Shannon Connery - PACE

05/19/21 • 28 min

In this episode, our guest is Dr. Shannon Connery, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist and the Host of the "Fix Yourself" podcast. She is remarkably passionate about coaching people working with their traumas and spent her career developing the program known as the PACE program. Shannon shares the program's facets with us, her painful life experiences, and the different processes of overcoming a traumatic experience.

[04:55] How did you get into this work?

I was doing my post-doctoral internship when the Columbine shooting incident happened. I suddenly felt the drive and responsibility to help people treat their trauma with the best people in my life of work. I started my career working at that end of the spectrum. I want to learn how to achieve peak performance and try to figure out what led to the tragedy that I experienced.

[08:16] The PACE Program

My ex-husband ended up becoming one of the thousands of people addicted to opiates. One day, I lost everything. I spent my entire year scrambling, where I realized my desire to rebuild what was lost. I took my children to a bouncy castle where, instead of sitting as most parents do, I played together with my children. It dawned on me that I need to start a program because I realized that parents are not having enough pleasure in their life. I came up with four areas that require focusing on.

[11:05] Pleasure; you need pleasure in your life. Like how when you were young, swinging on swings, jumping on jump ropes, or makeup games. You need to add fun to your everyday activities.

[11:33] Accomplishment; you need to figure out what motivates you to up and work. If you work from 9 am to 5 pm, and you don’t enjoy it. Change it. It does not have to be paid, like what house moms do, which is the hardest, but it needs to be fulfilling. Then we have Connection & Exercise, which is self-explanatory.

[12:02] The PACE program was created because many women are focused on two things. One, they focus their creative energy on menial things. It should be focused on things that matter the most. Second, women give away their power. You need to be excited about something and not get angry that people are not providing that excitement for you.

[15:23] Pursuing Change & Pandemic

People should be ready if they want to achieve the change they desire. They need to be prepared to do the work. It’s not my job to create readiness; some people are just in the stage of not doing it anymore.

[16:22] This pandemic is the time where people see who they are without the distractions. This period should be used to create some positive change.

[19:14] Figuring out the Faults

First, we will look at the people who are surrounding you. Do you have enough people in your life? Too many or too little? Are you exhausted? Asking these questions will lead to different outcomes, depending on the answer. If you have too many people in your life, are you bad at setting boundaries? If you don’t have good relationships at all, then the problem is about you. You are the common denominator.

[21:00] If you are surrounded by negative people, you will be drained and exhausted, limiting your ability to do creative and productive work and be a good parent.

[28:23] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

That I lead the people to the water, I take them to their destination to take their fill.

Key Quotes:

07:25 – 07:30 “There were times where I was fine, but I don’t want to be just fine.”

23:38 – 23:46 “The happiest people in the world wake up not to go to work, but for their passion.”

Learn more about Shannon on:

Website: https://www.shannonconnery.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sconneryphd

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[04:55] How did you get into this work?

[08:16] The PACE Program

[11:05] Pleasure; you need pleasure in your life. Like how when you were young, swinging on swings, jumping on jump ropes, or makeup games. You need to add fun to your everyday activities.

[15:23] Pursuing Change & Pandemic

[16:22] This pandemic is the time where people see who they are without the distractions. This period should be used to create some positive change.

[19:14] Figuring out the Faults

[21:00] If you are surrounded by negative people, you will be drained and exhausted, limiting your ability to do creative and productive work and be a good parent.

[28:23] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

That I lead the people to the water, I take them to their destination to take their fill.

Key Quotes:

07:25 – 07:30 “There were times where I was fine, but I don’t want to be just fine.”

23:38 – 23:46 “The happiest people in the world wake up not to go to work, but for their passion.”

Learn more about Shannon on:

Website: https://www.shannonconnery.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sconneryphd

Twitter:

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Chris Naugle - The Money Mentor

Today we have Chris Naugle with us today to tell us why he became the Money Mentor and the top financial adviser there is. Join us as we hear his experiences and secrets to success.

[7:00] Why should people listen to you?

Because I did not start with anything and I failed enough times to find the truth.

[7:34] How did you get in the place where you are?

I grow up with nothing but had a dream. I started out with no money and failed numerous times. I landed in wall street and become top financial adviser while snowboarding and started real estate and my clothing line expanded. I am on the top because I keep on failing. I started studying wealthy people on how they do.

[14:16] You have to change where your money goes first. Where you should put your money first is with mutually owned insurance companies

[22:32] How long did you figure this out?

I got a lot of pushback from financial advisers because I am taking away their income. The reason I do it today because this is all I do and I do it for thousands of people.

[26:50] What promise did God made to the world when he made you?

That I would go out there and show the truth to the world.

Keynote:

[12:40-13:00] “People can change their entire financial future and add one step on their life. “

To learn more about Chris Naugle and his book Mapping out the Millionaire Mystery go to www.ChrisNaugle.com

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Matt Deutschman - Life And Promo Marketing

In this episode, our guest is Matt Deutschman, Founder of Doubletake Promotional Marketing. Armed with the values and open-mindedness imbued to him as a child, Matt is inclined to make an excellent example for his children. His current success and upbringing are the result of his deep passion for preserving filial piety and transparency. Matt shares with us how he leveraged his journalism experience to marketing, how he views the world, and most importantly - the legacy he wanted his children to inherit.

[02:19] Why should we listen to you?

Everything I say comes from the heart. I speak with my mind, and I say what I feel. I am someone you can take from face value.

[03:06] History of Upbringing

It has a lot to do with my parent’s influence. My father ran a family business while my mother was a teacher. Both of them have a strong work ethic, and we had a rapport in our home. We communicate with one another well, and that builds my strong relationship with them. I was cultivated and encouraged to be open and free, leading to my current upbringing.

[05:10] Journalism to Marketing

When I was young, I decided to go into journalism because of my admiration for Peter Jennings on ABC News. I wanted to be like him, and that’s the start of my journey. I was an editor of our school newspaper in high school, then went for a journalism major in college. My father decided to move his factory, and he was looking for assistance. I worked for him for a year, and I did not like what I was doing. I want to engage people, make conversations, meet with people, and not do paperwork in the background.

[07:52] World’s View & Mindset

I’ll be sitting and watching TV with my wife, and during commercial breaks, I make comments about who the target market is. I could tune out the show, but my analytical mind switches whenever I see advertisements if I am in an event or anywhere.

[09:52] In journalism, we ask a lot of questions to people every day. We try to get their perspective on the brand, the product, etc. We have to understand the brand so that we can find ways to resonate with the audience.

[13:09] Life-Lessons & Purpose

If I am a slave for my own company, then what is the purpose of being self-employed? That was the moment where I decided to restructure my company differently and give myself more time and flexibility. I made it my mission to spend time with my family as much as possible.

[17:14] My business’s drive is to create a life where I can devote my time to my family. Any business decisions that I make should align with my guiding purpose. If a business decision will negatively affect my ability to prioritize my family, it is a horrible business decision.

[21:15] Legacy for the Children

I strongly believe in making an example of myself. Loving my wife and showing it to my children. I want my son to grow up someday and be a man who deserves a woman like her and knows how to treat her. I want my daughter to grow eventually with the assurance and confidence to deserve a man like what I try to become. If I put that first, everything else will come into place. It is not about their career choice or their successes, but I want to set an example so they can live with integrity.

[26:01] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

That my children will grow up understanding what it means to be deeply imperfect, live a life with integrity, and do what is right.

Key Quotes:

[14:27 – 14:38] “I am a perfectionist; a control freak, and it is extremely difficult to relinquish my reins to someone else.”

[16:32 – 16:36] “We all have our different strengths, and it is fine if I am not the best in my organization.”

Learn more about Matt and his company on:

Website: https://makethemlooktwice.com/

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