Jonathan Fields - Good Life Project

02/22/22 • 53 min

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In today’s episode, we have invited Jonathan Fields to the show. Jonathan is the Founder/CEO of Spark Endeavors and the lead architect behind the Sparketypes. An arch typing system and set of tools used by over 500,000 people and organizations to identify, nurture, and cultivate work that brings people alive and equips organizations and leaders to more effectively unlocking potential, motivation, impact, and joy. He is also an author and has been featured everywhere from New York Times, Wall Street Journal Fast Company, Inc, The Guardian Vogue, and more. Tune in to this episode; you are going to love it!

[2:39] Why should we listen to you?

Don't listen to me. If I start speaking to you, it's probably going to be to invite you to start listening to yourself, to your heart, to the whisper that lies deep inside of you that you've probably been ignoring for a long time. When I start talking, it's usually to ask questions or make an invitation that doesn't have to do with you listening to me but you tuning into yourself.

[5:01] Navigating people to listen to themselves

We've become so disembodied and not trained to pay attention to what's going on within ourselves because it's an uncomfortable exploration. The bigger thing is not necessarily that there's some deeper trauma, but we're just taught that there is an ideal that we're expected to live into.

[6:55] Nobody ever gave us a process or set of tools that would help us navigate it. So we're left unaware and unequipped. And so we follow the path that seems like it's all laid out for us.

[7:37] Human's desire to be part of a tribe and not be solo

The research around belonging, a very clear, well-defined physiological and psychological need, is one of the primal needs we all have to belong to. Not the avatar of who we project ourselves to be but the actual essence of who we are. We need that to belong. We have this really deep, deep need for people around us to see us, know us, and be accepted. A lot of folks say that it's probably primarily grounded in survival.

[11:06] We as human beings, there's something weird in our brain that says, if we make a statement or take even the tiniest action. This is what I believe where I support this particular thing, we want to be seen, we want to see ourselves, and we want to be perceived as up by others as being consistent with that initial thing. But we want to be seen as consistent within the group or community of people taking similar actions and making similar decisions because we were terrified of being cast out.

[15:37] How would somebody leave that bubble of being that limbo of it's just me, and build into that new kind of group, a new community, new tribe?

It would be cool if we were emotionally equipped to step into the best as the next move, rather than step into the next community. My sense is the way it normally happens is somebody finds a much better-aligned group of people and then rather than stepping into the best of let me figure this out, and then go in search of another group. They don't leave the current group until they find the next one. And in no small part, I sometimes think the reason for that is because they don't realize how poorly aligned they are with a group or community until they see a different group of human beings.

[30:19] Thoughts on how to get a person who is aspiring to something and it needs to be something they can almost do unconsciously

The question for me is, why are they not doing it in the first place? Is it not their vision? Imagine every step, every action you're going to have to take, every hour you're going to have to devote to getting to that place, reverse engineer, and map the whole thing out in detail. Because if you don't, and you can't find a way to want it, and state the end state isn't yours to own, it's better to make peace with that and find an end state that is yours to own. Where you are willing to see all the effort to get there rather than diluting yourself and saying this is the thing that I want, this is the thing that I meant to be, but never actually owning the fact that you will never do the things needed to get to be or accomplish it.

[36:40] Opportunities

My fundamental impulse or effort is to make ideas manifest. I love the process of creation. But part of that is I'm constantly teased by seeing all these different things to create. As part of my work this year in 2022, I'm asking myself, what steps do I need to take? What are the resources that I need to harness? Who are the people that I need to bring into my orbit to allow me to earn myself back to this place of fewer things better? I sort of have the year as like I'm building a plan to map myself back into this place where I get to know that there is the beautiful impact that's being created by the media that we're producing on one company and the tools and assessments that we're producing at ...

[2:39] Why should we listen to you?

[5:01] Navigating people to listen to themselves

[6:55] Nobody ever gave us a process or set of tools that would help us navigate it. So we're left unaware and unequipped. And so we follow the path that seems like it's all laid out for us.

[7:37] Human's desire to be part of a tribe and not be solo

[15:37] How would somebody leave that bubble of being that limbo of it's just me, and build into that new kind of group, a new community, new tribe?

[30:19] Thoughts on how to get a person who is aspiring to something and it needs to be something they can almost do unconsciously

[36:40] Opportunities

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Koya Webb - Get Loved Up

Guesting on this episode is Koya Webb, an internationally recognized yoga teacher, celebrity holistic health coach, author, speaker, and vegan activist. Her core mission is to promote daily self-care, oneness, and eco-friendly living to combat some of the world's biggest challenges, including mental health, social injustices, and global warming. Koya is the founder of "Get Loved Up," an international lifestyle community and Yoga School that inspires mental, spiritual, and physical health through an app, online courses, retreats, in-person yoga teacher training events. Today, she shares with us how Yoga has changed her life.

Why should we listen to you?

[3:24] I'm an empath and a compassionate person. That means I actually can feel like if someone's feeling sad or someone's angry, even if they're not stomping around, and I can pick up specific energy for them.

[4:25] I naturally love people, and if something has happened to you, I love just hearing your background. As a little girl, I naturally cared about people when people were hurting, I'd feel pain, and I feel sadness.

Who is Koya as a Coach?

[6:54] I am a holistic health coach and wellness entrepreneur, holistic health coach. I help people mentally, spiritually, physically, and not just by saying those words. Still, I have tools, courses, and practices that spiritually help people learn meditation and breathwork, physically plant-based nutrition, and working out, whether it be Yoga or fitness or just going for a walk in nature. To live a healthy and active lifestyle, you need all of those aspects and well-being rituals that can help you through any time you're going through it in life. I love developing products that help people live healthy and active lifestyles.

Feeling a Connection in Yoga

[9:49] I got an injury, and I hurt my elbow for my lower back. I was stressed out and depressed. So I went into a yoga class, and it was when the teacher guided me to my breath that's when I felt alignment with spirit. When I got in this class and felt this full-body chill when I breathed, it felt like the Holy Spirit. And honestly, now, that's where I find my connection.

[13:41] Yoga taught me to rest, relax, recover, and how important my health was. The injury taught me that I can't run myself into the ground and still expect to be 100%. But I didn't learn right away. I would move to California and got a coach to coach me, and I went right back into hardcore, personal training because that's what I decided to do. I was stressed out. I was jumping, and I got injured again. After the second injury, I decided to go back to Yoga. It healed me again. But the second time, I said, "everyone should have this gift in their life."

How Personal Training has helped Koya

[18:41] It helped me out so much because I understand the body and how it works and the science behind losing weight, gaining weight, and how that part of the physical part of it. I learned about bodies by spending time with people and noticing I worked at 24 Hour Fitness. So it wasn't just a specific type of body that I was handling; I work with many different kinds of bodies, men and women of all different sizes. I had to get creative. I had to listen to people. I had to learn what was going to work for their body. I hadn't had to learn how to keep them safe, how to diagnose injuries, and keep people safe. For me, it was really about a healthy lifestyle.

Creating a Balanced Lifestyle

[21:52] Everyone loves the fact that they can eat whatever they want. So that's the biggest thing that I get pushback on. What I do now is figuring out how you can have what you like in a balanced way and achieve the goals you want. When it comes to spirituality, I try to connect you and align with your lifestyle and purpose, no matter what you're doing. As a holistic health coach, it is bringing those things together and seeing how you can create an optimal lifestyle for yourself. You don't have to be perfect. You can still eat some, but if you're eating junk foods every day, you might not achieve that goal you set out for yourself.

Koya's Biggest Challenge

[27:11] I think my biggest battle was codependency and over-giving and over-loving people. There is a balance in giving or serving others, and you cannot love others to the detriment of yourself.

[31:02] If you're a lover and a giver, and you don't set boundaries for yourself, you will find yourself running all over the place. Anytime someone calls you, you're there. If someone asked me for something, to get something to help with something, you could depend on me to do it. I was a woman of my word, and I will sacrifice myself. So I literally would give to a fall, and it had to create some balance. So set some boundaries for yourself. Have something that you're regularly doing. And now and then, you can push the limits for someone else. But check ...

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Anthony O'Neal - Mental and Money Freedom

In today’s episode, our guest is Anthony O’Neil. He is the national bestselling author of The Graduate Survival Guide: 5 Mistakes You Can’t Afford to Make in College and travels the country spreading his encouraging message to help teens and young adults transition into the real world. He is also a financial expert and a host of a new podcast called The Table.

[8:32] Why should we listen to you?

I grew up with four parents. I have two biological parents and two step-parents who raised and loved me just as much as my biological parents. I come from a life perspective, not as an expert nor preacher when I talk to you. I’m going to come from a real relevant and relatable perspective.

[11:08] Where did you get the skills you work with?

It took me a long time to figure it out. It was when my truck started traveling around the world. Then I started teaching young people how to go to school without racking up student loan debt. And then my mentor Dave Ramsey recruited me.

[12:18] Do you find that sometimes it takes an extra level to be confident and teach someone?

I think it’s where I tend to attract and where I tend to go. This generation is looking for authentic, relatable, and relevant content. I just got to force myself into that world into their culture. And once they understand what I’m saying, then that’s it.

[13:21] What have been some of the most impactful groups or organizations that you’ve talked to?

I had the opportunity to speak for NFL and NBA teams and go in there to help out with their rookies every year. I sit down with these rookies and mentor them. When I sit down with him, I say things that he needs to do.

[16:16] How do I get people out into financial freedom to have freedom of life?

You got to have a why and if your why doesn’t make you cry, then the price of commitment, the cost to accomplish the goals and dreams that you want, will make you cry. It starts with the internal why. When your why makes you cry, then the price of commitment won’t make you cry, and you will push through anything and accomplish everything you desire.

[18:44] How does somebody get out of debt?

Stop borrowing money. If you want to get out of debt, stop racking up debt, bottom line. I had to be patient and not worry about trying to blend in with the world. Use the Debt Snowball method; when you’re paying off all your debt, on all your debt from smallest to largest, make all your minimum payments. But then when you’re getting your extra income, and if you do a budget, and you cut out some additional expenses, all that extra income, you’re going to put it on the very first one, why are you making your minimum payments on the others.

[20:46] When you get done with the first one, take all of that money and put it on the second one. It’s an efficient way to get out of debt. And when you do this debt snowball method, it’s all about momentum. It’s not about math. It’s not about getting creative knows about when you see yourself paying off the first one, get to the second one, get to the third one. You saw your future change, and you keep moving.

[21:47] What kind of indirect message passes the question of why they should go and start doing something?

I’m always trying to go back to myself and teach from within myself. When you start avoiding debt, make sure you have an emergency fund. Once you have that emergency fund, take advantage of all the Roth plans out there. Be creative. Go out there and buy your plot of land and just let it sit there put it into the trust for your kids down the road.

[25:27] What should be the amount of money for an emergency fund?

If you’re in a stable situation, three months of your average expenses. The bare minimum that I teach is three to six months of your expenses if you’re in a commission-based job. It all depends on your situation.

[29:09] What promise did God make to the world when He created you?

You can get an authentic, relevant, and relatable conversation. You’re not going to have an expert. You’re going to have a person who is a student first and foremost, who loves God and who’s going to be genuine, and who genuinely wants to see you win.

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