Be Powerful with Liz & Lee - 151. Dealing with Divorce | Feelings of Disappointment and Failure, Telling Your Kids, and What We Wish We Knew

151. Dealing with Divorce | Feelings of Disappointment and Failure, Telling Your Kids, and What We Wish We Knew

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10/10/24 • 35 min

Be Powerful with Liz & Lee

Going through a divorce is extremely challenging and can bring up so many complex feelings like disappointment, anxiety, and freedom. In this episode, we’re reflecting on our own experiences going through divorce, the feelings we experienced, how we coped with that season, talking to our kids about divorce, and what was waiting for us on the other side of it all.

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Some key takeaways from this episode include:

Getting divorced does not mean your marriage was a failure. You two have probably gone through many struggles and triumphs together, and those still count even if you ultimately get divorced.
People have strong opinions about divorce, but the best version of you should feel happy, fulfilled, and supported. Only you can decide if your marriage is not supporting the best version of you and your family, and no one else’s opinion should matter on that.
One of the surprising things that emerged from Liz’s divorce was Hilliard Studio Method. Taking the time to exercise made her feel so much better, so definitely turn to movement to build your physical and emotional strength during a tough season.

Hilliard Studio Method takes working out to the next level to produce results that are nothing short of a total mind-body transformation. If you’re ready to get in incredible shape, you can work out with us in-person at our Charlotte studio, join classes from home via Zoom, or sign up for our on-demand streaming service!

Be Powerful with Liz & Lee is focused on helping you find your inner power and for us to share our thoughts on society, culture, and current events. As the team behind Hilliard Studio Method in Charlotte, North Carolina, we love all things wellness and will also share info on how to live your healthiest life mentally, physically, and emotionally.

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Some key takeaways from this episode include:

Getting divorced does not mean your marriage was a failure. You two have probably gone through many struggles and triumphs together, and those still count even if you ultimately get divorced.
People have strong opinions about divorce, but the best version of you should feel happy, fulfilled, and supported. Only you can decide if your marriage is not supporting the best version of you and your family, and no one else’s opinion should matter on that.
One of the surprising things that emerged from Liz’s divorce was Hilliard Studio Method. Taking the time to exercise made her feel so much better, so definitely turn to movement to build your physical and emotional strength during a tough season.

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150. Making a Difficult Decision? There’s Joy, Freedom, and Courage on the Other Side

Liz was recently interviewed on a talk show, and a phrase that kept coming up was “finding joy.” When we’re in a difficult situation and making hard decisions, we can get so caught up in the stress and anxiety of it all that we forget to find joy in our lives. In this episode, we’re sharing how we find joy and freedom in difficult times, plus a catch-up on some of our recent travels, celebrity sightings, and more!

We recorded this episode prior to the devastation of Hurricane Helene in the Southeast, especially to our neighbors in WNC. Hilliard Studio Method has been collecting supplies for Operation Airdrop, and we highly encourage you to donate if you can!

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Some key takeaways from this episode include:

You can’t love the people around you to the fullest extent if you’re walking around as a dulled-down version of yourself. Going through divorce or other major life change is always challenging. We’ve learned to aim for freedom, not from others, but within ourselves to be the best version we give to the world.
Before you immediately judge someone, take a beat and consider where they might be coming from, and where your feelings are coming from. What is triggering your fear? Is the other group actually hurting anyone?
Be brave (but polite and respectful, of course!) and if you see a celebrity who you really admire, let them know how they impacted you. It’s easy to get intimidated and starstruck in those moments, but remember they’re a human just like anybody else.

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152. Turning Your Pain Into Purpose While Still Honoring Your Needs with Erin Santos-Primis

In this heartfelt episode, we’re joined by Erin Santos-Primis, founder of the Isabella Santos Foundation, to share her moving journey following her daughter Isabella's stage 4 neuroblastoma diagnosis at just two and a half years old. Erin discusses the challenges of navigating the healthcare system, the emotional toll of pediatric cancer, and the importance of community support and early diagnosis. She also opens up about her personal transformation, balancing life as a single mother, and using her voice to drive systemic change and advocate for personalized care.

Liz is honored to be an emcee with Maggie Gavigan at this year’s ISF luncheon on Tuesday, October 29th at Carmel Country Club 9:00-11:30 am. Please join us at the Mad Hatter’s Tea Party, hosted by the Isabella Santos Foundation to learn more about and support rare pediatric cancer.

Learn more and register for one of the three event dates at https://isabellasantosfoundation.org/brunchclub/.

Some key takeaways from this episode include:

Advocate for yourself and your kids. You never have to accept the first diagnosis, the first treatment plan, or the first option for anything. Get second, third, or fourth opinions and stand firm if your gut is telling you the option presented isn’t good enough.
Turning your pain into purpose is a beautiful thing, but it doesn’t have to become your entire identity. You are not just a mom, a partner, etc., you’re are your own individual person with needs and wants. Make sure you protect your individuality.
There are so many great organizations providing things like gas cards to families navigating cancer treatments, but the Isabella Santos Foundation focuses on funding research and clinical trials to make it so fewer families need those resources to begin with. You can learn more and donate at https://isabellasantosfoundation.org/donate.