conversations...

Go listen now. This one’s for you.

NEXT STEP:

QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.

AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)

PRIVATE COACHING

Become more socially confident with private coaching.

SOCIAL ACCELERATOR: SELF PACED + GROUP COACHING

Get the right lessons, the right coaching, and the right accountability to become more socially confident.